why does nobody talk about Jiminās love for Jungkook?
Because I legit donāt think itās enough to say heās like that with everyone!
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Hi anonā¤ļøthank you for giving me the opportunity to discuss something that maybe often stays between the lines.
Before we start I wanna say that if you stick around in the right spaces youāll find a lot of beautiful people who have often talked about Jiminās love, and who recognize him for who he is especially on that level. Splendid blogs like heartofbusan, chikoorita and kanmom are coming to my mind faster now, but there are just many many others that my brain canāt recall now.
With that being said, I get your frustration. Jungkookās love language is probably discussed more or, at least, in a more analytical way, for a lot of reasons. This is just my opinion as usual, but the main thing coming to my mind is that Jungkook has a huge bunch of expectations on him constantly weighing, and that shows in his dynamic with the main partners of the biggest ships heās part of: taekook and jikook.
Itās him that people put the whole thingās responsibility on, most of the time. More widely Iāve always felt like it is also influenced by Jungkookās amazing ability to express love through his entire system, not only gestures or words but also small details, eyes, body. Like a whole energy. A lovely vibe when heās around someone he, infact, loves.
Thatās another reason why people both expect him to always act that way - because they see him as emotionally available, and expect him to always be and to portray THEIR own feelings like a doll - and why itās talked about more. He has an unique way of loving.
In some Jikookersā spaces Iāve also noticed that heās often portrayed as the dominant, the protector, the possessive, the jealous, and so the one that automatically leads and either confirms or denies any truth behind the ship. To the point that Iāve come across people denying him ANY OTHER feature, like he can only be an alpha wolf, and Iām like what are you onšheās a muscle puppyšhe loves being the small spoonš
In the end I think what we can agree on is that Jimin and Jungkook actually have two different ways of exposing their love language to US. With Jungkook, I assume itās some sort of uncontrollable urge, an unstoppable feeling that sometimes slips out even against his own will or awareness, like when he mentions Jimin 15 times in 30 seconds, or touches and touches and touches, or when he spaces out and stares at him.
But itās also their personalities that play a role here. Heās probably overall less affected by peopleās speculations on his relationship with Jimin specifically, heās ironically considered the āfirst shipperā for a reason. He often looks and looked like he was on a mission to make his bond with Jimin undeniably romantic or, at least, different from the rest.
If this is the case, then it could just be a different way of reacting to the situation theyāre in. Jimin tends to compose - or should I say used to? - and contain, reformulate. Jungkook goes at full speed, full gas, sometimes with intention sometimes not. For both of them Iām sure the priority is safety and happiness, but maybe for a long time theyāve channeled that differently, so where Jimin was protecting their privacy and deniability, Jungkook was protecting their space making it larger and larger in the world. They both had each other as a priority, just with different strategies.
And Iām glad they differentiate on this aspect, because they gave balance to one another. Jimin relaxed Jungkookās fire when he felt pain and rage for a world that wasnāt welcoming to their love, while Jungkook helped Jimin not losing that rage entirely because it was what, in the end, wouldāve led them to be more free and happy in the open.
That shows very well in AYS1 when Jungkookās rambling about something like the word ānormalā or whatās considered normal in the world, and Jimin goes like ādonāt get mad, thatās how things goā. Iāve always perceived their bond as a back and forth of this that helped them survive so long.
And again, thatās also on personality. They have both suffered because of the public violence and lack of empathy, but Iāve mentioned before how differently it affected Jimin and why he has every right to behave the way he does and choose control over trust when it comes to the things he cares for that the public would gladly destroy.
ALL of this does not mean that Jimin doesnāt feel, or feels less, or shows less to an extent, and itās what hurts me the most about this situation. People tend to percieve Jikook and ships more in general from their own perspective thatās often romanticized. Maybe that has happened in this space as well, but every time Iāve read a post back before posting it Iāve aways thought it was not neglecting anyone involved, and I wanna keep trusting myself on that.
Romaticizing can also mean expecting that every interaction is cuteness over the roof, and that every eye contact should cut deep, and that every mention should come with big smiles and red cheeks. Now I know Jikook have SPOILED us, but oftentimes Iāve noticed people mistaking a very normal behavior from Jimin - like walking with Jungkook or talking to him - as a proof that heās less invested.
Wrong. Completely wrong and childish. And itās tied to the huge misconception about the whole āJimin fell faster Jungkook fell harderā bullshit where I always say JUST BECAUSE IT RHYMES DOESNāT MEAN ITāS RIGHT.
If you look closely at Jiminās story and his journey in BTS, with Jungkook specifically, youāll see that love changed him. It saved him. Iāve already said that I donāt perceive him as a fragile weak being but that as a human he also has every right to ask for help, or need it, or live more vulnerable phases. And I also think that we are made to connect and evolve through connections. No human can do it alone.
Of course with this Iām saying that Jungkookās love helped him, and kept him sane at times, and gave him a new and more loving perspective on himself - his flaws, his personality, his way of being - more than any fame, money or fan project couldāve done; but Iām also saying that loving Jungkook was a huge healing gift as well.
I could spend all day comparing his love language to Jungkookās, but that wouldnāt be fair. It would set a standard, a specific goal he goes further from or gets closer to, as if his way of taking care and loving is not enough on its own.
He has it in him. He cares, takes care, listens to. With Jungkook, everything started from a genuine and loving friendship, he took is role of hyung very seriously, and made sure that the people around him always did the same, and when they didnāt he worked for two, and three, and ten, stepped in and made sure Jungkook wss not lonely. I canāt know for sure whether Jimin immediately knew his attention towards Jungkook was different or not, but Iām sure it all started spontaneously and happened before he could realize it, because his feelings mixed with his naturally generous personality.
His love at first, at least to me, looked like something he, infact, couldnāt control. Both because it blended with a sense of ādutyā towards a maknae, and because the strongest types of relationships are born from an āI didnāt immediately understand I was falling in love. I realized it when it had already happenedā. Thatās probably what went on for Jimin too. One day youāre trying to force yourself into thinking these dates you wanna go on, and these hands you wanna hold, and these trips you wanna have are all part of a dreamy friendship that this cute guy evokes in you; the next day youāre in love and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.
Thatās why I often say Jimin wasnāt born controlled and scared of openness, he had to shape himself into that. A lot of people could say he was just young and more honest, naive, but the shift from so blatant to āmatureā happened way too fast for it to be simply justified with growing up. Jiminās love was the loudest, the clearest, the most romantic, present, unconditional and pure. The fact that the way it was presented to US shifted doesnāt mean it changed inside of him, at all.
I think we all remember the first moments, right? I wanna hold hands with Jungkook, I wanna go by the sea with him, I wanna go on a date with him, I wanna kiss him. They were jokes, most of them were shown as such, but they held a true sentiment that Jimin was truly dealing with, and the fact that he couldnāt control it yet explains exactly why we got footage of it.
Side note, I know itās obvious, but I always get an incredibly tight feeling in my stomach when I think of debut Jimin and the way he loved Jungkook so openly while probably being confused about it himself. He knew he loved him, he knew he cared for that guy, but Iām sure the intensity of it all often left him like ā?ā. And being a teenager, becoming an idol, while dealing with your identity, self worth, self esteem, body and mind while also getting absolutely struck by your bandmate is not an easy position to be in.
This applies even if Jimin and Jungkook have never been romantically involved, at one point. What Iām saying itās still true because Jiminās love for Jungkook was clearly, and obviously, special, different, something that left him in shock, saying āwhy do I think of you so much?ā, āwhy do I like you so much?ā, ādo you mind this?ā. To the point that Taehyung thought Jiminās attraction towards Jungkook was an indicator of his queerness. āI think he kinda likes menā was not said randomly: it was said after Jimin expressed feeling charmed by Jungkookās cuteness.
If Taehyung thought it, and felt it, and all the members at one point went like āare you dating? are you a couple?ā, then imagine how much Jimin himself went through it. We can only imagine how many times he thought of his love for Jungkook and went : āwhy is this guy so precious to me? what if I kinda like men?ā. Still a very delicate situation for a rising teenage star.
Anyways. The first times were cute and special and itās a glimpse of what Jimin truly felt before the world led him to calm down and give some private layers to it. Which leads me to a second thought: if Jiminās considered so reserved and caring about his privacy, isnāt the way he never completely hid his sentiment towards Jungkook a demonstration of love itself?
I wonāt go too deep into it because itās just not my sorrow. A closeted relationship in that industry is something I can only empathize with, but Iāll never be able to fully analyze or predict any kind of behavior or choice in that situation. Jimin specifically has a way of loving that sometimes still slips out of his control, because heās probably too focused on controlling it that the body language or some words show it anyways; or maybe because heās so comfortable in that moment that he doesnāt mind, and lets it all out. The last example for this that comes to my mind is their last couple liveš. He was in his best mood.
With this I mean to say that itās hard for me to know the how when and why of it all, especially when it comes to Jiminās way of showing his love for Jungkook to us, because sometimes itās quiet, like clearly quiet and private, has nothing to do with us and stays in the tenderness of their shared life out of the public eye. But sometimes itās so there, itās so right there, and itās just undeniable and sweet. Itās intense, and touching, not theatrical. Itās Jimin.
The way his love bleeds into the details is astonishing. You know that when he says and does something he means it, and means it for real, and itās soā¦ embracing. I always recall AYS1 first because good, lord. That man was tired, and yes being with Jungkook makes him feel safe, happy, giggly. But he had just recorded two albums and fully promoted one, his first full solo projects after years with the band and before enlisting. That same enlistment he was so rejecting of.
Something huge like the companion system was gonna happen in a few months. It was gonna be on everyoneās mouth and he knew that. The first idols to ever do that since the system has been introduced (crazy, just crazy, I donāt get how people ever moved on from that). And cherry on top, now they were recording a fully exclusive show, just the two of them, with cameras everywhere, staff around, not knowing how people were gonna get it or percieve it especially in the bigger scheme of things where buddy system+show=eyebrow raise. āWhy are these two so obviously close now?ā
The show was also a way to connect with Jungkook again, to do something with him that would give them their shared quality time back, that would tell Jungkook āhey, I love you, Iām gonna fly 14 hours just to reach you during your promotions, out of my comfort zone, with everyoneās eyes on us, so we can enjoy each otherā. He flew there, for Jungkook, and for their bond that he loves, and they had a fucking private date in Antoya. One time with staff, one time without.
IāM IN SHAMBLES. THROWING UP. CONVULSINGGGGG
This goes back to what I was saying before. Jimin stepped out of his comfort zone for love, and not because Jungkook gave him ultimatums, or forced him to, but because he genuinely wanted to. Just like he wanted to tell stories about Jungkook, saying he visits his hotel room, that it felt like a drama to run with him while listening to music; just like he always, always made sure that Jungkook was happy, satisfied, and knew the activities he would like to do and made sure he did them, and made sure he had the food and the drinks he craved, as many as he wanted.
Jiminās love is being there, giving the priority to the other even when itās hard, itās challenging, itās what most people would dismiss. And even when it means touching his fears and triggers, like his heart and privacy being talked about and speculated on. Because Jimin always, always wanted to travel with Jungkook, and AYS was a dream come true for his younger self; but their relationship has been through it because of fans, if we can call them such. Jimin is aware of that. For someone like him, to still choose exposureā¦ thatās love. And thatās the same love that heals him: loving Jungkook always brought out the best parts of himself, the part that chooses happiness, and thatās confident in it, and that knows he deserves it.
Thatās his soulmate. Iām not kidding, Iām not exaggerating, Iām not trying to be spiritual, unrational, romantic. Thatās the closest word to what they have going on and to describe it and closest doesnāt mean perfectly right. Their bond itās undefinable anyways.
Because itās Jiminās strength that got him out of dark places, and itās his resilience that made him survive, and itās his ability to always see the good in the world that led him to beautiful things; but Jungkookās love, and loving him back, was his safety net. The place he knew he could go back to at the end of the day, after disappointment, anger, sadness or joy happened. Thatās the place he knew he could be himself in, and be accepted, and accept back, and where he could stop pretending, or hating, or criticizing parts of himself that were just meant to be recognized and loved.
Jimin loves Jungkook so much that he let go, for him. He let go of everything that couldāve held him back, that couldāve made him scared of risking and going in, going for it. He let go of literal monsters to love and let himself be loved. And I know that everyone on here who has been through true love, and has experienced that kind of connection, knows how powerful it can be when itās real, and itās gentle.
At the end of the day Jungkookās actions and eyes say way more on who Jimin is than on Jungkookās love itself. Heās looking at him like that also because Jimin fuels him, and is there for him, and is caring, and understanding, and evolves so that their relationship can too. Jungkook also loves Jimin because he recognizes in him the same feeling and intensity he feels, just in different ways and styles.
Jimin loves by choosing, with commitment and loyalty, and by giving space, and time, and respect, and he loves Jungkook by never telling him to step back or behave better, say less, draw less attention to their relationship. He lets Jungkook be.
And mostly, I think Iāll never be able to highlight this enough: Jiminās love is stable and unconditional.
Itās stable because itās real, itās rooted deep, and itās protective. Jimin wonāt stand anyone assuming Jungkook is a bad person, or disrespecting him in general. He wonāt accept people taking advantage of him, or Jungkook getting too tired, not taking care of himself. When I look at Jimin Iām like āheās there, heās in it, and heās not movingā. He will make sure that Jungkook is fed, and respected, and will call him baby, honey, darling, and will always, always make sure that heās HAPPY. Not okay, not holding on, not fine. Happy.
That man is jealous AF and itās not even that subtle. God forbid someone says Jungkook marry me, god forbid someone gets too touchy, god forbid someone shows too much interest and attraction towards Jungkook: Jiminās love is also about making sure that whatās not been publicly claimed yet, still stays safe in his hands. āYou made someone fall for you againā THAT MAN GOES THROUGH IT EVERYTIME BOBA EYES PUPPY STEPS OUT OF THE HOUSE.
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This was Jimin trying to convince Jungkook to go on a trip together again. Trying to make it fit between schedules, just a few days, as long as they could be together somewhere in the world. Not only he loves spending time with Jungkook, and loves him to a point where he will always show him interest and exclusivity, but heās literally locking him down. This is peak āyouāre mineā energy, be with me and travel with me and donāt complain about it
Stable. Consistent throughout the years. He doesnāt play about Jungkook, even through ups and downs. Heās IN IT and Jungkook can fucking count on it. On him. No doubts.
And then itās unconditional, because it reached a stage where Jimin feels happy enough just by loving him and sharing that feeling with him, even if it happened to not be mutual. I talked about it in detail in this post, it all sparked from Jimin saying these words in AYS2:
āYou know, earning and saving up money, and going on a trip, I think itās a big part of life. Of course weāre not living our life only for this, but trips like this make me think for a moment āoh, this is why I liveā. Itād be nice if he and I can share this feeling: if not, I just hope he gets to feel this tooā.
In that post I completely agreed with you, anon, when you say itās not just about him being like that with everyone. Itās so weird to quote myself OH MY GOOD LORD but anyways. Skip this cursive part if you want to.
Yāallā¦ this canāt be reduced to āJimin is a good personā, āJimin is humanā, āJimin is kindheartedā. Heās all of those things and more, but to say that youāre willing to see the other live fully even if not with you and because of you, when you, on your side, feel more alive exactly when youāre with them, itās not simple and natural empathy. Our hearts and minds are wired for connection, they look for signs that weāre not falling in a huge black hole when weāre loving.
You train this mindset. You train it by loving more and more, by feeling it, by knowing the other so well and appreciating them so much that you just canāt help but wish them well even without you. Jimin is saying if itās not with me, because for a series of reasons weāre not on the same emotional page, or because we grow apart, or because this deep connection between us happens to glitch, well, if I happen to not be the one he feels alive with, then at least I hope he feels it. Even if not with me. Even if with someone else. I just hope he feels it too.
This is love. Jimin would rather step away, look from afar, resign, then seeing Jungkook unhappy. Jimin would wish Jungkook peace and happiness even if their chapters split, if this lifetime happened to be the wrong one, yes that same lifetime that felt like the perfect one at the perfect time. He would rather accept that heās not the one who makes Jungkook want to live more, then seeing him not feeling such joy. Jimin would love Jungkook even if he didnāt love him back. And thatās unconditional, uninterested, pure love.
And I hope we havenāt forgotten about THE WATCH GATE. Yes, roll your eyes. Yes, call me crazy. But going live on Jungkookās birthday wearing that FANCY ASS watch, perfectly FUNCTIONING, the watch he wears the most, that coincidentally ON JUNGKOOKāS BIRTHDAY signed Jungkookās birth time will never not be mentioned in this household. If you know you know.
He was at a Dior event before that live, and he was wearing another watch there. So he came back home, for some reason put another watch on - that was COINCIDENTALLY the one released on Jungkookās birth year - and doesnāt realize itās signing 3 AM at freaking 8pm. Wow. Makes sense. MAKES PERFECT SENSE. WHY THE FUCK YOU WEARING IT THEN- *gunshot*
Hereās the watch gate post if you wanna get deeper in the lore āŗļøāŗļøāŗļøāŗļøāŗļøāŗļøāŗļø
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All of this, I guess, to say that this man is just the most precious human and lover we could get to know about and Iām speechless about it. He is the sweetest and wisest romantic. The author of āLetterā, after all. Thanking someone who helped him when none else did, who protected him, who held his hand, someone he hopes never changes and stays, just stays forever. That song is probably the closest glimpse weāve got so far on Jiminās way of loving and being devoted. Iām crying so I might just go read the lyrics again while Iām at it.
Letās collectively stop saying that he āhidesā his love, or that heās constantly restraining, because itās not true. Jimin does as much as he can under this sun and even MORE for the sake of what and who he loves.
Yes, a brat at times, and definitely a strong person with a lot ot charisma and personality. Not easy to handle. But also a child, when it comes to Jungkook. A brave one, who didnāt step back when things felt scary back in the day, falling in love and on his own.
A kid collecting heart shaped rocks and flowers for his best friend in the entire world.
