“be gay do crime! but sex is yucky and crime is wrong!” ass website
i appreciate this, but in a world where your gay brothers and sisters are being actively punished if not outright killed for having sex—in a fascist society that is trying to make gay sex a crime and has successfully done so in the past, in ways that still harm us today—we have GOT to be there for gay sex and the people having it. it doesn’t make you any less gay not to have sex, but that’s not something bigots are going to take into account, and if they do, it only stands to make you “one of the good ones” and pit you against your siblings and loved ones. whether someone personally wants sex or not, i think we have a responsibility to defend the people who do just as much as the people who don’t.
Sure, but it’s not been long since this entire website was virulently anti-asexuals so that’s probably worth keeping in mind too. We actually don’t defend people who don’t have sex very much at all. And trust me, the bigots don’t love it either so.
i dont disagree that asexual people have faced hostility, including on this website.
“don't stigmatize gay sex" and "don't stigmatize asexuality" are compatible positions. we can and should defend both. what im pushing back against is a strain of rhetoric that treats consensual sex as inherently suspect, gross, or morally dubious. that line of thinking is not in defense of asexual people; its a judgment of people who have (gay) sex
