buck and pepa doing the dishes together is so personal but also puts buck very much in the place of eddieās. well. wife. latino communities? incredibly misogynistic. not that eddie is, but he benefits from it as a man whether he intends to or not. and heās doing good work to unlearn the machismo and toxic masculinity in our culture, but it still exists. itās unfortunate but itās true, iāve seen it every year at every family dinner, at every christmas. thereās a bone deep machismo in our culture and it sucks but itās there. so of course it was pepa in the kitchen doing the dishes ā just like itās always my mother and her sister and sister-in-law and their mother. and, obviously, narratively it had to be that way for buck and pepa to have their conversation, but, as a latino born in latam, raised in texas of all places within a latino community, all i could see was buck, the partner, going in to help with the dishes. his husband and child stayed bonding in the living room, and he joined his in-law to help wash the post home cooked meal mess. it put buck in a place within eddieās family we have never seen him occupy. heās not just eddieās partner to eddie, heās eddieās partner to the rest of his family as well. buckās got a place in eddieās life he will never shake, even if he and eddie marry other people, heāll still be eddieās partner. heāll still be the one that gossips with tia pepa and abuela in the kitchen as they put the plates away ā buck washes, pepa dries, abuela tells them stories of her wild youth. i donāt think eddie has noticed in the same way i doubt fish see water, itās just always been there. of course buckās place is with his family. of course his family treats buck as his partner. why wouldnāt they? just such awesome choices to put buck in the kitchen with pepa doing the dishes where eddieās wife would typically be. like. do you guys see how insane that is.
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