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This is a post for necromancers and if you have cast off the shackles of mortality then you can’t still call yourself a necromancer. Undead and necromancer are mutually exclusive identities and if you are a lich you need to make your own community with vampires lords etc. and leave us the hell alone.

People that don’t accept death domain clerics as a valid identification really need to do some soul searching.  I’ve got my own souls to purge, thank you very much.  uwu  I also support liches, you’re all beautiful in your own way.

- Sometimes, you are a burden.

- Sometimes, you are a bad person.

- Sometimes, you overreact.

- Sometimes, your reactions are not justified or valid.

- Sometimes, your best is not enough.

- Sometimes, just trying isn’t enough,

- Sometimes, you really are annoying your friends by expecting them to just be okay with you—as an example—texting them 40 times in an hour and having a meltdown if they don’t respond.

- Sometimes, an apology is not enough.

- Sometimes, you are too clingy and it drives people away or annoys the shit out of them.

- Sometimes, your behavior does drive people away, and it’s not their fault.

- Sometimes, your behavior will damage a relationship so much that the other person is very right in choosing to walk away.

- Sometimes, a relationship will fail and it will be primarily your fault.

- Sometimes, you will do or say something unforgivable that you can’t fix. Nobody is obliged to forgive you, even if you sincerely apologize.

- Sometimes, you’re going to be straight up ugly and unpleasant to be around.

- Sometimes, you’re going to do manipulative shit, and probably get called out on it. 

- Sometimes, your behaviors will be disruptive and socially inappropriate. No, it doesn’t matter if you fell that you ‘need’ to do them; your needs do not make those behaviors any less disruptive or socially inappropriate, and nobody is obliged to tolerate them.

- Sometimes, your behaviors will be disruptive enough that they upset, trigger, or make someone else extremely uncomfortable. That is never the other person’s fault, it’s always yours.

Nobody is obligated to tolerate your flaws or your bad behaviors, even if you are mentally or chronically ill.

You do not get a pass on poor behavior because of illness.

While your illness or disorder may explain why you acted/reacted the way you did, it does not ever, for any reason, excuse your behavior.

If people choose to stick around, that’s perfectly all right.

If people choose to walk away because they can’t handle your behaviors or your behaviors drag their mental or physical health down, that is also 100% okay.

You are not a magical, perfect, angelic, smol bean unicorn that is never a burden and will never completely fuckup a relationship.

You’re a person, and you’re going to make mistakes, you’re going to ruin relationships, you’re going to annoy people, and you’re not always going to be angelic and cute.

Part of being an adult is being able to take responsibility for your actions and words, even when it’s hard, even when it’s unpleasant, even when it’s an unfixable situation and the relationship is ruined because of what you said or did, and even when it means you have to admit that you were wrong or reacted/acted badly.

And before some idiot comes in with that, “We can’t all be neurotypical, Karen” bullshit I have professional diagnoses of:

- Autism.

- Bipolar II.

- ADHD.

- Anxiety disorder, with the focus on social anxiety.

All four things can cause me to do any of the things listed above and when I behave poorly toward my friends, it is not excusable simply because I’m mentally ill and neurodivergent or whatever the latest buzzword is, so you can have several seats and a bench.

@ash-mun

Anne Tyler (via quotemadness)

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