This is probably obvious to most but man: When youโre going to randomly message someone youโre not close with, make sure you have something to talk about. Donโt just goย โhi, whatโs upโ, and expect a good conversation to happen.
Iโma reblog this again cause the comments in here are ridiculous to the point of being comedy.
People are acting like the only two ways to start a conversation is an empty โHi, sup?โ and posting an entire 8 paragraph communist manifesto.
Like, if youโre messaging someone you donโt know, is it really that hard to have a conversation topic in mind before doing so? If not, why do you feel the need to message that person in particular considering youโre not close to them?
If itโs someone you venerate (e.g. a popular artist or something), instead of asking them aย โhi, supโ that they probably get at LEAST once daily from strangers, try asking about something of theirs that genuinely interests you, or something you think theyโd be interested in, or talk about something they did that you liked or thought was funny. Or ask them for their thoughts on something that concerns you particularly. These are all things that wind up involving both parties.
Donโt initialize a conversation with someone you donโt know then dump the full responsibility of continuing it on them. I donโt think a lot of reblogs complaining about anxiety understand the irony hereโif you feel youโre not good at conversing, consider the person youโre talking to might also feel that way about themselves. Even if the person youโre talking to doesnโt get anxious at suddenly having to hold up a conversation, youโre banking on them having something to talk about right then and there. Most the time thatโs going to be a pretty boring conversation. If youโre the one making contact, you at least have the advantage of choosing how the conversation starts.
