Okay. This is, I must preface, not a fully coherent monologue covering every fringe case, nor am I a trans man. But I fucking hate TMA/TME and a big part of why is because it is emblematic of a childish exclusionism of trans mascs.
Here's the thing, misogyny does not just happen to women, because women are not the only gender in a patriarchal society, even purposely ignoring any nuances created by race, socioeconomic position, or fucking body type, misogyny is a spectrum of incredibly robust systems of instinct baked deeply into pretty much everyone. Women are incredibly misogynistic toward each other, and toxic masculinity is, itself, caused by misogyny.
The patriarchy does not leave you alone because you're perceived as a man, it just puts you in a different position.
Assuming that trans men are always perceived as men, which is bullshit in and of itself, they are still subject to misogyny.
TME/TMA is a useless binary because it essentially a poorly justified way of saying transfem vs transmascs, because if you categorize that only, only transfems endure transmisogny, you have to reckon with the fact that nearly every human on the planet is TME. Which is not how they treat it in practice.
More than that, not even cis people are exempt! If you're GNC or if you're in a marginalized group who's femininity(or even masculinity!) isn't recognized, you can certainly fucking endure transmisogny. But let's not get into how AFAB butches struggle with it because then we'd get uncomfortably close to sympathizing with someone who isn't transfem, or, god forbid, might be transmasc.
So first, you refuse to let trans men have a word which, frankly, they deserve as much as you. They contribute to these goddamn conversations, they contribute to this goddamn community and frankly, I don't fucking think anyone in the queer community needs to innately be a contributor in the first place.
Then, and here's the fun part, when they still need something to describe their experiences, you shut them down as if its your fucking right to define the way ANOTHER marginalized group is oppressed. Nobody that dedicated to constantly having the floor deserves it.
So what do you want them to do? Crawl in a hole and die? Never inconvenience you with the uncomfortable fact that they exist and are hurt in ways genuinely more similar to you than different?
Nobody has to answer that, because it is impossibly clear that these assholes, whether or not they'd even admit it to themselves (and quite a few say it with their whole chest), just want transmascs to become even more invisible if they can't just be wiped away.
The worst part, the absolute worst part is how they've turned their back on their community in pursuit of a burgeoning sect of radical feminism of which they are doomed to be implacably fringe. Cast away their allies to burrow themselves next to a snake den.