Loafofdead

Everyone brings a dish to share. A table full of endless choices stands before you. Some dishes are labeled correctly, others arnt. Some are extra spicy so read notes and tags about the dishes.

But as you go down the table, you have the choice for what you put on your plate. Don't pick up the pasta if you're gluten-free. Avoid the stew if you don't like onions.

You have a choice again when you sit down and take a bite. Was the tater tot casserole not really what you wanted anymore? Cool, stop eating it.

Fandom is a potluck and you have a choice to not consume the things you don't like. You don't get a choice over what others bring to the potluck. You don't get to police others for what they want to eat either.

Don't be mad that we brought egg salad when you hate it. You're the one that is forcing yourself to eat it when we told you exactly what it is.

Don't like something? Don't put it on your plate and eat it. You do not get to be a bully and be mad that someone brought it and someone else likes it.

The fandom isn't all about you and your likes. We don't have to cater to you.

It's okay to have multiple F/Os. Being polyamorous is okay, you're not hurting anyone.

It's okay to have an F/O of any age. They're still a fictional character, you're not hurting anyone.

It's okay to have an F/O of any gender. Even if they're not the gender you're typically attracted to.

It's okay to have an F/O of any orientation. Even if you're not the gender they're typically attracted to.

be kind and respectful to fan artists

be kind and respectful to people in your fandom

I talk about them all the time. the trick is to find someone you’re comfortable with or someone who’s also not normal about the character.

Hnnngg... very lovesick for him today... hnngg... I need cuddles and love from him... and being hugged like a plushie and nap with him... hnnggg... big hugs from my big man 😔 ...

anon hate is not an appropriate reaction.

doxxing is not an appropriate reaction.

death-threats are not an appropriate reaction.

suicide-baiting is not an appropriate reaction.

encouraging self-harm is not an appropriate reaction.

harming someone, either with words, baits, or trying to cause them physical harm, is not an appropriate reaction.