4. If the car pulls up to you run in the opposite direction.
5. Walk with your keys in your hands and keep a key between each finger
6. If they put you in the trunk kick out the headlights
7. If you get lost find a woman with a child. Never ask a man for help (this one was drilled)
That scream fire piece of advice is literally life saving
8. Watch your shadows and reflections, especially if someone is walking behind you. A split second notice is better than none and will help you.
Yes this last one really saves lives y'all I do it all the time
girls have to learn to view the world like international intelligence agents just to be safe walking down the street. smh.
guys pls pls pls reblog and girls pls pls pls be safe out there. terrifying and so sad that we have to worry about this on a daily basis
(Iβm an enby, but, frankly, this is helpful for anyone.)
- always tell someone where youre at and an approx time when youll be back
Add text replacement words in your phone if possible. Something short and memorable that you can send quickly to people in moments of emergencies.
E.g.
I f ing hate that we need to reblog this, people suck, but this will save lives.
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Being female fucking sucks but yes this shit is important for everyone
Also, do not walk close to walls. It will be easier for someone so walk past you and push you against it or corner you.
If your gut is telling you to cross the street or change your path, do it. Donβt risk it. Your body knows.
If you can, buy a large umbrella and walk holding it. Studies say that predators are less likely to attempt an attack on someone that could fight back. Keys around your knuckles is fine but youβll need to get very close to do damage. Umbrellas are more precise.
Avoid wearing headphones if you are alone on an empty street. Look aware.
Again: Stay. Away. From. Walls.
Entering an uber alone? Call your father (or anyone you trust) and say βhey dad! Yep, Iβm almost there, Iβm sending you the route.β outloud. Then proceed to send them the route so they can follow the uber drive. This will most likely intimidate the predator.
If you see someone in an uncomfortable or possibly dangerous situation, walk up to them and say βBetty, oh my god, I havenβt seen you in so long!β. If she gets slightly confused, you can whisper and let her know youβre trying to help and that she should follow along. Walk together to another station or away from where you are. The man will most likely not follow. I have done this one 2 times and can be very helpful.
If you are unsure she needs help, you can pass her a note saying something like βhey, I noticed this man beside you is making you uncomfortable. If youβd like help, fake a sneeze right now and I will come up to you and pretend we are friends.β This is a long note, but its an example. Be discrete. If she follows along, proceed with the previous tip. This is helpful when youβre in a crowded train and you notice harassment.
Help your sisters. Trust them. Trust yourself. Be safe.
If you ever feel unsafe or need help, anyone is welcome to run upto me and ask me for help! Iβll go all mama bear and keep you safe!!!
https://docs.google.com/document/d/166g6Vo8Fb9H3FIZF2H6faEBHtFQSf7nVn_QxcJ9NMi0/edit?usp=sharing
I made this google doc covering 14 different self defense tips and tricks. it was made on January 15th, 2020 so it was before I decided Iβd come back to tumblr jhjshdbjfh.
i fucking hate this world. anyways R E B L O G
Just saw a video explaining why putting a key between each finger is more likely to hurt you than them (the keys will just get pushed back into your knuckles). A better way to hold them is to get your longest key and just clench your hand around it, like youβre making a fist. Thatβll give you a lot more force and means you can use them in more scenarios (if someone grabs you from behind, you can use the key this way)
Not only for girls and women but also for boys and men.
i feel obligated to reblog this.
I hate that we need these things, but this is so so so important, it can literally save someoneβs life
How to tell if your drink has been spiked:
1. The colour of it has changed
2. Itβs become cloudy-looking
3. There more bubbles in it than should be
4. The ice in it sinks
If you are being followed, go to somewhere with high security like a jewellery store or a bar, if you can, and say whatβs happening (the jewellery store and bar are best shots because theyβre the most likely ones to believe you, the bar for obvious reasons and the jewellery store because thereβs not likely to be a huge presence of toxic masculinity so youβll be believed)
I hate it so much that i have to reblog this and that we still need this, but itβs so important!! Please everyone (yes also boys/men/enbys/genderfluids/everyone) stay safe out there!!
but I was never taught these things.
The first time I was groped, I was 10 years old. Do you feel sick yet? 10 years. What kind of fucker gropes a 10 y/o?
All I have learnt is to use my elbow or knee or fist or just duck and avoid contact. This post helped a lot, thanks.
It was the english teacher at my old school tho I did broke his nose and stabbed his stomach with a pen so
Also carry pointie / sharp or that which has a edge, it helps a lot, yk, just stab
-if youβre walking alone w/ headphones in, either have one earbud out at all times or have the music/podcast/audiobook/whatever youβre listening to on low and always listen for footsteps or other noises coming from behind you
-If there is a strange looking man in front of your building who doesnβt live there, walk around the block until he leaves so he canβt figure out that you live there and so he canβt kidnap you
-if a man is groping you against your will, go for the balls. always go for the balls. Itβll 1) hurt like hell, and 2) shock him to the point where you can probably run away and get help.
- carry pepper spray or some other type of weapon
As this site is full of readers,
1: if youβre reading a book with a large number of pages, you know, those BIG ONES, or with the hard cover, donβt leave it at home and never bring outside. Iβm not saying to bring it everywhere, but if you are going to any possible dangerous places alone, bring them, in a purse or even by hand (to show it to everyone). Believe me, if you hit someone with it, it will hurt them!!
2: hairspray works just like pepper spray
3: if your being attacked, and you donβt have any pointed objects, neither training, put your fingers on the predators eyes and press it. With all your strength, it will leave them blind or disabled. Use it only if your life is in risk!
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5: the iPhones have a great setting that if you press it will call police, send them photos of your back and front cameras and send a message to the contacts you select saying your in danger; press 5times the βturn offβ button and it will appear -sometimes you have to activate it before-
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Iβm so happy to share these tips.
Donβt ignore pls it might save your of someone elseβs life
truthfully, itβs a shame that this is a problem in the first place.
thank you to everyone who gave tips, and please reblog! it may help someone in the long run, and maybe even save their life.
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hey i have a question regarding the first few reblogs: wouldnβt yelling βfire!β make people run *away* from you? i was never taught that so i donβt know the reasoning, but to me it seems counterintuitive
To answere the question above try to address a person directly. If you just yell in a crowd of people everyone will thing βsomeone else will helpβ. If no person is around, just yell loudly. Nobody really cares if you yell βfireβ or βhelpβ. Itβs like a reflex to look into the direction of loud noise. (You could just scream a random word like βyogurtβ in a crowd and everybody will look at you)
Thatβs at least my experience, but Iβm German and everybody here just wants it as quiet as possible.
Another few tips:
If you feel like someone is following: Loosen your hair if you have it in a ponytail. It makes it harder to grab you. Also try to walk in some kind of circle to find out if they are following you. (Do it in an area where someone can see, or at least hear you)
I once was followed by a guy. He stood near me when I waited for the tram, but like he stood unnecessarily close. I took another door then him to enter, but when I finally found a place where i could stand without being in the way, he stood next to me again. Some younger dude even stood up for this guy, but he keept standing. Luckily my stop was the last one. So when he still didnβt get out I drove the whole way back and walked circles around a public place until he was gone.
2. If you have to fight, aim at the soft areas. Genitals, throat, eyes. Punching someons nose with you palms from underneath, could kill them. If you canβt reach that try to punch their ear, if your lucky the could get disoriented.
3. Using your key was also mentioned before. Take it in your nondominant hand. The other one is already stronger and if you canβt use it for whatever reason then your other hand has an advantage.
4. If you get graben by the wrist: Pull your hand away in a quick swift motion in the direction of the thumbs of the person holding you. Their grip is the weakest there.
5. Carry some coins in your pockets if your put alone. The more the merrier. It hurts like hell if you throw that in the face of your attacker.
6. Probably donβt need to say that, but donβt run home. Get you ass to a public place.
7. There are many videos of how people manipulate your car to get to hurt or rob you. Whatch a video about that. It easier to learn it by seeing what they do, instead of reading my explanation in bad English.
8. If you do get kidnapped for whatever reason: Make yourself as human as possible. Tell them about you and try to make eye contact. If they are wearing a mask: good. They care about their identity. It increases your chances of survival.
9. I donβt know how it works in other countries, but in the movies you always see that they lokate people via phone calls. At least in Germany it takes so long to do this, so if you call the police always mention your location first.
10. I speak from personal experience when I say that going to the police after a sexual assault is verry hard. In my case the person didnβt even get the punishment he deserved, but at least people heared about it and know what that guy did. Maybe he didnβt go to jail for groping a thirteen year old girl and later even trying to rape her, but others knew they should be more careful around him.
Even the youth welfare office said we shouldnβt go to the police. Luckily we are friends with some officers and they helped us with writing the report. These two gave me hope, when everyone else said I shouldnβt do anything. Iβm kinda glad my mum forced me to go to the police.
Still, it hurt to see him again during the court hearing. And the fact that he denied everything even though there were other witnesses drove me insane. It was almost as bad as when I had to tell another policeman the story and he questioned my mum more than me, even though she wasnβt even there when it happened.
It sometimes keeps me awake at night, but I try to think about other kids I may have helped by suing this guy. And even if I just keept one kid from making this experience, I think it was worth the pain.
Pleas remember if something happened to you: Keep up fighting. It might seem pointless, but it isnβt. You are not alone!
My English might be shitty in this one, but I thought it would be more important to help some people, instead of worrying about grammar and typos.
