My Friend Needs URGENT Help
Hey there, lads, lasses and non-binary masses. Itās me, after 84 years. My plan was to vanish into thin air and disappear into a cave of shame and guilt for abandoning this blog but this is really a desperate situation. I may leave links to my stuff at the end but Iām not here for myself.Ā
PLEASE TAKE A MOMENT TO READ THROUGH THIS. ITāS REALLY URGENT.
My friend really needs help. Sheās Portuguese like me and Iāve known her for about 16 years. She fled an abusive household at the age of 18 (2010). She had to endure an abusive mother, who would belittle her at any given chance and beat her up for no reason (with her hands, with broomsticks, throwing objects at her) saying that she would never have any friends because she was fat and fat people have no friends (she developed bulimia because of that which remains rather untreated because thereās no money for treatment and no support for mental illness unless youāre ādangerousā in this country) and making fun of her for liking girly stuff (which is incredibly weird, because sheās a cisfemale). Her brother would back her mother up and her father had Chronic Depression (as a side note, itās ironic that her brother would say that depressed people were weak when his own father had that illness) and he wasnāt home often because he couldnāt stand his wife and he couldnāt stand the treatment his daughter was receiving. Her mother most certainly had Schizoid Personality Disorder, because my friend has it too and that tends to be genetic more often than not. Her mother was involved with Dark Magic and stuff like that (I understand if you donāt believe in it) but for a young child it was terrifying. The final thing her mother did was say she would rather see her dead than with another woman when she came out.
Thatās the story in very broad lines.
She told me all this about two weeks ago after all these years because we lost touch for a while since weāre birds of a feather and tend to isolate when shit hits the fan. Sheās been having it rough ever since 2010 because she never finished high school and has been jumping from shit job to shit job ever since. Her lovers have all been shitty and treating her like shit because despite all the shit she endured, this girl is a goddamn angel and she always puts everyone else before her and does everything for the people she likes, which could be okay, if she doesnāt seem to be under some sort of curse and always lands shitty girlfriends (I know, itās not just cismen that can be trash, ciswomen can also be trash). The latest one is also mentally ill and has Borderline Disorder along with Depression and Iām not going to get into many details about what the disorder is about, but basically sheās not that bad of a person but she is very irresponsible and thatās what brings me to the point of this post and why this is so important and urgent. This girlfriend (who is now just āfriendā because they broke since it was clear that it wouldnāt work like that) had episodes and had to quit many jobs because of that to get some form of treatment (which in Portugal is still very hard to get if youāre not rich because thereās little to no awareness about Mental Illness and people tend to consider you either crazy or an attention whore or lazy and Iām sure thatās relatable to many of you, unfortunately). Sheās currently in France to work as an Au Pair but she hasnāt gotten any money for her work yet and had an episode (because she didnāt take her medication with her and had no money to buy them there)Ā and theyāre still in good terms and share the same flat.
However, my friend is currently unemployed and if she doesnāt pay her rent until the 8th, she will most definitely be evicted from the flat with nobody to turn to because sheās not on speaking terms with her relatives and extended family and her flatmateās family canāt help either because theyāre also poor and have helped as much as they could in the past. My friend and I live far away and she has her furniture and all stuff to take with her and absolutely no money and I really feel powerless and hopeless for her. Iāve been trying to help as I can for the last couple days but thereās really nothing much I can do because Iām also broke (but I live with my mum still and am still studying and shit, so despite my Little Issues, Iām about somehow) and she has no friendsā places she can crash at indefinitely.
So, after this long ass post, which I hope you read and thank you dearly if you did, I want to share a couple links where you can send some form of support, if you can. Everything is welcome and equally appreciated! She needs around ā¬500 (around $581) until the 8th to pay for the rent and avoid the streets. So, really, any help is very, very welcome
Sheās mostly a cosplayer who makes her own costumes and takes part in competitions and she enjoys acting and drawing, even though she lacks confidence and has the aforementioned problems. Her art is mostly traditional and she enjoys drawing androgynous male characters (and sheās got shit on this website for it because apparently she canāt drawĀ āmenā inĀ āfeminineā clothes and positions :) )
In short, sheās one of my oldest friends and one of the strongest girls I know. Sheās super talented and super hard-working and maybe Iām biased and whipped but this is genuinely how I feel. So, here are all the links to her stuff:
Tumblr (she doesnāt post much because of the hate she got)
And I guess thatās all. Please, donāt hesitate to contact me for further queries. I have her permission to make the whole story public and sheās really weary about this (I only knew about it all a couple weeks ago even though weāve been friends since forever, so you see how she feels about all this stuff. I only knew about the mental illness but not in full detail) and itās really a desperate situation. So please, if you can help her out, no matter how small the donation. Please do. Follow her if you appreciate her effort and work if thereās nothing else you can do and reblog this post, so that more people can see it and possibly help.
Thank you again for your time and Iām sorry Iām suddenly turning up after so long only to ask for help. I wouldnāt do this if it wasnāt so urgent and important. So please, Iām literally on my knees praying to everything out there that all goes well and at least this community will be understanding and helpful. Once again, thank you for your time and attention.
(Hereās my twitter account because itās easier to reach me there in case you want to ask something. Yes, I know Iām into kpop too now but that wasnāt the reason why I left this blog. You can ask me about that too, I donāt mind talking, I just donāt want to clog this post even more.)