Ways men opt out of housework and childcare by âhelping outâ
take on weekly or monthly tasks, and think itâs equal to their wives daily tasks (even when wives also have weekly and monthly tasks)
take on tasks that require very little time or hard labor, like mowing the lawn.
take on a âprojectâ that could be fixed by a professional, and work on it little by little but never really finish
create chores for their children, i.e. delegate rather than doing
do housework only in tandem, i.e. never on their own or without help.
volunteer on their own for some disliked task. For example, cleaning the toilets without asking. unfortunately, this tends to be seen as very loving and exceptional. Often it will be used as an excuse not to do anything else
enthusiastically volunteer to do things often, then conveniently âforgetâ, âmake plansâ, or have some sort of weird parameter to get started. When wife or child does it instead, claim they were going to do it, really!
pick a jurisdiction they already enjoy, like âtake care of dogâ or âthe yardâ
do something really badly, so that someone else has to do it for them anyway afterwards
âtidy upâ a mess they made
pick up or organize clutter, however the often stressful, emotional, and time consuming task of de-cluttering is left undone or for someone else
meticulous keep clean a space that is only theirs, i.e. their study, their garage.
create tasks that arenât needed, like âorganize the toolboxâ or ârearrange the bookshelfâ
do tasks that require prep work that their wives will do for them (i.e. grilling the food, but not planning, purchasing, seasoning or preparing the sides)
take control of âfinancesâ but do very little, perhaps the taxes. this is also used as a way to control their wives often
use their time with their children to play or dole out discipline/lessons, but very little time on feeding/bathing/dressing or organizing their lives. this is also away men can create a âfun parent/mean parentâ dynamic
make lists of what needs to get done, discuss what needs to get done with their wives, act very invested in the housework, take on a âmanagerâ role in the housework, but do very little of it
tell wives that what little is done in the house, by either of them, is âenoughâ and that he âdoesnât careâ what the house looks like (this is a l i e). i.e. doing little and then making an emotional appeal that itâs fine, co-opting the emotional labor his wife does for him, but actually itâs very manipulative
getting involved with childrenâs after school activities, i.e. being a coach, organizing a concert, etc. often a thing he already enjoys. often does very little of the organizing/plan making. often makes little effort to create time for his wifeâs personal interests
pay attention to your fathers, brothers, uncles, grandfathers, boyfriends, husbands actions. youâll start to see these constantlyÂ
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