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For example, when he is “in awe how far she had come”. The reason he’s in awe is because she just saved “his High Lord and Lady and their son”. He prioritises her saving Feyre and Rhysand over her surviving the Blood Rite with her friends, which had also just happened. Not only that, but with the way it is framed, he also ignores that Nesta did it to save her own sister. She didn’t care about hierarchy. It almost seems as though part of what Cassian’s in awe of is her finally providing a service to her “betters”. What’s more, she had just also saved his own life - for the second time! – which he doesn’t even mention. It really seems as though he only sees good in her when it comes to things she can do for Rhysand.

Same with the scene about her Made weapons. Yes, he votes to tell her. But his first thought goes to how they can use Nesta to make the Night Court unstoppable, while Azriel is the one to warn that her abilities could put her in danger. No thoughts of that from her own mate. And while he votes for telling her, he still keeps it a secret from her.

The quote where he tells her all those wonderful things about how she can take her own time to heal, keep her sharp edges etc. sounds romantic without context. However, this happens right after the Hike from Hell he forced her on! His words are undermined by his own actions!

I’m probably letting my hate get away with me. I get why some of his words or actions can be taken in a more positive manner and I don’t want to act like I think it incomprehensible people dare to like him. For me though, the way he acts towards Nesta is too off-putting to enjoy those moments. So even when he says or does something nice, I’m side-eyeing him hard.

He would have had no contenders anyways because of nepotism with Rhysand. And still could have “fought like Enalius.”

Imagine him put swords or something on his wings.

But, noooooo…

Because they are. They never saw the world–Prythian–outside Velaris, they went to the Hewn city one time and Nesta went to a few meetings with Cassian when meeting with Eris. They do not have money of they own, we never even learn what happened to their inheritance from their father. As far as I know Nesta does not get paid for her work in the library or with the Valkyrie's. Quiet frankly they live on Rhysand and Feyre's money, and "kindness".

(Remember in acofas where Feyre made Nesta go to their solstice party using her rent money?)

Elain literally lives with them (how uncomfortable it must be to live with your little sister and her husband, and they famously like to solve their arguments with sex), and has nothing of her own. Her friends are their spies/maids that Feyre paid extra for befriending her and "helping" her.

They live in Velaris where Rhysand can tell any employer not to hire them, where Rhysand rules from.

But Nesta likes Velaris and Rhys offered her multiple jobs before locking her up!

Yes, he offered her jobs that most likely served him and where he would be her full-time boss. As a girl with a brother in law(that is like a brother to me no matter how much i shade him) I would not want him to be my boss, and do as he says.

If they wanted to escape the city they couldn't, because they do not know anyone outside of Velaris(someone they could trust). The reason they could lock Nesta up was because she had no other choice, had never saw the rest of Prythian or the Night Court.

The concept of it all is just wierd and uncomfortable for me. They live on Rhys and Feyre goodwill, and we all saw what happens when they do something they do not like.

I think she always chooses the easier, more pleasant way.

Getting to know a court of people, make connections, adapt to a culture, learn and grow is harder especially for her who literally behaves like a raging teenager, than being paraded around, getting fingered in front of everyone, and letting her beauty and skills get objectified.

The spring court noble fae had to trust her, like her, accept her by her behavior. Meanwhile the night court basically had to accept because the high lord said so. She got the inner circle's trust, and Hewn city's respect easier because it was handed by Rhys, and she didn't have to earn it herself. Being a High lady with Rhysand was easier, she got the jewels,the houses, the pretty dresses and the crown just by fucking with Rhysand.

She did some paperwork and already started to whine about it and plot to get an assistant, not even thinking of the illyrian women or the poor parts of Velaris.

She got the wings by magic and some back muscle exercises, and immediately fetishised it. And didn't even bother to learn the cultural significance behind it, or think of illyrian women wing clippings, and how she can help. Just accepting what Rhys told her about wings (which half of it was sexual). Letting Rhysand handle the Nesta fiasco and sending her to fight was easier for her than to actually listen and try to help heal her sister's trauma.

Everyone; omg she’s such a badass!

Feyre; traps the suriel even though it’s actually really difficult

Everyone: what like it’s hard?

Feyre: spends only a short time training to fight properly and learning how to fly

Everyone: omg she’s so amazing and so badass and powerful

Nesta, gwyn, and emerie: won the blood rite after months of training with the best warriors ever and working together. All fae.

Everyone: it just doesn’t seem believable that they could win.

It's a more common argument than I thought to downplay what Rhys did.Have you ever heard the phrase "If you're in hell, embrace the devil"? Well, that's basically what Feyre did. She was in a bad way, she had lost hope, she wanted to die, and Amarantha's second trial made her realize that she only survived by luck... And she stopped fighting even against Rhys and what he did to her, no longer caring what he did to her body.It's literally Feyre's downfall... She's at rock bottom. Drinking wine and dancing was never her choice, and she didn't choose to do it; she resigned herself to the fact that she couldn't do anything about it and started to to use this situation as an escape valve... And that's the saddest part of her character... She doesn't fight anymore, she longs to be toyed with and get drunk... She doesn't even care if she was risking her own life following Tamlin.She resigns herself to the fact that this would be the last night and that she should enjoy that last moment kissing Tamlin and having sex with him one last time. And it's disgusting that someone would use this low point of the character to defend Rhys, saying that Feyre started "choosing" to drink wine and dance... longing for parties and being humiliated as if that this was a good thing...

"And later on, he wouldn't even offer anymore. She just wanted to forget where she was, so she’d go ahead and drink. Even though I don't forgive him for that, lol."

This comment is not a good example, mainly because Rhys NEVER offered, he demanded! And he didn't need to do that anymore, because Feyre no longer refused... She had already resigned herself to it.

Ironically, These are the same people who say you don't read "deeply," that you don't know how to interpret...

Dude, I'm a younger sibling. Older siblings bully their younger siblings all the time. But, if anyone ELSE does it, they will fiercely fight for you. That's just how it is.

And us younger siblings? We're annoying. It's practically in the job description.

My brother has beaten my ass MANY TIMES (I've also kicked him in the balls several times, dw I fight back babes), but in the end, NOBODY ELSE will put that much effort to help me on my college essays, fix my resume, and get me internships.

Nesta said some mean words? Boo fucking hoo. Y'all act like Feyre is helpless. Isn't she the all-powerful Cursebreaker High Lady and all that good shit?

Nesta was also fucking GROOMED by her mother, but somehow y'all forget about that. You also forget that when the FAERIES came and messed with Nesta's family? She went after Feyre in Prythian. She truly exhibits elder sibling traits to a T.