Mindnastics

What decides how confident we are?

Some might say being prepared for the task at hand. Others will say it’s a state of mind.

I have a love-hate relationship with confident people. Or how I like to call them, “over confident”. Why? because of how I judge them.  

Judgement! That’s the problem here! I judge them, so I think they will judge me. Yes, some people think they are better at a task than others, and It bothers us. For some

hysterical reason we want validation. Yes, we all want that job, and we all want to impress, but guess what? Second guessing your self is not working for you.  Instead of wasting our time being bothered by other peoples confidence, instead of wasting your energy begging for validation, STOP and learn from it. All that confident people do is believe in them selves. So much that they convince many and get what they want. 

It’s how we judge our self that makes the difference. Built your confidence by believing and giving yourself the opportunity to be great. Remember to prepare for the task. That never hurts. It’s your choice. 

No big deal.

Emotions are caused by thoughts. Thoughts are caused by how we see circumstances, but what if we interpreted what we see differently. Couldn’t we change our thoughts?

 When someone breaks up with u, recovering is very hard. In a day like today, you might feel like talking to him. Maybe text him.  You want him to miss you. Deep down all you want is for  him to beg you for forgiveness and get back together. So, should you text him so he remembers you? Maybe it will light up the flame..

  Well..It depends on what you want for yourself.  What do u want out of love? I want someone that is madly in love with me  and protects my heart. Some one that is there  to support me and laugh with me.  I don’t need someone who needs to be reminded about me. Not someone that I have to beg for love and attention.

  If he loves you, he will contact you. Willing to do what ever it takes to make you happy.  He doesn’t need reminders. And besides, imagine how bad you will feel if he never replies or replies with something that will break your heart again.

Closure

We learn something from every past relationship. My last break was tough. I cried, didn’t eat, talked to a lot of people and tried to break down the reasons why the relationship ended.

Why doesn’t he love me anymore? If he loves me, why did he break up with me? Why wont’ he want to be with me? Why does he want to be alone? What did I do wrong? Is there someone else? Is there something wrong with me? Did he lie to me? Is he making excuses? Is he being honest? Does this mean that we will never be back together? What?

WE DEMAND ANSWERS!

Answers that might never come… Guess what? I have the answer. The answer is: He doesn’t want to be with you.

Knowing why is not going to make a difference. Is not going to bring him back or make you feel any better. There is nothing to be fixed. When something didn’t work is because one person didn’t care enough to make it work.