Lets discuss the 4 Feminine States (Some dating coaches call them "Feminine Flavors") that Renar describes. I think there is a lot of wisdom in it.
I replaced the MISTRESS with HOMEMAKER as the former term is a misleading translation. The QUEEN is basically the same archetype as the BITCH, that is described a lot in modern dating advice books.
A man dreams to find everything in one woman, a lover, a homemaker, a queen, and a girl.
These are four basic manifestations of the feminine energy, the four basic states of woman
In a wife men wish to have the full package: a passionate homemaker, an inspiring muse or an unapproachable queen, an enthusiastic girl, and an ardent lover.
The man longs, even if unconsciously, for the satisfaction of all his needs: mental, emotional, physical and sexual.
On the physical level he expects for a woman to take care of him, to feed him with tasty breakfasts or suppers, to keep order in the house, to support and calm him during difficult moments. This state of woman is called THE HOMEMAKER.
Simultaneously, on an emotional level, he would like to see a helpless girl requiring his protection, a girl who admires him and enthusiastically listens to his every word.
A girl who recklessly trusts in his talents, is glad of his successes, appreciates his efforts and gifts, even the simplest ones.
On the psychological level the man expects cleverness and erudition from a woman, with the skill to conduct intellectual conversation, who will be well informed about his business and its problems, who is able to direct and inspire him, be interesting and independent, creative and unpredictable. He wants to see in her a queen or a muse.
But all these are nothing compared with what a man expects at night. That’s why people say: “A night bird gets more food than a day bird”.
A passionate and skilful lover, perfectly managing her intimate muscles, knowing all the secrets of the art of love, the secret points on a man’s body, she is one who isn’t afraid of any forbidden caresses, and receives unlimited authority.
A man can never be sated with such woman, and he is drawn to her again and again, he thirsts for her and aspires to spend every night only with her.
Men are at all times intuitively drawn to those who unites these different manifestations because they felt that only such a woman can raise a man, help him to find power and integrity.
Only when a woman joins a man on all four levels is he filled with energy and is ready to accomplish anything.
Only such a woman can help a man to win the world, which he will then be ready to throw at her feet.
If a woman embodies all these states, she closes the circle of feminine power and, as a symbol of it, she usually gets a wedding ring as a gift.
During courting a woman should pass through all four of the states we which talked about: a girl, a lover, a queen and a mistress.
A man checks how well she knows these levels, whether she can subsequently satisfy all his needs.
In the state of the lover, the woman attract the most attention.
A lover attracts but if you spend the night with a man, you remain just a fling in his eyes.
To marry him, it is necessary to pass on to the state of a queen and to awaken the man’s instinct as a hunter.
And after he has won you, you become the obedient girl allowing him to take all the responsibility.
Only after you become engaged can you show what a remarkable homemaker you can be.
If you break this sequence, the relationship either quickly comes to an end, or lasts without any result. If you do everything correctly, you will close the circle of feminine power.
If because of some event, or your own beliefs or education, the woman concentrates on one state, for example homemaker, and forgets about others, the circle of feminine power is broken and the man begins to search for one who will satisfy his other needs, one who can give him a lover, a girl or a queen.
A woman dedicates herself to the household, to the education of the children, and at the same time to the education of her husband. In preparing breakfast, lunch and supper she forgets how to be a passionate lover or an enthusiastic girl.
She forgets that though a man may appreciate a homemaker and is grateful to her for the cosiness she provides, he does not desire her at all.
Everything is fine in moderation, To keep a man always with you flared in passion as in the first years, it is necessary to constantly change yourself, to live in all four states.
The Queen or the bitch is a recent development. Successful, self-sufficient, able to reach her goals.
There are hundreds of books on the theme of how to become a bitch. But it shouldn’t be forgotten, that the bitch only is one of the states.
A bitch attracts, but men marry the girl.
When the state of the girl dominates, everyone around is surprised why such a lovely, kind and proper girl is still alone, forgetting, that it isn’t the girl that originally attracts men, but a passionate lover.
Or on the contrary, someone likes to be independent and free, to make the decisions herself, to be in a state of the bitch. In some way this state is the optimum to drive a man out of his mind, but, having achieved what he wanted, a man expects for the tigress to turn into a tender kitten and if this doesn’t occur, he, unable to stand the pressure, disappears.
It is best to build relations according to the script of marriage. It is possible to transform a potential husband into a lover or an admirer at any moment but it's almost impossible to transform from a homemaker into a wife. (--> aka don't play home until he has committed to you with a ring)
🍂The element of Earth, strong and intrinsic, gives a woman calmness, practicality, validity and reliability.
🔥The element of Fire is hot and pulsing, it makes a woman unpredictable, passionate and sexual.
💧The element of Water gives a woman emotionality and spontaneity, playfulness and softness.
🌬The element of Air makes a woman self-sufficient and persistent, independent and logical.
Every woman has two elements by nature (Mine is Fire and Water, what is yours?)
But a woman isn’t obliged to live only the life that is given to her at a birth. She can strengthen those energies which are less prominent in her.
Through connections with the elements a woman finds a new state of integrity and power.
The woman becomes an embodiment of perfection only after she finds the power of the four elements.
Only woman has ability to take energy from the world, dissolving in the elements and filling herself with them; man is deprived such an ability.
That is why, since time immemorial, men have aspired to meet a woman in possession of all the feminine energy in all its manifestations: sexual, emotional, mental and physical.
They wanted a woman to fill them with their sexual energy, to listen to their doubts and inspired them to great deed, to give relaxation and care during moments of rest, to decorate their lives with dance, music, and verse, to admire with them and their deeds.
Women can also take energy from each other. They find girlfriends on the basis of this principle, gathering to form the circle of feminine power.
Therefore, as a rule, they usually have a circle of four friends: one of them is sexual, a second is clever and judicious, the third is emotional, and the fourth is thrifty and practical.
Women possess the ability to strengthen each other if different energies are revealed in them.
In the state of the lover we give him energy, and he should return it to us in the form of gifts, money, a social status.
You should never sleep with a man without receiving something in exchange. It deprives him of force, and you loose energy.
There is a rule of ten percent: all money invested in a beloved woman, comes back to a man tenfold, allowing him to grow and prosper.
If you sleep with a man, he should compensate your energy by giving you gifts, jewellery, money and, most importantly, a position in a society, a position as his wife, allowing you to pass into the state of a girl.
A man becomes a husband and returns us energy when we are in the state of a girl.
It sometimes happens that you give a man not only feminine energy, but also just spend your power on him: feed him, take care of him, and make decisions for him, without demanding anything in exchange.
But such self-sacrifice turns against you because the only man to whom you can devote yourself and give your all is a son.
If you will behave like this with a husband or a lover, he too will feel the mother in you, and it’s very dangerous for your relationship.
He will respect you, but will cease to desire you, because it’s impossible to sleep with his mother, there are the interdictions of incest. In this case the man will start to avoid intimate relations with you.
Men like to sponsor little girls, to buy them gifts, to carry them in their arms, to indulge them. That is why the state of the girl is very important.
However even the naive girl soon begins to bother, starts to irritate. It’s impossible to forget about the state of the queen when you are independent and free.
The man has to feel that you are one step from leaving him.
A woman should inspire a man, but at the same time to be interesting herself.
So, in the state of the lover you give energy, in the state of the girl you receive it, in the state of the homemaker you give again, in the state of the queen you receive.
But don’t forget that by giving a man energy, you take a risk. If the man is married, your energy promotes the prosperity of his family.
Thanks to you he earns more, develops his business, builds the patrimonial nest. And what do you receive? Nothing.
The long-term state of the lover in an affair is very destructive for a woman, it doesn’t matter if is she married or free.
If you are married, your energy goes to prosperity of another man instead of your husband. So you make the decision about where to live, in a palace with a husband or in a hovel near to the palace of the lover.
And if the wife has a lover? Then her energy goes to that lover, and the husband starts to be pursued by troubles, financial loss, missed opportunities, etc.
She reproaches her husband without understanding why the lover prospers while her husband becomes poorer.
There are very few women in the world whose energy is enough for numerous men.
If you know how to take energy from the elements, it’s safe for you to have lovers, but nevertheless it isn’t necessary to tempt fate!
This part resonates with me a lot. Most of my youth, I spent in the state of the girl and everyone wondered why I had no boyfriend. The Girl alone is mostly invisible and doesn't attract. The lover came with age and confidence, the Queen/Bitch came with Shera's wisdom and gold digging practice and I only showed my fiancee my homemaker side after we where engaged. (He said it was the best surprised how good I cook, he didn't know I could cook at all, up until the engagement we either ate out or he cooked for me)
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