things will get better 💗

Talking to friends with inept parents is crazy. No wonder they’re like this if their parents kept fumbling

“I’m having trouble adapting to my adult responsibilities” well no wonder, nobody raised you 😭😭😭

Hot tip for future parents: you actually have to guide your kid to adulthood. Feeding them and waiting for them to grow up is not enough since they are not house plants. A little more thought and care is required.

girlie you can’t give up now you don’t have the dark green couch of your dreams yet

this is getting some attention again, so for all of you who are writing “i have the green couch already, can i give up now?!’ the answer is no. the green couch is a metaphor. your one job in this wild and precious life is to dream things for yourself, always: a college degree, more friends, your art in a show, that book you keep promising you’ll finally finish writing, your first trip abroad, a happy life with your loved ones, the day you wake and realise you have new wrinkles and not feeling anything but so, so proud that you have lived long enough for your body to show how far you’ve come. so no, girlie with the dark green couch, you cannot give up. it is time for the next dream

are you “adaptable” or are you just willing to subject yourself to existing in low key background-level ambient misery

these are different things btw. actual adaptability means not dealing with being miserable long term. and being constantly mildly annoyed/frustrated with a situation but being “able to deal with it” counts as ambient misery. btw.

let this be your sign to make your life just a little more livable. get a dollar store trash can for your bedside so Cup City’s invasion plans fall through. block a tag or post that makes you grind your teeth every time you see it. get some grip pads so your bed stops sliding across the hardwood a little bit every time you get in it. tell that person you need a little more support. if you get annoyed at a situation more than a couple times, change it. don’t be content with being miserable.

and the more that you start doing this, the better you will get at detecting your own feelings and advocating for yourself! This is an important start to being more of a person in the world if you struggle with that

bitch this is all you’re gonna get. this life, this face, this body. you better not ‘maybe in another universe’ your way out of everything. sit your ass down and face this. go make tea and have a picnic and read a goddamn book. kiss your loved ones, send that damn text, and hug your siblings. this is all you’re gonna get.

Just watched a documentary about women who use ai boyfriend apps, following three different women, at the festival. Very early on, the first woman said something that caught my attention: The documentary opened at her work, then followed her to her tiny apartment as she prepared and ate dinner with her boyfriend on her tablet. I don't know if that was the intention but the whole sequence gave me the impression that she had no friends. Then it cut to an interview to camera where she said she had never said "I love you" to anyone other than her ai boyfriend, that love was too important to be frivolous with. Later she said she doesn't want to date anyone because even if someone seems perfect at first, gradually the flaws become visible. And I feel like the belief that love ought to be grandiose and perfect makes a lot of people lonelier, even if not to the point of ai boyfriends, by keeping them from appreciating small human connections that might otherwise grow