I've heard it both ways.

Today I woke up thinking about the evidence of Josh's character development in the Missing Person episode and Doctor, Interrupted.

As I've often thought, it's amazing how Josh and Oliver, while broken up, both fell in love more deeply and grew to understand each other more deeply. I rewatched the scene in Josh's office where Oliver is mute and can't make eye contact with him. Both immediately after the scene (when Josh is in the hall and Carol shows up), and then in the next episode, it's clear that even though Josh is saddened by this, he is not hurt by this, i.e., he does not take it personally. Where in season one when Oliver lashes out at him, he very much does take it personally.

And I'm not saying it's unreasonable to take these kinds of behaviors personally! What Oliver said in the season one finale was very personal! But Josh has come to a place where he can see that these incidents are Oliver reacting to stress and not actually about Josh. And he comes to care more about the stress/pain Oliver is feeling than about the way Oliver expresses it.

Also I feel like it's very mature/understanding of Josh to ask for/accept Carol's help when Oliver is unresponsive to him. (We don't see a scene of his asking in the episode, but I assume that's what happened; of course it's also possible that the Wolf Pack sent her to Josh's office when they found her; but since Josh seems to be waiting for her, I take it that he specifically reached out to her or there's some combination of both those things going on.) Like, he understands that he cannot give Oliver the level of safety/security he requires to be able to talk, so he gives that space to Oliver by stepping out and bringing Carol in.

He loves Oliver enough to understand and accept that he can't be everything to Oliver. He can't always be exactly what Oliver needs.

But he can try to help Oliver get what he needs.

Like, fucking wild that you can tell Mr. Fern-Bach guy you're trying to figure out your feelings about him when you SPECIFICALLY WENT OUT AND BOUGHT A FERN AND HAVE BEEN PLAYING BACH TO IT THIS WHOLE TIME!!!

Holy crap Josh now I am chewing on door hinges! (Love you, idiot.)

November 5, 1955! That was the day I invented time travel.