This whole obsession with wheelchair users struggling on foot down the aisle at their wedding or across the stage for graduation is 100% powered by ableism.
âThe heartwarming story of how one woman worked for 8 months straight so she could escape the horror that is being in wheelchair for a few short minutes to struggle slowly and painfully down the aisle on her special day.â
âthe horror that is being in a wheelchairâ bitch itâs hella better than struggling slowly & painfully down the aisle ffs
âDespite being permanently paralyzed, her one goal since her accident has been to walk across the stage for graduation. The whole crowd gave her a standing ovation and broke into tears when she dragged her paralyzed legs across the stage with the help of leg braces and a walker to collect her diploma, after which she immediately sat back down in her wheelchair, which she will use to move around for the rest of her life.â
How the hell is this an inspirational story? This person needs better goals. And a therapist.
Theyâre toxic in an even greater way because as a disabled person, I didnât realise till I was reading this how much I had internalised that. I genuinely have had feelings of fear and shame about using a chair or a walker if I get married. And why? Because Iâm constantly seeing âheartwarmingâ stories about disabled people who shed their mobility aids for that moment. Why the hell am I afraid of using them to get married? Anyone who marries me or attends the wedding will know I need them and love me regardless.
Bless this post for making me realise Iâd internalised that shit.
idea: incorporating mobility aids into wedding fashion. decorating your wheelchair with flowers and lace as intricate as the dress itself. maybe one of those longass cape things idk what theyâre called? on the back, idk if those would work with wheels wrt not getting tangled, but then again idk how they work with legs either. braces and canes thatre color-coordinated with your suit or dress. wedding outfits that include and are DESIGNED FOR wheelchairs/canes/braces.
Iâve seen wedding photos from several brides who decorated their power chairs with flowers for their wedding and it was BEAUTIFUL.
This post made me realise how much I desperately want to be able to not use my stick at my wedding next year and how fucked up that is
Some examples of how I decorated my wheelchair for my wedding (Iâve kept flowers on it ever since.) I highly recommend keeping yourself comfortable and happy on special occasions, however much that means including your mobility aids!
I love it!
concept: wheelchair as cinderella carriage with the fancy spiral/vine wheels
also BRING BACK FANCY FASHION CANES AND WALKING STICKS like seriously why did that stop being a Thing
You can definitely get fancy canes. FashionableCanes.com is one good source.
Flaunt your mobility aid!
Fashion designers and style gurus who do not incorporate wheelchairs and people who use them into their designs are cowards.


































