"my great grandmother who survived 3 wars and raised 10 children by herself while working in a factory watching me go to therapy because my parents yelled at me" ok but your great grandmother was also miserable. maybe your great grandmother would be happy you try your best to not be miserable

like have you considered your ancestors wouldve wished to see you be less miserable than them

lowkey obsessed with my own blog. it has all my favorite things and all the opinions i agree with. best place on the internet maybe ever

“but if i communicate it perfectly then they will understand me” WRONG 10,000 years of suffering

My old person take today is that I feel like people have normalized being on your phone every single moment including when you're spending "quality" time with others so much that they're defensive if someone isn't ok with it. Yes, you have a problematic relationship with your phone and social media if you physically cannot put it down for a couple of hours to like, have dinner with your friends. It's a show of respect for other people's time and energy as well as important to be present and connect with people around you. Your parents who told you no phone at the table were right for that one.

It's how so many people from the USA and Europe, don't even realize that they share the Internet space with Global Southerners and that a post circulating on the net might be based on a very real lived experience of these people; they are so used to not hearing from us, to ignoring us, that when they do in fact hear us speak they react with shock that someone can even hold a political stance that might not be as popular in the circles they move in. Your politics of always supporting indie authors of your country by buying their books will not really have as many takers from the rest of the world, I am sorry to say. You will also sometimes see us taking pot shots at these authors for complaining about people pirating books, and whining about how people could have just gone to libraries instead or could have taken a $1 Amazon subscription. Like I am sorry impcore baby you don't get to say that, when your countries have maintained such disproportionately strong currencies by shitting on the rest of the world. Your one william dollar costs quite a lot of money for the rest of us and neither do we get to maintain such public infrastructures so seamlessly like your country does by redirecting a portion from the imperialist spoils.

A downloaded copy does not automatically represent a lost sale; many people who obtain unauthorized copies would not have purchased the book at its retail price in the first place. Treating every download as a lost sale assumes that every downloader would otherwise have become a paying customer—an assumption that is not supported in every case.

iirc the research on this has been done many times and NEVER shows a loss of revenue for the rights-holder. piracy appears to be correlated with greater sale volume, both for the individual pirate (pirates buy more media than non-pirates) and for the individual works (works that are pirated more also have more sales). piracy appears to be an expression of demand in the marketplace rather than a replacement for purchase

it’s amazing how women are able to navigate crowded rooms without ever touching a palm to a man’s lower back

have we talked about The Birdcage hawkbeej au yet?? bj coaching hawkeye on how to pass for straight “just walk like john wayne… huh. no that was perfect I just never realized john wayne walked like that.” hawkeye getting upset and making a dramatic exit to the cemetery with his toothbrush. “WHERE DO YOU GO? WHEN I’M ONSTAGE?!” “nowhere. I lie here on the floor.” bj saying it took him twenty years but he knows who he is now…. makes me want to weep

My one boring tip to anyone in their 20s is to resist the temptation to rot in your room every time you get a free moment. Dismiss any neuroses you have about going outside and "being perceived". Be a dictator about it, plan your hangouts like they are binding commitments. No excuses! Go to the bar with your friends. Be kinda hungover at work. Socializing is like exercise; even if you don't feel like you want to, you should still do it because it's good for you.