Marvelously Fluffy

- An older adult solely hanging with younger teens (I’m talking 25yo & 15yo) and who doesn’t seem to have any other adult friend is a red flag.

- An older adult talking to a younger teen and saying stuff like “you’re the only one who understands me” “I’d hurt myself if you weren’t there” “You’re my only friend” is a red flag.

- Someone (regardless of age) who constantly ends up in discourse & drama is a red flag.

- If you’re afraid to talk to your friend(s), if you feel like you’ve got to tiptoe as to not set them off and get yelled at/ostracized/worse, that’s a red flag.

I post a lot about all the lovely, sweet things that come with tickles. But, of course, things can always happen which are accidents or beyond a ler or lee's control. Here's how I'd deal with a safeword or someone stopping a session before it's started.

"I'm not feeling it anymore." // *safewords*

Stop.

Reassure them.

Ask what they need.

Do something else with them.

After things have calmed, ask

Here's a guideline.

Immediately:

Okay, darling. It's okay. Are you alright? I've got you, I'm here.

Once they've calmed, if applicable:

Would you like some space or some cuddles? Whatever you need, darling.

Once they've regulated and relaxed:

Okay, should we make some snacks and watch that show you love instead? We can just cuddle and watch TV.

After some time (at least 30 minutes in most cases):

Do you wanna talk about what happened, darling? You can always tell me if something felt scary or bad or wrong. It'll help me to keep everything safe in the future. If you just weren't feeling it, that's more than okay too! Its only ever fun for me if it's fun for you too. You're not feeling it, we don't do it, always. My job is to make you feel safe and cared about. You are more important than tickles ever will be. I've got you.

Many confuse this love for a sexual one; that isn’t the case.

At least, not for all of us.

For some of us, it’s about feeling closer to a loved one.

It’s about really letting go and embracing vulnerability for once.

As a ler, I often hear lees who are insecure about unconventional tickle spots, lees who may be worried that their ler's favourite spot isn't "ticklish enough". And I'm here to put those worries to bed.

Every spot is beautiful, every spot is worthy of attention and every spot is adorable. Lees, any pretty tickle spot that makes you squirm, squeak, giggle, blush, squeal, beg, or melt is gonna get some tickly attention paid to it! Your favourite/most ticklish spot to have tickled is my favourite spot to tickle, because why wouldn't I want you to have the best time giggling under my fingers?

Of course, some lers will have a special thing for certain tickle spots. That's totally normal. But it doesn't mean a lee isn't worth tickling if they're not so tickly there! If you are willing to let me get my hands on you, we're gonna have a lovely, giggly, tickly time no matter what. And you're gonna be praised and playfully teased and reassured and made to feel so adorable and so safe throughout, that is a promise!

Its so sad when lees think they aren't enough. "I'm not a very loud laugher" or "I'm not very squirmy" are usually said with shame and apologies. "I don't like my laugh" or "I don't like my smile" Are so common to hear. If you're trusting me enough to hand over control, trusting me with your body, none of that matters. All that matters is that you're having fun, and I'm gonna make damn sure that you feel good about yourself while doing it.