Can I Slytherin in?

A run-down of the various terms and how and when to use them.

I get the appeal of calling someone ‘my life’ but hayati is not said nearly as often as the fandom has made it out to be. It’s not really the equivalent of ‘baby’ or ‘honey’, it’s a more intense term, is what I’m saying. Habibi is though.

There are tiers to terms of endearment and I’m going to try and break them down.

1. Habibi means ‘my beloved/darling’, in the relationship-sense it can mean ‘my lover’ / ‘my boyfriend’. It is the most commonly-used term to denote affection.

Like, do you have any idea how many Arabic love songs include habibi? If I made a compilation of sound-bites from every song that included ‘habibi’ it would be ten hours-long.

In every day conversations and among thoughtless pet names, it would be habibi.

It requires a different mood/intent/occasion. It can also be used for non-romantic relationships, like friends, pets, siblings or even acquaintances – you know how there are some really friendly people who call everyone sweetie/love?

2. Hayati would be more emotionally-charged and tender scenes, like after Nicky was killed by Keane or when Joe was waxing poetic about his love for him in the van.

Habibi vs Hayati is like the difference between calling someone babe / sweetie / love and calling them love of my life / my heart. 

3. In a flirty sense, you can use ya amar – comparing someone to the Moon is the highest compliment. There’s also ya ‘assal (honey) usually used in regards to someone being sweet i.e. more personality than looks. Same goes for sokkar (sugar). And, of course, ya (g)jamil (Beauty), you can also combine it into ya amar ya (g)jamil (Beautiful Moon).

4. More intensely romantic (can be used for strong familial love) terms include ‘Omri (my entire life) and Hobi (my love)  Rohi (my soul), Albi (my heart), and to a lesser extent ya ‘eyooni (my eyes) sometimes the three can be said in succession habibi, albi, rohi…

You can even make combinations like roh albi (soul of my heart), habib albi (beloved of my heart) and hayat albi (life of my heart).

5. And if you want to get real gushy and cutesy Haboob (darling), Amoori (Moon), ‘Assool (Honey) are like babycakes, sweetie pie, honeybunches etc. Usage depends on the tone, you can either be very lovey-dovey or purposefully cringey.

Unless you’re using babytalk to a literal baby.

6. Those can all also be used with heavy sarcasm/mockery, like when you’re about to tear someone a new one you could be like ‘Ya habibi, ya albi, ya rohi, I’m begging you to stop being such a moron’.

So, yeah, in memes and every day usage it’s habibi, in cheesy flirty scenes it’s ya sokkar/ya ‘assal. In compliments it’s ya amar and in more loving and focused moments it’s rohi, albi, hayati, etc.

(You can use most of these as platonic/familial)

7. There’s also different words for Love. Generally, it’s Hob –> Habibi/Hobi and I Love You is Ana Bahebak. In poetic (romantic) terms, there’s Hawa (Passion/Attraction) like ‘I’m a fool for you’ and ‘Ishq (Ardor) – think Mr. Darcy’s ‘I love you most ardently’ can both denote the process of falling in love, conjugated as Ahwak and A’shiqaq respectively. There’s also Shoq (Longing/Yearning) which sounds like Shok the word for thorns.

But outside of poetry and songs, I Love You is typically Hob / Ana Bahebak. It’s the clearest and most precise.

To sum up:

Table of comparison:

Habibi = Babe / Sweetie / Darling

Ya Amar = Gorgeous / Beautiful

can we go home now? (next is the team outings to the rooftop!)