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(The best of this post and its reblogs, but with links that work)

Here is a website where you can scroll down to all the different levels of the ocean 

Here is a website where you can see the future of the universe

Here is a website where you can press a ‘make everything okay’ button, over and over, until things really are okay

Here is a website that you can read if you feel like a burden

Here is a website where you can look at strobe illusions (TW strobe/flashing)

Here is a website where you can cut stuff up (TW blood/sh)

Here and here are websites where you can play with sand

Here is a website where you can draw with macaroni and other fun foods

Here is a website where you can paint someone’s nails

Here is a website where you can grow a garden with emojis

Here is a website with hundreds of videos of people hugging you (rightfully dubbed ‘the nicest place on the internet’ because it really is, y’all, it made me cry)

Here is a website that will take you to other useless websites

Here is a website where you can make a tiny cat play bongo drums (and other instruments!)

Here is a website to help give you gentle reminders <3

Here is a website where you can grow a tiny farm

Here is a website where you can take a bunch of scientific personality tests

Here is a website of calm rain noise

Me: The logical conclusion is that trans women of color are the most vulnerable group in our community, and we have to stand together to protect all of us. The stupid ass voice in our brain: So transandrophobia is fake, huh? Knew it! I knew you were just usurping spaces trans women deserved to take! I KNEW IT! You're just a woke tranny- no, you're not even a tranny- trying to talk over trans women! Trans men are PRIVILEGED! THEY HAVE MALE PRIVILEGE! THEY'RE MALES! I DON'T CARE IF THEY GET RAPED BY CIS PEOPLE AND ISOLATED FROM THE WIDER TRANS COMMUNITY, YOU'RE EVIL AND TOXIC! Me:

Do i think trans women face a unique form of oppression that is a combination of misogyny, transphobia, and other forms of bigotry that others them from society? Absolutely! Do i think trans men face a unique form of oppression that is a combination of transphobia, misogyny, and other forms of bigotry that others them from society? Yeah of course? Do i think nonbinary people experience a unique combination of transphobia, misogyny, and other forms of bigotry that others them from society? Yes, and it often depends on their assigned gender at birth no matter how much we wish it didnt. Do i think that intersex people experience a unique combination of transphobia, misogyny, and other forms of bigotry that others them from society? Definitely! And the gender that they are assigned by society can often bias the experience they have with the world, especially if they do not develop in the ways you might expect someone assigned that gender would, and especially if they embrace a trangender or nonbinary gender later in life.

Do i think any of these groups can hold some form of power over the other due to the areas of their lives in which they have biases or experience that leads them to devalue the suffering of others in certain ways, and lack understanding in others, as well as feel kneejerk reactions towards certain behaviors certain people do towards them as an individual? Yes. But there is no hierarchy of pain. One person suffering does not invalidate your suffering. A group of people suffering does not mean they are "more opressed" than you because you are also capable of expressing opinions that show that you think they are invalid in their suffering, and opressing them by silencing their voices. We can acknowledge patterns of harm within groups, based off unconcious behavior taught by patriarichal societies that are then taken out on others, without saying "you are not a man" or "you are not a woman" or "you are a man" or "you are a woman".

Saying "group A is more inherently privelaged/opressed because of their gender/assigned gender at birth" fucking loses the point that we are all being opressed, and we are all capable of being opressors. No one is free of sin because they are the ideal victim. The meek will not inherit the earth if they are too fucking dead to take it. Get rid of the patriarchical, culturally christian ideas that you can't harm someone if you are the one who is truly opressed. Because sometimes your biases and your thoughts and your actions can hurt others, regardless of if you meant to or not. But you cannot insist you are right, because it fucking depends!!!!!!!!!

There are no perfect strawmen, or scapegoats, everyone experiences oppression, internal, external, laterally, hierarchically, because we are all individuals. You are not a bad person, but you are not a uniquely good person either. You deserve to be listened to, but you must also listen to others. You need to accept that sometimes, other people will not like what you have to say, but it is not always your fault, and it is not always their fault.

I think it is fair to want to define terms to help you explain to others what you think the unique challenges you and others like you face are. I think it fair to get frustrated when people you dont see as "in that group" use the term in a form that doesnt fit with what you think the term should be. But don't forget that they are using the word because they see it as relatable, or they are trying to define the feelings and experiences they have as well.

They're two mushy little peas in a crunchy little pod :) 💚💙💚💙💚💙 (LORE BELOW THE CUT, OOOOOOOOH) (lore warning: I sound like a computer that's just been taken off of its leash for the first time, side effect of something in my brain or something of that sort, quirkly girly thinglies and such)

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