An AB/DL Blog (among Other Things)

Yaaaay, an ep all about bisexuality!!

Do you like iced tea? Do you like lemonade? Well, put 'em together and you've got you an ARNOLD PALMER, one of the best drinks in the world.

Imagine loving a good Arnie Palmie in the Summer, and the tea people telling you you don't fit, and the lemonade telling you you're probably just in a tea phase.

On this episode of Love In Brief we do our first of two Pride month episodes to explore a vastly under-explored topic -- bisexuality!

That can be what being bisexual feels like -- you love all kinds of people, but people in the straight camp think you're gay and people in the gay camp think you're straight, and some real hosers just think you're confused.

On the other hand, boy does it have its upsides! Imagine finding people of multiple genders attractive, and seeing opportunities for love and lust all over! On this episode @lolaandthens0me and I talk to @untraditionalnormal and @NorthernLifeAB (FL) about what it's like being bisexual, how it integrates with their ABDL kink, and what makes loving all kinds of people wonderful.

Spring is turning the corner towards Summer, and creativity is in the air! This LIB is the next in our periodic Makers Series, where we highlight neat stuff the people in the ABDL community are making for the ABDL community.

In this episode RY talks with three creators:

- TinkerKinkers ([email protected]) about a new (and brilliant!) pressure-sensitive toy activator that can quickly turn little time into playtime, and vice-versa

- MisterSeaOtter ([email protected]) about a life coaching service particularly for people with an ABDL kink

- Mako (@mako on FL) about an overhaul of his shared discipline and power exchange app, WeMinder. (join the development updates on Reddit at r/weminderapp !)

Whether you’ve been at this ABDL thing for 3 months or 30 years, we all need support and opportunities for growth.

On this episode of LIB, Teddy and I talk with Merissa Cope; an author, counselor, and social worker who leads the ABDealing support group in Denver and +1’s Discord support group. This episode focuses on the ways you can find support with counselors, support groups, peers, and solo resources... as well as how you can start your own support group in your area.

Just listened to the spring roundup episode and had an idea pop into my head for a possible episode. What if you reach out to all/some of the guests that have been on and do like a where are they now or just anything new that is going on with them. Like maybe they finally went to that munch or CAP or finally told their partner. Just an idea I had while listening to the new episode. Thank you for all you do for this amazing lovely community!

For our 4th anniversary together, @lolaandthens0me and I decided on a “smash” theme, with bourbon fruit smashes, smash burgers with smashed potatoes, playing some Super Smash Bros, and concluding with a proper baby-style smash cake. And I expect later we just might smash… 😏

In today’s edition of *Trendy Hotel Things That Seem Hip But Actually Suck,* I give you:

1). Half-glass showers with no doors. This design ensures that not only do you get water all over your floor, but whatever half of you that is not facing the shower head is also constantly cold. Pick that half wisely.

2). Barn-style bathroom doors. Sure, they look cool, but they don’t really lock, and they have a gap you can fit your fist through all the way around the door, ensuring that your partner feels six inches away while you do your business.

3). Flush devices on the middle of the cap of the tank. If you are a courteous courtesy flusher, this means you cannot reach around while facing forward to apply said flush, and have to decide between skipping it (rude to your roommate) or standing up and turning around (unfathomable).

On this episode, RY and Teddy talk to @ComfortablyCrinkly (IG) and @Mrs.BabyPants (IG) about how they have expanded their own boundaries inside of ABDL and outside of it, how they have tried new things to see how they feel, even taken on new roles and dynamics they thought they might never take on. And, more importantly, how their lives have changed as a result.

AT LONG LAST, it is here! We have had a two-week radio silence since CAP; there were some technical glitches with the audio, so we had to ship it off to our audio pro friends Mr November (FL) and Dadbaud (IG) to clean it up and make it listenable. And they pulled it off!

It was a really, really fabulous live episode with incredible questions and an amazing group of attendees and panel, so we didn't want you to miss it.

This live episode recorded at CAPCon 2026 starts with RY, Lola and Teddy reflecting on CAPCon 2026, then into the actual live episode audio. Thanks for bearing with it; I promise it's worth the extra work to listen closely.

For some background, I am pretty young (23) and inexperienced when it comes to ABDL play. I only started engaging in play stuff irl once I found my current partner. He is my sweet, incredible, and totally accepting boyfriend who I met via fetlife— we are lucky enough to both be “factory-installed” ABDLs and are both switches. And despite switching, I’m still always daddy’s sub even if I’m mommying. Since we started playing, I’ve noticed a really stark difference in my general personality versus my little personality. As a little I become really quiet, a bit anxious, and have trouble articulating my thoughts. I couldn’t be more opposite in my day-to-day life; I’m usually extremely silly, very talkative, very confident, and a little bossy. This stark contrast sometimes makes me feel like I’m not myself when I’m little. I really enjoy being silly and bubbly in my normal life, and I want to feel that free while I’m in little mode. It’s gotten marginally better overtime— now I can talk and express wants (albeit quite slowly) when little now; before I was limited to yes/no responses and whines. As of now my little space serves as quiet, rest, and unwind time, but I feel like there could be a version of little space where I can still be my usual bubbly, silly, and loud self— I’m just not sure how to get there, and I haven’t exactly been able to will it into existence. Do you have any advice for me on what I could do or what I could express to my partner to transition into a more “fun” little experience that feels more like me?

Hello @immaterialmoongirl ! Thanks so much for sharing your story a bit and submitting this question.

I am going to put it on the docket for an upcoming Question Round-Up, so @lolaandthens0me and I can discuss it together and hopefully share something helpful. But in the meantime, my (quick-ish) advice would be: don’t try to force your Little self to be more like you big self.

Here’s my point: you are fun and silly and outgoing as an adult, and that’s all great! But your Little self is naturally gravitating toward something else right now, and that is helpful information. Your Little self is no more or less the true “you” than your big self… but it is a unique space reserved for the opportunity to be freely present and wholly (and perhaps blissfully) uninhibited and even unaware of the social and societal pressures around you.

It may be that the quiet, reserved, non-verbal Little who shows up when you are switching into that mode is exactly what you need in that moment and in that space, and yet who would never show up out in the ‘nilla world. When you give yourself permission to be without constraint or expectation if that’s who you become, then that may tell you a lot about a part of you that you may have been neglecting! Let that quiet, peaceful part of yourself be who they are without judgement… you may find that it is speaking to a part of you that doesn’t get spoken too very often. And you may even feel better on the other side.

BUT (and this is a big but, tee-hee), if you think that quiet and reserved little is actually responding to a felt need to *be something specific,* so that you and/or your partner can be comfortable with the dynamic, that is different. If it doesn’t feel like the genuine you but rather a concession of sorts, you may be reinforcing the idea that you *cant* be your true self when Little, and that may perpetuate a cycle of “faking it” when all you and your partner truly want is the intimacy of knowing the real you.

So… your judgment call. If it’s real and feels true to who you are, let your Little self be the quiet and snuggly mousey they are… you might even find that after a while of having that affirmed a different, more secure self comes out while Little. If it feels like a compensation for your own ideas of what’s right and wrong or for your partner, try to bring more of “the real you” to the party and see if you both can make room for it.

OK, I promised short and this is anything but… but I hope at least it was helpful.