CookiesNotWar

what they dont know is that we’re all afraid of men – some of us are just more vocal about it than others. we all know the rules: watch the bartender pour your drink. don’t let it out of your sight (ever). stay in a group of friends. pretend to be on your phone as you walk to your car. hold your keys like claws between your knuckles. make sure nobody is in the backseat of your car. fight back. don’t stop fighting.

and we know the unspoken rules, too:

don’t talk about it.

pretend it doesn’t hurt.

pretend it doesn’t scare you.

They don't hit or choke without asking during sex because they "didn't know" or because "she should have told me she didn't like it" (like she was suppose to predict he would do it? Men aren't mind readers but women are supposed to be psychic?). He did it because he wanted to get away with it and knew she would probably freeze up and let him do it if he took her by surprise.

There are literally tiktoks of men admitting to this: "if ya ever mad at ya girl just smack her or choke her or somethin while you fuckin and say it was supposed to be kinky" ect.

However, consider the current state of the world. Why would you want to fight for a country that barely recognizes your humanity? All men see women as mere birthing machines. Then, you’ll argue, “Well, that’s why I wanted to be better and more than that,” even if you trained rigorously. But one mistake, and these men will start clawing at you, blaming your “biology” at the end of the day. It’s not a safe path for women, even with feminist support. Just look at the number of rape / sexual assault/harassment cases that go unreported due to rank. You’re not safe in the military, no matter who tries to tell you otherwise.

Pfc. LaVena Lynn Johnson (2005) - 19-year-old U.S. Army Private First Class found dead in a contractor’s tent in Balad, Iraq, on July 19, 2005. Though the Army ruled her death a suicide, her family argues she was raped and murdered, citing evidence of a broken nose, chemical burns, and injuries inconsistent with the official report.

Sgt. Sarah Roque (2024, Fort Leonard Wood) - A 23-year-old sergeant found dead in a dumpster at Fort Leonard Wood, Missouri. Spc. Wooster Rancy was charged with murder.

Pfc. Katia Duenas-Aguilar (2024, Fort Campbell) - A 25-year-old PFC found dead in her residence off-post from Fort Campbell, Kentucky. Her death was ruled a homicide.

Ana Basaldua Ruiz (2023, Fort Hood) - A 20-year-old soldier found dead at Fort Hood (now Fort Cavazos), Texas, in an apparent suicide, with family reporting she experienced sexual harassment.

Vanessa Guillén (2020) - A 20-year-old soldier murdered at Fort Hood after reporting sexual harassment. Her death triggered major military investigations into sexual assault and harassment policies.

In war, it’s even worse. Your country and even the country you were fighting against harm women and children. They rape these women, beat them, and torture them, and these women are usually civilians. Imagine what these men would do to an opposing female soldier. If you think this doesn’t happen, look up “Anush Apetyan” (trigger warning: rape, disfigurement).

We all know about the comfort women.

What American soldiers did to an 14-year-old Iraqi girl (trigger warning: gang rape, mass murder) is sickening. It’s appalling that these women put themselves in danger for a country that takes away their rights and openly allows people to say, “Repeal the 19th Amendment.” As a woman, is that what you want to fight for? If so, good luck.

It’s an opinion but all I can say is be safe.

I was on reddit (i follow some meme pages) and a story came up. Guy wanted to spend his day off work doing something for himself. He and his wife have no kids, and there are no social obligations that day. He had to ask her permission to go out for the day. And she counter-offered with a partial day to himself. And when he expressed disappointment, she turned around and berated him for it, saying he should be grateful, and asking if he wants the part-day to himself, or literally no time to himself. Like she's his boss at work!

And when asked what the big deal about him having a day away was, he answered that any time he is away from her at all she flips out. All the answers I saw from him basically screamed to me that if he spent time away from her, he got punished. She's already giving him the cold shoulder and being rude just for asking for a day to himself. There's no shot to me that he isn't made miserable when he displeases her.

Actually they're not all cults and you're doing the work of making sure actual cults can slip under the radar when you say stuff like that

Cult leaders LOVE that trend, because they can point to it and say, "people will call anything a cult, it's basically meaningless"