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"He gave up the avatar state for her!!!" And i unironically cannot name a better way to piss katara off. Imagine your buddy gives up his ability to end a war thats lasted 100 years and ravaged your homeland, all because he wants to kiss you, and you aren't even sure if you return the sentiment. All of your and the whole world's hopes are riding on him and he just doesnt give a shit. Id kick his ass so hard
this argument is so incredibly narrow because it's clearly an intentional misunderstanding of their relationship, because aang tried to let katara go not once but TWICE, like the first time upon seeing her in danger and he reacted immediately to save her before he had even learned to let her go in order to access the avatar state, and she trusted he would save her like we can even see her face light up with hope in that very scene, and the second time he actually did let her go, he literally DIED!! it wasn't just katara but he had to let go of all earthy attachments beyond himself and his avatar power to unlock it, while yes it's his duties as the avatar and aang also loves katara and because his duties also meant he held the responsibility of protecting her life as much as protecting the world! because he loved her enough to prioritize her but also enough to let her go, he's done both of those things when it's necessary. so it's honestly baffling how people ignore the fact that there's an episode where katara opposes aang accessing the avatar state because of how much she cares about him and much aware of the toll it takes on him, and given how emotionally exhausted she already was during the serpent's pass there's absolutely no way katara would've wanted aang to let her go!! katara loves aang regardless of whatever circumstances the war brought with it and regardless of what people who don't ship them together choose to believe and losing him was one of the darkest moments of her life and she would've never wanted him to let her go just because it would help him reach the avatar state !
zutaraanti is such a loser desperate to get a good dunk that she harassed an Iranian woman who has been absent from online spaces because she is surviving bombardment. This is the type of special, deranged person who we're dealing with here.
Trigger Warnings: holocaust mention, anti semitism mention, hitler mention, nazi mention
Have you noticed how it's always "zutara is a son of Hitler/Holocaust survivor ship" and never, "zutara is a permanently disfigured son of Hitler who was himself thrown into a gas chamber by Hitler as a child, for daring to express empathy for young soldiers who were to be deliberately used as cannon fodder, who is likely permanently disabled (loss of sight/hearing on one side) from his Hitler father, who at 16 made his own decision to turn against his family, who went out of his way to throw his weight behind the resistance/allied forces, who risked his life to free high profile POWs and who did everything in his power to ensure a Holocaust survivor got to mete whatever justice she saw fit against the man who murdered her parents, and finally received further disfigurement when he almost died catching a grenade that was intended for her in the middle of a battle he was fighting to oust his genocidal family from the regime/Holocaust survivor ship"?
The weird thing is, when you put it like that, the whole real world comparison exercise starts to feel incredibly absurd, like one of those bizarre Trolley problem variants that are so far removed from reality that any conclusion you can draw from it feels practically worthless. It starts to sound like the kind of thing that's counter-productive to even try to construct real world parallels to, especially for the purpose of judging or condemning it as morally insupportable, precisely because it's difficult to come up with any historical, grounded examples that could provide even a tangentially similar frame of reference. The entire thought experiment starts to feel disrespectful, because of how divorced it is from reality, which is rather inconvenient when you're trying to do a "let's use a real world example to show how icky this ship is" thing in the first place.
On the other hand, if you get rid of those troublesome details and just keep it as "son of genocidal regime/genocide survivor", then that's simple enough for someone to picture, and then it does sound pretty icky. There's even room to gesture vaguely to a redemption arc while you're keeping fingers pointed squarely at those who ought to be ashamed of themselves.
Sure, people might accuse you of making shallow whataboutisms, or even being outright intellectually dishonest, but you can always pre-empt any allegation of bad-faith if you just loudly accuse your opponents of doing it first. Bonus points if you declare that only someone engaging in bad faith could possibly take any issue with your gritty reality checks, cuz then it will sound like your clever insight struck a nerve and now your properly-chastised critics can only childishly deflect.
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Most children's media I watched back then was primarily directed at young boys, and atla was no different. Aang is the main character, and the center of the main romance (although this was very much not the focus of the show), which is mostly shown from his perspective. The writers also talk about it from his POV. Katara is the cute older girl who sees Aang like a little kid she needs to take care of. She loves him "like a babysitter, like a little brother". But there's the wish fulfillment; even though youâre a goofy kid, the pretty older girl likes you back. I had seen that dynamic, that perspective, in kids media over and over and over again. It was always the girl who changed her mind. And as a girl who couldn't relate, it always felt like watching her get worn down. (disclaimer: these were my feelings, I'm aware they don't reflect the writers' intentions)
K/taang, from its inception, right from the mouths of the writers, was always about what Aang wanted, his wish fulfillment. What little boys would want to see.
The difference in zutara is that itâs not a male-centered fantasy. Itâs not that the girl will come around eventually, itâs that the guy has to work and change to be her friend. It's female-centric. Even k/taang fans seem to recognize this, although they view it pejoratively. âYou like Zuko cause heâs hot and you project onto Kataraâ Look, Iâm gay so no I donât want to date Zuko, but yeah womanhood is central to Katara's arc and so I relate to her more than I do Zuko or Aang. Of course the idea that someone would change to gain your respect is more appealing than being worn down into liking someone you just previously treated like your child. And hey! Romance is wish fulfillment! Iâm sorry, is that supposed to be shameful?
K/taang fans have this constant misunderstanding that zutara is shallow and so are its fans. It's all about the aesthetic appeal of Zuko over Aang. Honestly the way they talk about it sometimes smacks of misogyny. No you canât find this relationship deep or meaningful, you just think Zuko is hot. You donât like their dynamic or development, you just project onto Katara because you think Zuko is hot. You dont like zutara over k/taang because theyâre completely different kinds of ships that appeal to different tastes, you just think Zuko is hot and Aang isn't.
Because women canât possibly think deeply about these things, theyâre shallow and insipid, obviously. Do you hear yourselves?
I like Katara and Zuko together more because k/taang reminds me of every other male fantasy I had to see women be accessories to. Katara may be her own character in the show, with an arc and development and independence, but in her romance with Aang, she's just his girl.
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It Didnât Really Matter Whether A.ang Was Right Or Not
TW: Thereâs a brief mention of weight loss in this post, so just a heads up for anyone who might need it.
Whenever it comes to shipping discourse in regards to The Southern Raiders, the main topic of a lot of the discussions is whether or not A.angâs philosophy was right or Zukoâs. But frankly, I actually donât think it really matters all that much in the grander scheme of what Katara needed from the people around her in that episode.
Let me use an analogy; Imagine a woman with a husband. She recently just gained a considerable amount of weight, maybe she just had a kid or just general weight fluctuation as you age. Sheâs feeling quite insecure about her body, some of her clothes donât really fit anymore so sheâs just wearing more baggy clothes instead.
Sheâs not going out as much and generally just feels sad all the time. But her husbandâŚâŚdoesnât notice. Sheâs been upset for weeks at this point and he hasnât taken note of anything. Then one day, while sheâs researching ways to lose some weight, her husband notices what sheâs searching and then says something like:
âoh youâre trying to lose weight? Hereâs what you should do, just cut back on all that candy you eat and youâll be good to goâ.
And fine, letâs say he was actually right, letâs say cutting back on candy would help her lose the weight that she wantedâŚâŚbut does this woman love or appreciate her husband more because of it? Does she feel like she was loved and supported as she was having a hard time with her body? Does she feel closer to him at all?
The answer to all these questions is a resounding no, she doesnât. You see, this is my biggest issue with A.angâs approach to Kataraâs situation in TSR. I personally believe in forgiveness and Iâve seen a lot of people whoâve said they believe in forgiveness as well, but for some reason, A.angâs behavior in this episode just annoyed them, and I understand why.
Kataraâs grief over losing her mother was unprocessed all throughout the show. A.ang travels with Katara and Sokka everyday for almost an entire year. All throughout this time, he never once thinks to ask about her mother, what happened, howâs sheâs dealing with it and if thereâs anything he can do to help.
In The Southern Raiders, Katara is very visibly upset during the campfire. Sheâs uncharacteristically quiet, she sent a mean remark Zukoâs way and then walked away to go isolate herself from her friends. A.ang saw all of this and made no attempt to go after her and find out whatâs wrong.
But this wasnât what did it for me, itâs what happened the next day. Everyone talks about A.ang accusing Katara of acting like Jet or comparing his temporary loss of Appa to the permanent loss of her mother, but the first thing that got me annoyed was this being the first line that comes out of his mouth:
Katara: I need to borrow Appa. Aang: [Jokingly.] Why? Is it your turn to take a little field trip with Zuko?
Seems like nothing, right?âŚ..wrong. Even though I was slowly beginning to dislike A.ang in Book 3, at this point, I still believed that he was generally a nice kid. When Katara walked up to him and asked for Appa, it seemed like it was the first time he was seeing her that day, since we saw her just waking up a few moments before. I expected him to say something along the lines of:
âOh hey, Katara! UhâŚ..you seemed upset last night, are you okay?â
But instead he just makes a joke, as though he didnât register that she was upset yesterday, as though he just forgot or didnât care. Maybe Iâm too sensitive, but this elicited a deep frown from me. He then proceeds to say this after Katara says theyâre going to find her motherâs murderer:
A.ang: UmâŚ.and what exactly do you think this will accomplish?
And the frown got deeper, why in the world did he listen to Katara say sheâs going after her motherâs murderer and his first approach is to give her condescending attitude? Do you know what kind of context this kind of questioning is used? This kind:
Imagine a kid got a bad grade on their test and gets so angry about it that they decide to go vandalize their teacherâs car. The kidâs mom catches them, the kid reveals what they plan on doing and the mom goes, âAnd what do you think this will accomplish? (places hands on hips)â
He asked that question as though she was being irrational and stupid, he proceeds to immediately assume the worst of her and spends the entire conversation moralizing her situation, judging her and then telling her what she should do and then denied her a chance at processing her grief until she had to go behind his back and attempt to steal Appa.
It was morning when Katara first came to ask, he refused and just let her continue to stew in anger all day until night time. Iâm sorry, but does this mean that even after hearing her very clearly express that she hadnât even processed her grief over losing her mother, he was still just fine with her sitting on her anger ALL DAY?? So, if Katara hadnât tried to steal Appa later that night, he wouldnât have cared that she just went back to suppressing her anger.
What makes him think he has any say in her situation at all? What makes him think he gets to act like some moral authority after he failed to even notice what she was going through all this time? The audacity to not notice what Katara was going through, but then try to tell her what to do?
Because of this, I frowned at every line that came out of A.angâs mouth. The fact that Kataraâs grief was unprocessed and it flew right over his head should have caused him to have some humility and guilt and speak to her with such.
You canât just not notice what your loved one is going through and when they try to fix their situation, you insert yourself into the conflict and act like you have any say after what you did.
Despite the fact that Zuko actually does the emotional work with Katara in this episode, he still didnât believe he had any say in what she should or shouldnât do. And chances are, had he offered his opinion somewhere later into the episode, Katara wouldâve likely been far more receptive towards him.
I expected A.ang to speak with some degree of guilt, humility and carefulness since his friend and supposed âforever girlâ was clearly dealing with a lot and he didnât notice.
Because unlike A.ang, regardless of what you think of Zukoâs intentions, he did make Katara feel like she was cared for and like she wasnât irrational or not thinking straight for wanting to confront her motherâs murderer.
Your heart will undoubtedly be softer and more receptive towards someone who made you feel cared for and loved, then someone who didnât even notice what you were going through, felt no guilt about not noticing and then proceeded to judge you and tell you what to do.
He could be the ârightestâ person in the world and quote the entire air nomad code of ethics for all anyone cares, but no one likes a clueless sanctimonious jerk.
Even at the end, he runs up to her, yelling her name while sheâs very clearly in a somber mood. And then says this:
A.ang: Zuko told me what you did. Or what you didn't do, I guess. I'm proud of you. A.ang: You did the right thing.
The distinct lack of humility and/or guilt over what he did wrong is so annoying. He still continues to speak as though his approval or opinion is in anyway important in her situation.
No, just no. You donât get to not notice what she was going through, completely ignore how visibly upset she was the day before and then act like your opinion or approval of her situation has any weight. You canât just do that.
Have all the wisdom in the world, have all the knowledge in the world, if thereâs no love in the way you treat people even when you disagree with them, then it all amounts to nothing.
And no, the problem isnât that A.ang disagreed with Katara morally. Friends, couples and family members disagree, especially on moral issues, all the time, itâs the way he handled the entire thing. There are ways he couldâve disagreed with her and that wouldâve shown far more humility and care in her situation.
He couldâve started by asking if she was okay after what happened the night before, he couldâve just asked her what she was going to do and let her explain herself instead of telling her what he thinks are her intentions and assuming the worst of her.
If he asked and she gave any indication that she was actually going to kill him, he couldâve then said something like this:
âUh Katara? I know youâre upset, and you have every right to be. What happened to your mother wasnât fair and whoever did it doesnât deserve to get away with it. And donât get me wrong, youâre allowed to do whatever you wantâŚâŚ..butâŚI really donât think youâre going to get the peace youâre looking for this way.â
Then she wouldâve likely responded like this:
âThanks for your concern, A.ang [maybe a smile]. But this is something I need to do, Iâll be fine.â
Simple! Simđpleđ! No conflict, no offensive comparisons, no making things about him, no judging, no excessive moralizing, no pushing her to do what he wants, but instead, far more caring, empathetic and considerate while still sticking to his beliefs. Less moral authority, more concerned friend.
A.ang is the reason for the conflict between him, Katara and Zuko. This didnât need to play out the way it did between the three of them, but it did anyway and itâs primarily because of him.
I like how at the end, she doesnât show him any appreciation, thank him for anything or give him any credit for her decision. She doesnât even crack him a smile, and yeah, thatâs because he doesnât deserve it.
By the end of this episode, Katara felt closer to Zuko than she felt towards everyone else. And understandably so, he did everything right with her in this episode. And fun fact, Zuko was the only character Katara smiled at in this episode.
And the funny thing is, A.ang was never this judgmental in the first two seasons, Kataraâs most emotionally heavy episode is when they decide to make him the most judgmental heâs ever been. What exactly were they thinking??
Iâve always jokingly said that A.angâs behavior in this episode was either written by a woman with the intention of actually portraying him as inconsiderate, judgmental and self-righteous or by a highly tone-deaf and clueless man who genuinely thought that the way A.ang was being portrayed would be appealing to Katara or the audienceđ¤Ą
I have my criticisms of A.angâs morality, I donât agree with coerced and premature forgiveness in traumatic situations and I disagree with his absolute pacifism and his view on revenge and justice, but before he even revealed his moral positioning, I was already displeased with him.
He didnât treat Katara well in this episode to me, and maybe Iâm just too sensitive, but Iâm pretty sure anyone would be upset if theyâre friend acted like this. I hope he enjoyed Sokka calling him wise and Zuko (inaccurately imo, but thatâs a take for another post) telling him that he was right, because he really wasnât a good friend here.
And I already know what the defence is going to be, âHeâs twelve!â. Katara started mothering her older brother around eight years old, is it too much to ask a twelve year old to act like a decent friend? And if heâs too immature to know how to properly handle an emotional situation such as this with Katara, then heâs too immature to be in a romantic relationship with her.
His approach to Kataraâs situation was really bad, then the next episode (EIP) had him agreeing that Katara was his possession (when actor!Zuko called her the Avatarâs girl), throwing a nice guy tantrum at the thought Katara only seeing him as a friend, saying the dumb play wouldâve made him go into the Avatarâs state, him ignoring once again how visibly uncomfortable she was having this conversation and then proceeding to force a kiss on her.
Then in the episode after EIP, the first part of the finale, his last spoken interaction with her was him yelling at her for something that was not her fault. If Ka/taang was written with a consideration for Kataraâs perspective at all, even if Katara started to have some feelings for A.ang, they would know that having A.ang display all these behaviors BACK-TO-BACK in the last half of the show, with no apologies and no attempts to make up for what he did wouldâve drained every last drop of interest out of her.
They spent the last half of their show doing everything in their power to make Ka/taang as unappealing as possible and then acted surprised as to why so many people rejected it.
Aang may have been right that violence wasn't the answer, but that doesn't mean he knows what Katara needs emotionally, because she did not need to be badgered about forgiving the man who murdered her mother, that's for sure. She didn't forgive him and I can't see a way that Aang's words helped that situation. Like you said, they made it worse, because all he did was make Katara feel angry and hurt and damage his relationship with her.
After messing with this for days Iâve reached the conclusion that it just ISNâT GOING TO GET ANY BETTER and I give up. This is based off a gif that I lost, oops. Iâm in the process of coloring it but WOW DOES THAT SUCK so who knows if thatâll ever actually happen
So basically, all you need to take away from this is that I tried!
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Kind of actually wild to me that they finally voiced the issue of Katara being forced into a maternal role because of her motherâs death in season 3 and then had her open up to only one other character about the severity of how traumatic that event had been for her and it was in the episode where she was allowed to step out of that maternal role and try to reclaim apart of her childhood, facilitated by that same character. AND THEN! That character sacrificed himself for her in an extremely similar fashion to how her mother had, the woman whose role she had to bear, symbolizing him taking that burden from her and effectively putting her back in a position of being cared for instead being the caretaker while also granting her the opportunity to realize that if she had the power to save her mother she couldâve and wouldâve through saving him.
I could say something like "hardcore kataangers and zutarians should kiss and hold hands". But only one side of the conflict likes "enemies to lovers" so this would not work out.
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