Canon Divergence King

So from then on whenever one of us called something problematic, he would make us talk it out until we could name the “bad” thing we were hinting at. In this particular class, 7/10 it was some type of oppression, and the remainder was like, “I’m uncomfortable because this is very new/confusing/pushing boundaries that made me feel safe.”

Once we stopped calling things “problematic” and stopping at that, class got way more interesting and... we all had to say, like, “that’s racist” or “that’s misogynistic” or “ew capitalism gross” out loud, which a lot of us had never done in a classroom before. Or we had to be like, “Uhhh... I’m not sure what’s so bad?” and confront our own beliefs and that was maybe even more useful.

So.. you know Aroace people are allowed to be in relationships, right? You know that aromantic is a spectrum, and not everyone has the same rule/ boundaries as you when it comes to relationships, yeah?

Popular to contrary belief, Aroace people are allowed to "date".

People in queer platonic relationships are allowed to kiss fuck hold hands and call themselves specifc labels if they see fit. The whole concept of queer platonic relationships are purposly challenging societal norms by loving how ever you want- unromantically.

"This is cute but I like Aroace grace better"

"Grace cant date simon, hes aroace"

"Eva and grace cant be in a relationship if theyre both aroace"

Hey so.. heres the thing. Aroace grace is allowed to be in a relationship.

He's allowed to have a relationship with someone that is also aroace. He's allowed to have a relationship with someone that is romantic and ace, hell, he's allowed to have a relationship with someone whos a literal rock.

Now if you mean you like the idea of grace being uncomfortable with relationship dynamics because you like the repusentation of grace being relationship repulsed and enjoy the themes of Grace ONLY needing friends to be complete as a person because your value as a human should not have anything to do with your ability to feel romantic attraction- THAT is fine!

Love that. Love the idea of that little guy cringing at couples kissing in public. Love him having a ton of friends that he loves very much platonically. And yaknow? Canonly he DOES love a lot. His heart is so full. In the book he talks about his friends and how close he is with them. He loves those b-words.

Saying he is incapable of love and relationships is doing exactly what mainstream media does- Makes the entire charater alone and isolated with little to no compelxity of their feelings or emotions. Grace loves A LOT. Maybe too much at times for some people and not enough towards others.

But we need to stop saying "but grace is aroace" under queer platonic ship art/fics.

Not only are you damaging the fandom by causing seperation but you are also making the claim that aroace people in relationships are not valid in their identity and I do not dig that at all.

Feel free to respectfully discuss or debate if I'm misunderstanding something. But block me if you think aroace people can not be in QPR's or love someone because they're "incapable" of it.

Thank you for coming to my ted talk

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