The ruling on marriage for men differs according to their situations and circumstances. Marriage is obligatory on the man who is able to marry and longs to get married, and fears “hardship” otherwise, because it is obligatory for him to protect himself from doing haraam deeds and to keep himself chaste – and this can only be achieved through marriage.

Al-Qurtubi said: if a person is able to marry and fears that he may be harmed or his religious commitment may be adversely affected if he remains single, the only way to prevent this harm is through marriage, and there is no difference of opinion among the scholars – they agree that marriage is obligatory on such a person.

Ibn Mas’ood said: If I only had ten days to live and I knew that I would die at the end of them, and I had any desire to get married, I would get married, for fear of fitnah (temptation).

In any case, Islam urges people to get married and considers marriage to be one of the ways of the Messengers; it is forbidden to forego getting married even if the intention is to devote oneself to worship. “There is no monasticism in Islam.”

Patience in human love can translate into: “I love you for who you are, and even more for the person you have the potential to be, and for this reason I want to stay by your side and help you reach the best version of yourself.”

What’s beautiful about patient love is that it only gets stronger as time goes on. It’s a beautiful correlation. It’s like incense, the more it burns, the more fragrant it becomes.

Patient love means loving the seed even before it becomes the tree. It is only right that the patient gardener is given the fruits of the tree, they deserve they very best of it. They constantly watered and took care of it even when the seed was out of sight in the ground.

“you’re my best friend, now i’ve got no one to tell i’ve lost my best friend.”

How many slips into sin I have made, yet You are, towards me, full of bounty and favour.

يَظُنّ النَّاسُ بي خَيرًا وإِنِّي لشَرُ النَّاسِ إنْ لمْ تَعفُ عنِّي.

الليل طويل وروحي تتألم

The night is long and my soul is in pain,

وثقل ذنوبي لا يدعني أنام

"One of the biggest mistakes is to trust people too easily or befriend just anyone. This is because the worst enemies can sometimes be those who were once your close friends they know your secrets and how to hurt you the most."

He then quoted a poet:

"Be careful of your enemy once, but be careful of your friend a thousand times. A friend can turn against you and if he does, he knows exactly how to harm you."