Me, a Black Fae™

The dumbass posted this picture on IG two days. Don’t ask why this is Bad™, because I’m tired of explaining why this shit isn’t cool; The Negro Association™ has explained plenty of times why the shit is whack. But if you rly wanna be That Bitch™…

This isn’t about Jongin, specifically, but Auntie Jackie takes you through why wearing dreads as a non-Black person isn’t cute or cool.

And because it needs to be said - I don’t care why you think I’m overreacting, I don’t care what your Black friend (who only exists in your mind) has to say about cultural appropriation, I don’t wanna hear y'all fall over yourselves to say this should be okay because you were too braindead to see someone else wearing dreads get called out for the shit.

And I especially don’t wanna hear from the Pick Me Coon Squad in the back who prioritize white acceptance over people in their own community having an issue with something.

No one said you gotta have a problem with it just because the rest of us do, but pls remember that we are not a Monolith; we can all have differing opinions on what counts as cultural appropriation (it’s 2019, we are not debating if it exists or not, cause it is quite literally observable phenomenon), while ALSO not invalidating each other’s opinions.

If you didn't care about my opinion, then why comment?!?!? Hmm?!?!?! No one forced you to read my post, much less comment. A quick flick of the block button would've made my post disappear from the tag, if it was that serious.

The “full” acronym at one point was “GL”, after lesbians fought against male homosexuality being the “face” of the movement (i.e., the Alliance for Gay Artists (AGA), founded in 1982, was renamed the Alliance for Gay and Lesbian Artists shortly thereafter; and the Gay Activists Alliance never included “Lesbian” in their title).

The “full” acronym at another point was “LGB”, only after bisexual activists campaigned fiercely to be included, and is often still not even included in acronyms

The “full” acronym at yet another point was “LGBT”, only after trans activists campaigned fiercely to be included

Queer was added to the acronym after it was reclaimed and re-politicized by ACT UP off-shoot Queer Nation in the early 1990s. LGBTQ has been a thing since the 90s.

ONE Archives, which is the largest repository of LGBTQIA+ materials in the world and was founded by some of the principle members of the early (1950s-60s) homophile movement, which led to the gay rights movement post-Stonewall, uses the full acronym LGBTQ on their website and also freely uses the word “Queer” interchangeably.

As of 2014, NOW (National Organization for Women) agreed to switch to use of the full LGBTQIA acronym, and it likely isn’t the only large social rights organization to have done so

Many LGBTQ+ magazines use LGBTQ, including One (which has existed in some form since the 1950s) and The Advocate, use LGBTQ or LGBTQIA as the full acronym and regularly use “queer” as a phrase (and, in fact, some articles have welcomed asexual people and their narratives as part of the queer experience).

as if trans people don’t already have to deal with their oppressors (cis people) being in their community

as if LGBTQIA+ people of color don’t have to deal with LGBTQIA+ white people in the community

as if LBTQIA+ women don’t have to deal with GBTQIA+ men in the community

as if disabled LGBTQIA+ people don’t have to deal with able-bodied LGBTQIA+ people in the community

the LGBTQIA+ community is huge and consists of people with multiply-overlapping identities and privileges. we all (unless you’re a cis, able-bodied, wealthy, white gay man) have to deal with a member of our oppressing class in the LGBTQIA+ community

Firstly, I'm ace. I don't feel comfortable putting that on my social media, because I don't want to have to explain that I'm hypersexual because of trauma in case some asshole (like you) comes at me sideways cause I wrote something sexual in a post.

Secondly, I'm gay (and nonbinary, but that's not really that relevant right now). Do you know many times I've been asked how I know I'm gay if I'm a virgin?!?!?! Or how many times people have told me that I should at least try it with a girl before swearing them off?!?!?!?

Your experiences aren't that different from mine, sis. I might have realized that I was SGA before I was ace, but it's the same shit. The difference between us and cishet aces is that we experience this thing called Systemic Oppression for being LGBT. There's literal laws in place (on top of societal prejudice, mind you) to pressure us into either being CisHet or dying.

If you think you’re a lesbian for a month or a year or your whole life and then realize you’re bi, that’s also fine!!