voidtriangle

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Find every post about it strangely relatable

Do a ton of research, usually several knights of the week, month, or several months, and slowly realize I definitely have this disorder

Deny I have the disorder for at least a year cause I’m not entirely sure, continue to learn more and still relate to everything I see relating to it

except usually it doesn't take a year of denial, only a few months (and then doubt for the next idk how long)

Roughly 50% of (likely perisex or perisex-passing) trans men are victims of sexual violence. The rate of sexual assault is higher in trans men than in cis women.

Intersex [link] people (and thus, intersex men) are 3x more likely to be sexually or physically assaulted than their other LGBTQ+ peers.

And also, men are statistically less likely to be upfront about their experiences with sexual violence, so the statistics are likely underestimated.

A few resources on the topics (though many many more exist):

1: "The 1 in 6 statistic" [link] 2: "Who are male survivors of sexual assault?" [link] 3: "Sexual violence and the disability community" [link] 4: "Sexual violence and suicide risk among LGBTQ+ young people" [link] 5: "Physical, sexual, and intimate partner violence among transgender and gender-diverse individuals" [link] 6: "Rising violence and harassment against intersex people in EU" [link]

Can people please be normal about victims of women perpetrators.

Can people please stop fakeclaiming men and boys who have been assaulted by women.

well there's many reasons but the ones i can think of off the top of my head are

it's not always easy/possible to get a diagnosis, or it might not be a good idea for a varity of reasons

as said, when getting a diagnosis... you're going to have to self-diagnose?

when you go to get a diagnosis, the person who's diagnosing you is not nessicarrily very good at identifying or diagnosing what you're there for. i heard a story somewhere about someone who had to get tested four or five times for autism

You do not need to post about things to care about them. "I see you not reblogging" is guilt-tripping.

You're allowed to curate your own blog. "I don't care if this doesn't fit your blog aesthetic" is guilt-tripping.

You're allowed to skip past posts that distress you. "x amount of people must reblog" is guilt-tripping.

Permission is not needed but for those whom it will make more comfortable; you are allowed to block people who post bullcrap that makes you feel guilty.

This post has no DNI; everyone may reblog regardless of syscourse stance, but reblogs are not required. Spread love.

This Is ableism autism isn't contagious and not a problem to be solved. The comments back to this post Is right stupidly is the problem here

Image ID: A Quora post with the question “My son hangs out with an autistic kid sometimes and I don’t want him to start taking after him and becoming autistic. How can I nip this problem in the bud?”

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Scott and Martyn have it the worst. They’ve won the most along with Joel, but the Watchers don’t have anything special against Joel. Scott, the one who’s a bit too good at their little game; Martyn, the Listener. The void holds a bit more tightly to them.

It hits Grian a lot too, but he’s more accustomed to void. He unconsciously brings it on himself - memories take over first, and the Watcher part of his mind pulls the void along in tow. The dizziness hits the winners without warning, vision fading in and out, like the void is trying to take them back. There’s a floating, untethered feeling. They all cope differently.

Grian goes flying. Seems a bad idea when your balance is deteriorating and your vision is spotty, but for him, the feeling of flying is close enough that he can trick himself into thinking it’s just the sensation of gliding rather than the void he fled trying to drag him back.

Scott talks. If he’s with other people, he starts rambling, talking for longer than is truly necessary, trying to get them to talk back to remind him that he’s real, he’s there, he’s not in that lonely blackness.

Martyn goes outside. He finds a nice spot to sit, among grass and trees and birdsong, and closes his eyes completely, to forget about the flickering. He listens to the simple sounds of nature. The void is silent. The forest is not. Martyn Listens.

Joel finds Lizzie. She hasn’t won, she doesn’t truly know how he feels, but she’s more grounding than anything else could be. The feeling of her hand in his is all he needs to shake off the cold drafts.

Pearl draws. Doesn’t matter what, be it flowers or birds or ideas for builds, ink and graphite stain her hands as she pours pictures from her darkening psyche into reality. There was nothing to do in the void, no escape from her mind, nowhere to let her thoughts free, and if some of her sketches have dark ink around the edges, trying to claim her creations, she pretends not to notice.

Cleo lights candles. They’re a tiny, controlled version of her habit of arson, helping her remember that she doesn’t have to go for the kill right now. They are warm, smell like cinnamon and cloves, give small, soft, flickering light, and are the farthest thing from the void.

Scar pets his cats. He doesn’t need to go looking for them. He isn’t sure if they can see the darkness around him or if they just know something’s wrong, but they always find him seconds after it hits. The feeling of their fur, the gentle comforting purring, all of it reminds him that he’s not there, not the games, not the emptiness. He’ll often end up falling asleep where he sits, dizziness and floating mixing with the soft feline weight pressed against him, and the low rumbling follows him into his dreams, filling them with sunlight and summer breezes.

they are all winners. They all deal with the consequences. The dizziness will never completely leave, the void will never stop haunting the edges of their minds and memories, but having won a game so focused on life and death and survival, they have learned to live in the present.

-🎶

PT 2:

an addendum to my previous ask: no one realized that winning had that side effect until after last life. I mentioned Grian fleeing the void in his section because he already had those episodes, ever since leaving. If they got more common after third life, he just assumed it was because he messed with void magic again, got a bit too close to the rest of the Watchers again; it was probably like this when he first left, wasn’t it? It wasn’t until Scott started having dizzy spells that Grian realized what was really happening.

I’m sure he doesn’t feel any guilt over that.

-🎶

what’s the ecological niche of the watchers

If you happen to be aro and ace, you may have seen a new ace flag floating around:

This was made by Instagram Black ace activist _aceingrace_ (see their profile here). The yellow stripe specifically stands for intersectionality and multiculturalism (plus joy), something that I think would be a nice addition to the aromantic flag (or any flag that doesn't have that, for that matter).

If you're wondering what was wrong with the original flag, it's the white stripe, which stood for "allosexual partners and allies", something that didn't sit right with many aces for obvious reasons.

Something similar is going on with the white stripe in the aro flag: it's defined as such:

the ‘platonic’ stripe - friendship/platonic and aesthetic attraction/queerplatonic relationships/family, the importance and validity of all non-romantic relationships and feelings and non-romantic forms of love etc.

That doesn't sit right with me as, without any shoutout specifying it's not a universal aro value and experience, it leaves aplatonic and loveless aroa estranged from their own flag.

So I've made an attempt at a new aro flag. Here it is:

I wanted it to match the new ace flag so we finally have the same amount of stripes!

It is not meant to replace the original aro flag, but rather be displayed alongside it for those who find it meaningful.

I just need the community's feedback on what meanings to assign to each stripe! Please, if you're aro-spec, take a couple minutes to fill in the form.

If you're an ally please please please spread this around!

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