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In the author’s experience, the 1-2-3 fingers ‘preparation’ thing that we all know and love (and happens in 99% of fics) isn’t done by gay men. It’s important to be relaxed and go slow, then take a minute to adjust - but the idea of ‘stretching’ with fingers isn’t recognised. (According to the author. There’s some fighting in the comments. He adds that written fingering is hot - it shouldn’t be wiped from fanfiction by any means - but it should instead be embraced as a pleasurable sex act of its own, rather than a mandatory stage of all anal sex ever.) 

Anal sex without preparation and lube isn’t actually going to cripple you. It’s commonly done, especially by long term partners, and frankly it can be part of the appeal.

I’m so guilty of this. I’m sorry, End Game Myc, I didn’t know. Continuing sex after the bottom has come is generally very unpleasant and uncomfortable. It’s also seen as bad etiquette and very selfish.

Cock rings don’t stop you coming. They prolong an erection, sometimes even after coming.

The prostate isn’t a ‘press for pleasure’ button. It doesn’t produce an immediate shower of stars. Like all sexual pleasure, it builds gradually and needs sustained stimulation.

Coming after two or three tugs of the cock shouldn’t be written as ‘standard’, even if the character has been on the edge for a while. It generally takes longer. Ten seconds is given as a ‘minimum’.

Male orgasm isn’t really heat - it’s pressure - and it’s located more in the groin than in the belly.

The slit at the end of a man’s cock isn’t that sensitive. The frenulum (underneath the head) is the sensitive bit. There’s also no large vein on the underside of a penis, and it certainly doesn’t swell up.

Apparently we can make more of a thing out of pre-come. It’s normal for there to be loads of it. (Hurray?)

There’s more discussion, personal experiences and arguing in the comments. 

Anuses don’t so much “stretch” as “dilate.” And if you’re experienced, you have some control over the muscle. I’ve even had anal sex without lube, and while I wouldn’t necessarily recommended that, it was not particularly painful and I certainly didn’t bleed or anything. There’s such a thing as rectal mucous. It’s not at all like vaginal lubrication, but a rectum isn’t totally dry. It definitely helped that my partner was uncircumcised (which will be true of most UK/European characters) and we weren’t using condoms. Foreskins reduce friction and condoms add it, so, I wouldn’t recommend unlubricated anal sex except in those circumstances.

Still working on a painting but my mind is 70% thoughts about bucky barnes (￣▽￣*)ゞ will I ever post something finished?

Brushing is the most important if you want to keep your hair all shiny ⭐

give this man a cat! 

where’s the rest of the drawing??? it misses a lower part :p

“obdachlos bucky eating sandwich out of the garbage behind an illegal outdoor rave party” - to quote a friend

Wouldn’t mind a comic sequel about how Bucky even got to Bucharest and what he was doing there, except for eating and probably be wary of police. (Also I’ve never been to Bucharest, the place he’s sitting was straight copied from a location I know in Hamburg)

6. A ship you think should be canon: Steve/Bucky (Marvel)

So, have two (´∇ﾉ｀*)ノ

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