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Any tips at all would be great, but here are some areas I have been asked about:

- how to become financially self-sufficient

- when to cut contact

- how to cut contact with abusive parents without cutting contact with the entire family

- cutting contact when you have siblings at home who depend on you

- how to get support from the people who love you during the first stages of cutting contact

- self care when you cut contact

- how to keep your parents from stalking you

- how to inform employers in case of parental stalking

- what to say, what communication method to use

My tips in order are:

1. Sneakily gain independence by getting help from friends. Learn to drive from your friends, stash stuff with your friends, let your friends hide you and help you with money etc. once you are free you can pay back their kindness but anytime someone is offering to help you, take it but only if you trust them. I accepted help from someone who ended up abusing me in a different way and then I had two situations to escape. 🙃

2. Independence gained? Ok start moving your shit out. If you think they will escalate their behavior you will have to sacrifice. Move out the things that mean the most to you in sneaky ways. Pets, money, treasured items, etc. stash them with a friend or at your new place if you have one. Never ever ever ever give them your address no matter what. Slowly move out as much stuff as you can without attracting attention. Then while they are at work or asleep or whatever leave and don’t go back. This means leaving some of your stuff behind. It’s ok, it’s just stuff. You’ll be able to replace it.

3. Get as far away as you can. At least a different city ASAP. Inform coworkers, neighbors, and new friends that you have a stalker because it’s likely your parent will try to find you. File a restraining order/order of protection as soon as possible. Keep a log of any and all contact they try to make just in case.

4. There’s a reddit group for people recovering from narcissist abuse that has tips on staying safe from stalkers. Google everything you can. Use those tips to stay safe.

5. Don’t visit or communicate with family for a while because they might be used by the abuser to try and track you down.

6. Delete your social media and start fresh. Change your email and phone number. Only have private profiles.

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