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On the Green Table - Kenne Grégoire , 2024.

Dutch ,b. 1951 -

You're constantly isolated and ostracized. Even when you're not being actively bullied, you're still alone and have no idea how to fix that. You ask for advice and not only does nothing work, but their advice shows that they're not even close to understanding you at all. They tell you to "talk to people", which is about as helpful as telling someone who struggles in math to "write numbers". They tell you to "be yourself" despite never giving you a chance to figure out what that even means and despite punishing you anytime you were even close to being yourself. When you're constantly lonely and missing out, people are nonchalant about it. But when you take a guess at how to interact with people and you end up bothering them, people who were nonchalant before do everything they can to get you to stop. They don't care about helping you figure out how to interact with people the right way. They only care about stopping you from being an inconvenience to others. They'd prefer if you just made yourself invisible. You then stumble upon the manosphere, including pickup artists. You finally feel like someone understands you, because they acknowledge how difficult socializing is and how much cruelty you've suffered. So you trust them. They teach you to channel your anger toward women and blame them for your struggles. They teach you how to manipulate women instead of how to understand women. You attempt to follow their tricks to the best of your ability. You end up being sexist toward women, which turns them off even more. Now, even those who would have liked you before see you as dangerous, and those who always saw you as a creep now have a good reason to. But you still have no idea what you're doing wrong. And even if you realize that what you're doing isn't working, you won't know what to do instead.