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The Mindfuck Never Ends...

I've discovered I have a secret hidden talent of teasing and driving my husband crazy. Maybe all women have it, yes Ladies? Chastity has given me permission to tap into it!

Recently, I allowed my husband to kiss my feet. As mentioned in the previous post, this is now a priviledge and not something he can do without permission.

As he was kissing my feet (and he's very good at it), I had the sudden inspiration to fuck with him. I told him, "Do not look up, you are not allowed. Stay focused on my feet."

He nodded as he continued to lavish my feet with gentle kisses. Then... because I was wearing a dress... down came the panties all the way to the ankles.

"You may kiss my panties," I said.

So he burried his face into my panties, sniffed (men are weird that way!) and kissed my feet and my panties. And looming above him, was my bare freshly shaved pussy... which he was NOT allowed to even look at.

He obeyed, though he groaned a lot, and did not look up. After a minute of this delicious experience, I commanded him: "Do not look up, but put your forehead onto my toes."

He did as he was told, and I bent down, and pulled my panties back up!

I lowered my dress, then said, "You can look up now."

My husband introduced me to Male Chastity.  He brought to my attention there was something called a Cock Cage.  I thought that sounded immediately fun, and told him to go ahead and order one.

A week or so later this plastic CB-600 cage showed up! Yes, let’s put it on right now!

I immediately thought it was great fun, and loved to make him wear it and torture him with teasing.  What was not to like? I just thought it was fun. It immediately put a smile on my face, but then again, I didn’t take it more seriously than that. It was fun.

But he always wanted ‘more’… and I admit I saw it as just ‘another thing to do’.  It’s not that I didn’t want to do things for my husband, I did, I just started to see it as something more I had to do, and we were both busy.

But what changed was when I saw that Male Chastity games were for ME TOO. I wanted him locked, because I got what I wanted.  And I really liked getting what I wanted.  I was good at receiving what I wanted.

I just didn’t want to work for it as if it were a burden!  But then I saw it as a co creative game between the two of us. And I started to really look at what I got from this arrangement. 

What do I get from Male Chastity?

A Body Servant -  My husband daily rubs my shoulders, or my feet.  At least once a week he sets up the massage table and I get a deep, full, 2 hour massage.  When we watch TV, he sits behind me and rubs my shoulders.  I don’t get tired of this. I don’t rub him back, though I am affectionate with him. I’ve gotten used to his strong hands giving my body the work it needs, daily.  This is just the way it is, and I love it.  I hear from other women whose men hardly ever touch them, and I’m shocked. I’m spoiled for usre.

A Sex Slave – My husband’s focus is on pleasing me sexually.  I don’t care about pleasing him sexually. We have sex when I want, and I get the orgasms.  There is an old Quinn Klaxon caption that says: Only She Cums. Yep.  I have as many orgasms as I want, and I want far more now that we have this arrangement, and he doesn’t have any, or very few.  Doesn’t bother me at all. My sexual pleasure first, and really… only my sexual pleasure.  He serves me fully in this regard. (And yes, I realize he gains great sexual pleasure from serving me, and touching me, and seeing me in pleasure).

Cook/Housekeeper – My husband does a lot of housekeeping, and most of the cooking.  I clean dishes once in a while, and the house, because I enjoy helping out and I’m a part of the family.  But he does the most of it, and I’m happy about that. The best part is that he does it the WAY I LIKE IT.

Gentleman – My husband treats me with deep masculine respect, and takes care of me like a true gentleman. In speech, in attention, and in service. He’s there for me, he’s strong, he’s mostly silent, he’s still, and he’s my rock upon which I am secure.  I love his deep masculine strength and how he takes care of me. 

Fun – It’s a lot of fun to keep your man locked and focused on you. The power, the teasing, the love, the service, sometimes even the sadism (just a little!). Yeah… I get a lot of fun and creativity from the whole thing.

So What Does He Get?

Writing that out it sounds very one sided, but it’s actually not.  To understand that let’s look at something I read years ago. 

A Submissive wants to told what to do. 

A masochist needs pain. 

A slave is pure service to his/her Domme/Dom.

While we have fun with me telling him what to do, and punishing him and torturing him and teasing him… deeply my husband loves me and channels all of his sexual energy into a depth of connection through service. It’s kinky weird, but it really isn’t. It’s love. Deep service not just to me, but to the FEMININE.  He’s powerful man who chooses to channel is love in a certain way.  He’s not unlike Taoist sexual masters who avoid orgasm and circulate their energy in full body orgasms.  Again, we are kinky, and have a shit ton of fun with that stuff… but deep underneath it all, this is a loving partnership relationship that keeps the spice going long, long, after most people’s has faded.

He also gets a shit ton of sexual energy from me.  We play like we were kids.  Still. Year after year.  Something about teasing the shit out of him…

So What Are My Duties?

This was the part that got me started writing. You see, I wanted him to do all of the things above without me having to do anything.  I know.  Kind of shitty, but it went back to old stuff in my head about sexual duties. I’ve got to do all this stuff… FOR HIM.  Then I realized A) I like doing things for him, and B) keeping him in chastity actually is a FUN sexual duty and C) It pays off (see above list).

Keep Him In Slave Mode

There is a place he goes to in service to me, that is slave, it’s an emotionally charged depth of love and service, and it’s what keeps him going.  It sexually charged submission slave service. It’s not the submission I was talking about above, it’s the SLAVE offering, of a man willing to die for his family to protect them.  Intimately connected to death in some ways.  But this is a ‘sexually charged’ submission, a state of being. That’s my job, to feed that state. Keep him in this ‘submissive’ state.  That requires me to be dominant, and these are the things I do to stay dominant, and keep him submissive.

One – Control His Cock With a Cock Cage – Control the orgasm, control the male. He is kept in chastity longer and longer now.  It works. He enjoys it, it’s a fun challenge for him, and I enjoy, it gives me power and pleasure, and it deepens his submission.  Gives him access to a deeper masculine focus on the feminine.

Two –Service – He wants to do things for me. Give him things to do, and do it in a sexy way.  Part of the game is MAKING him do it.  FORCING him to do it. Now of course, he doesn’t have to do anything he doesn’t want to, he’s grown man, but if I TELL HIM to lick my pussy, or clean the house, in a dominant sexy way, we both have a lot more fun.  I used to think it was a job to give him things to do, but then I realized I was doing that all the time anyway. Can you take the trash out? Can you pick up eggs on the way home? Can you call your Mother and tell her we are going to be late for Sunday dinner?  Can you give me a footrub, my heels are killing me from walking in them all day at work?  Can you change the oil in the car? I ask him for things ALL THE TIME… anyway.  So why not making it a game and TELL HIM he has to do it because he’s a slave?  Yes, it’s more work, but it works, and it’s actually fun. And why not make taking the trash out fun?

Three – Discipline – My husband benefits from being beaten once in a while, I think it’s a BODY thing, not that he needs it, and I have a bit of a sadist streak liking to beat him.  Also… there is the sexy POWER dynamic. I tell him to do something, he doesn’t do it, there are consequences. It’s sexy. It’s powerful. He breaks the rules once in a while just to feel my power, which then gives him that deep slave feeling.  So yes, I have to discipline him sometimes, and it can be really fun, and really creative. I’ve come up with some really fucked up punishments. I impress myself sometimes. He tests the limits of my rule… and sometimes I get tired of that… but things are always better if I stay firm and consistent.

Four – Tease and Denial – Build suspense.  Give him energy, give him energy… and pull it back last second. This seems cruel, if someone did it to me I would slit their throat, but he loves it and I love it too.  It’s a big part of the work… giving him that pleasure of teasing… and it helps put him into slave mode, which gives me more focus on me. 

Five – Experience as much pleasure as possible. Porn stars make ridiculous noise for a reason. The masculine LOVES to see the feminine in pleasure.  Women I talk with have a hard time understanding this, they feel embarrassed, etc.  But if you have loud orgasms, and with as much energy as possible enjoy his slavery… he’s going to fucking love it. And it’s something that really keeps him going and keeps him in slave mode.

Sum it Up

Cage his cock and lower his status (he’s a slave, you are a mistress)…

Give him things to do in a fun sexy way…

Punish him regularly for not doing them or not doing them correctly (in a fun nasty dirty sexy way)…

Tease him sadistically with tons and tons of feminine sexual energy but denial him that ultimate ejaculation…

While enjoying it so deeply and thoroughly with such feminine bliss and radiance and pleasure that he can’t help but worship you.

-X

My husband introduced me to Male Chastity.  He brought to my attention there was something called a Cock Cage.  I thought that sounded immediately fun, and told him to go ahead and order one.

A week or so later this plastic CB-600 cage showed up! Yes, let’s put it on right now!

I immediately thought it was great fun, and loved to make him wear it and torture him with teasing.  What was not to like? I just thought it was fun. It immediately put a smile on my face, but then again, I didn’t take it more seriously than that. It was fun.

But he always wanted ‘more’… and I admit I saw it as just ‘another thing to do’.  It’s not that I didn’t want to do things for my husband, I did, I just started to see it as something more I had to do, and we were both busy.

But what changed was when I saw that Male Chastity games were for ME TOO. I wanted him locked, because I got what I wanted.  And I really liked getting what I wanted.  I was good at receiving what I wanted.

I just didn’t want to work for it as if it were a burden!  But then I saw it as a co creative game between the two of us. And I started to really look at what I got from this arrangement. 

What do I get from Male Chastity?

A Body Servant -  My husband daily rubs my shoulders, or my feet.  At least once a week he sets up the massage table and I get a deep, full, 2 hour massage.  When we watch TV, he sits behind me and rubs my shoulders.  I don’t get tired of this. I don’t rub him back, though I am affectionate with him. I’ve gotten used to his strong hands giving my body the work it needs, daily.  This is just the way it is, and I love it.  I hear from other women whose men hardly ever touch them, and I’m shocked. I’m spoiled for usre.

A Sex Slave – My husband’s focus is on pleasing me sexually.  I don’t care about pleasing him sexually. We have sex when I want, and I get the orgasms.  There is an old Quinn Klaxon caption that says: Only She Cums. Yep.  I have as many orgasms as I want, and I want far more now that we have this arrangement, and he doesn’t have any, or very few.  Doesn’t bother me at all. My sexual pleasure first, and really… only my sexual pleasure.  He serves me fully in this regard. (And yes, I realize he gains great sexual pleasure from serving me, and touching me, and seeing me in pleasure).

Cook/Housekeeper – My husband does a lot of housekeeping, and most of the cooking.  I clean dishes once in a while, and the house, because I enjoy helping out and I’m a part of the family.  But he does the most of it, and I’m happy about that. The best part is that he does it the WAY I LIKE IT.

Gentleman – My husband treats me with deep masculine respect, and takes care of me like a true gentleman. In speech, in attention, and in service. He’s there for me, he’s strong, he’s mostly silent, he’s still, and he’s my rock upon which I am secure.  I love his deep masculine strength and how he takes care of me. 

Fun – It’s a lot of fun to keep your man locked and focused on you. The power, the teasing, the love, the service, sometimes even the sadism (just a little!). Yeah… I get a lot of fun and creativity from the whole thing.

So What Does He Get?

Writing that out it sounds very one sided, but it’s actually not.  To understand that let’s look at something I read years ago. 

A Submissive wants to told what to do. 

A masochist needs pain. 

A slave is pure service to his/her Domme/Dom.

While we have fun with me telling him what to do, and punishing him and torturing him and teasing him… deeply my husband loves me and channels all of his sexual energy into a depth of connection through service. It’s kinky weird, but it really isn’t. It’s love. Deep service not just to me, but to the FEMININE.  He’s powerful man who chooses to channel is love in a certain way.  He’s not unlike Taoist sexual masters who avoid orgasm and circulate their energy in full body orgasms.  Again, we are kinky, and have a shit ton of fun with that stuff… but deep underneath it all, this is a loving partnership relationship that keeps the spice going long, long, after most people’s has faded.

He also gets a shit ton of sexual energy from me.  We play like we were kids.  Still. Year after year.  Something about teasing the shit out of him…

So What Are My Duties?

This was the part that got me started writing. You see, I wanted him to do all of the things above without me having to do anything.  I know.  Kind of shitty, but it went back to old stuff in my head about sexual duties. I’ve got to do all this stuff… FOR HIM.  Then I realized A) I like doing things for him, and B) keeping him in chastity actually is a FUN sexual duty and C) It pays off (see above list).

Keep Him In Slave Mode

There is a place he goes to in service to me, that is slave, it’s an emotionally charged depth of love and service, and it’s what keeps him going.  It sexually charged submission slave service. It’s not the submission I was talking about above, it’s the SLAVE offering, of a man willing to die for his family to protect them.  Intimately connected to death in some ways.  But this is a ‘sexually charged’ submission, a state of being. That’s my job, to feed that state. Keep him in this ‘submissive’ state.  That requires me to be dominant, and these are the things I do to stay dominant, and keep him submissive.

One – Control His Cock With a Cock Cage – Control the orgasm, control the male. He is kept in chastity longer and longer now.  It works. He enjoys it, it’s a fun challenge for him, and I enjoy, it gives me power and pleasure, and it deepens his submission.  Gives him access to a deeper masculine focus on the feminine.

Two –Service – He wants to do things for me. Give him things to do, and do it in a sexy way.  Part of the game is MAKING him do it.  FORCING him to do it. Now of course, he doesn’t have to do anything he doesn’t want to, he’s grown man, but if I TELL HIM to lick my pussy, or clean the house, in a dominant sexy way, we both have a lot more fun.  I used to think it was a job to give him things to do, but then I realized I was doing that all the time anyway. Can you take the trash out? Can you pick up eggs on the way home? Can you call your Mother and tell her we are going to be late for Sunday dinner?  Can you give me a footrub, my heels are killing me from walking in them all day at work?  Can you change the oil in the car? I ask him for things ALL THE TIME… anyway.  So why not making it a game and TELL HIM he has to do it because he’s a slave?  Yes, it’s more work, but it works, and it’s actually fun. And why not make taking the trash out fun?

Three – Discipline – My husband benefits from being beaten once in a while, I think it’s a BODY thing, not that he needs it, and I have a bit of a sadist streak liking to beat him.  Also… there is the sexy POWER dynamic. I tell him to do something, he doesn’t do it, there are consequences. It’s sexy. It’s powerful. He breaks the rules once in a while just to feel my power, which then gives him that deep slave feeling.  So yes, I have to discipline him sometimes, and it can be really fun, and really creative. I’ve come up with some really fucked up punishments. I impress myself sometimes. He tests the limits of my rule… and sometimes I get tired of that… but things are always better if I stay firm and consistent.

Four – Tease and Denial – Build suspense.  Give him energy, give him energy… and pull it back last second. This seems cruel, if someone did it to me I would slit their throat, but he loves it and I love it too.  It’s a big part of the work… giving him that pleasure of teasing… and it helps put him into slave mode, which gives me more focus on me. 

Five – Experience as much pleasure as possible. Porn stars make ridiculous noise for a reason. The masculine LOVES to see the feminine in pleasure.  Women I talk with have a hard time understanding this, they feel embarrassed, etc.  But if you have loud orgasms, and with as much energy as possible enjoy his slavery… he’s going to fucking love it. And it’s something that really keeps him going and keeps him in slave mode.

Sum it Up

Cage his cock and lower his status (he’s a slave, you are a mistress)…

Give him things to do in a fun sexy way…

Punish him regularly for not doing them or not doing them correctly (in a fun nasty dirty sexy way)…

Tease him sadistically with tons and tons of feminine sexual energy but denial him that ultimate ejaculation…

While enjoying it so deeply and thoroughly with such feminine bliss and radiance and pleasure that he can’t help but worship you.

-X

The Passion That Comes With Long-Term Chastity

This image says it perfectly: When you can feel his desire in every touch and sense him throbbing helplessly in his cage, you know you’re playing the game right.

Prolonged chastity creates a level of passion and intimacy most couples only experience in the honeymoon phase. The longer you keep him locked and consistently teased, the more he wants you. That built-up hunger eventually boils over. He’ll press his body against yours, kiss you with raw need, and grind his locked cock against you like he’s trying to fuck you through the cage. No words needed — his desperate energy says everything.

And the best part? He can’t actually fuck you… unless you decide to let him. All that masculine urgency gets redirected straight into pleasing you. I’ve never cum harder than during these moments when he’s been denied for weeks.

This is also why consistent chastity and teasing work so well. Women naturally crave consistency and steadiness from their men — reliability, attentiveness, and emotional presence every single day. In the same way, he deeply craves your consistent participation in this lifestyle. When you stay devoted and steady as his keyholder — teasing him regularly, enforcing the rules, and keeping the dynamic alive — he feels truly seen, desired, and secure in your leadership. Your consistency shows him that you’re as committed to the game as he is, which makes him even more eager to be the steady, devoted partner you want.

This passion doesn’t stay in the bedroom either. Consistent chastity and teasing create real marriage benefits outside the bedroom too: he becomes more attentive, more helpful around the house, more romantic, and far less argumentative. He’s sweeter, more eager to serve, and genuinely focused on making you happy. The dynamic brings you closer and makes everyday life smoother and more loving.

But these benefits only happen when you stay consistent as the keyholder. You have to keep teasing him — texting him, wearing the key, putting on lingerie and heels, grabbing his cage, bending over in front of him, etc. If you go too long without engaging, the magic fades.

Once he hits one of those intense passionate bursts, you have two great options:

Unlock him and let him fuck you like a wild animal (he probably won’t last long, but it’s hot).

My favorite — Keep him locked and let him channel all that desperate energy into worshipping you and giving you multiple orgasms. Then leave him denied so you can do it all over again the next day.

(If you want to feel him “inside” you without unlocking, just make him wear a strap-on.)

Keeping Him on Edge When I’m Not Around

One of the things I enjoy most is maintaining control even when I’m not physically with him. Whenever he wants to go do something — golfing, work, gaming with friends, hanging out, or a work trip — there are always stipulations and rules. I get to decide what he wears under his clothes, and he has to follow through without complaint.

Usually I keep it simple but effective: a garter belt with stockings and panties. But sometimes I’ll add more. He might have a small butt plug in, temporary tattoos in hidden places (“locked”, “sissy”, “owned”), a red ass from some pre-spanks, subtly curled eyelashes, or just the faintest hint of lip gloss. These little secrets stay completely between us while he tries to act normal.

Golf is one of the best opportunities for this since he goes every week with his friends. I’ll have him wear a garter belt and stockings under his golf clothes. Every time he swings or bends over, he feels the straps and knows how ridiculous he looks — teeing off in lingerie while his buddies are completely normal. While he’s out, I send teasing texts and do random compliance checks — he has five minutes to send me a clear photo showing his garter, stockings, and locked cage.

Sometimes we go together. I get to wear cute, sexy golf outfits that keep him straining in his cage the whole time. I handle the putting once he reaches the green, and if he’s close to par I’ll occasionally miss on purpose just to give him extra spanks later. Being there in person also lets me demand real-time inspections — he has to find a semi-private moment so I can see, touch, and inspect his cage right there on the course.

i'll text him, “How’s my pretty princess doing? do you feel pretty every time you swing 😏”

There’s extra fun and humiliation when the cart girl comes by. It’s so cute knowing that he and the cart girl actually have something in common; they’re both there to serve. I'm sure he gets extra polite and a little flustered around her because he’s secretly emasculated in his pretty lingerie underneath. Instead of feeling jealous, it just makes me laugh knowing he’ll see her while securely locked away in my cute little cage.

When we play together, I love teasing him around the cart girl. I’ll make small talk with her about how I’ve “got him all locked up” (metaphorically). If it’s a course we’ll likely never return to, I’ve been known to get bolder. Once I straight-up told the cart girl he was locked in chastity. She didn’t believe me at first, so I offered to show her a picture. After she saw it and stopped giggling, she wanted real proof. I made him pull his pants down just enough to show her his cute pink cage right there. She laughed so hard! me and her were instant best friends after that and she came by our cart way more often, waving, winking, and blowing kisses. My poor husband was way too embarrassed to even look at her. He practically rushed us off the course after the last hole because he was convinced everyone at the clubhouse knew. (We never planned on going back, so it was the perfect low-risk spot for that kind of fun.)

Other Activities Whether he’s at work, gaming, out with friends, or on a work trip, the rules are similar. He has to send me at least one cage picture while he’s gone, follow any outfit instructions I give him, and stay mindful of the little secrets he’s carrying. I love knowing he’s out there socializing or working while secretly plugged, marked, or dressed underneath.

These rules don’t require much effort from me, but they keep him constantly aware of his place. No matter where he is or who he’s with, there’s always a quiet reminder that he’s locked and owned by me.

The Taboo of Male Chastity

Male chastity is one of those things that is often judged before being understood. Just the idea of locking a device onto a males sex organ, so he can’t get an erection or play with himself, often turns both genders off the idea. It’s like looking in on a bdsm scene for the first time without any knowledge that it’s consensual and being creeped out. However, the taboo is created only out of misunderstanding of what it actually is, and what it actually does.

Male chastity, in it’s most basic sense, is abstinence. It’s just a device that aids a male to remain abstinent for his partner while giving her the authority to decide if and when his abstinence ends.  So chastity combined with her authority, just makes abstinence more fun, it makes it something difficult to endure, resulting in much deeper intimacy. It’s also something that trains him to overcome all of his lust, and focus his attention not on his selfish desires, but on hers. It makes chastity the perfect tool for developing a sex life that works both ways and creates a very satisfied female partner, and a very happy attentive male.

The honor system can work, but generally it takes a lot more work, and many more accidents along the way. Tease and denial without chastity is definitely possible, and can be a lot of fun. However, chastity does add an extra dimension, because it is a device that is wrapped around his genitals, and grips him gently all day long, reminding him often of his sacrifice for her. It serves to keep her on his mind, which makes him automatically more romantic, more chivalrous, kind, thoughtful, and overall, far less argumentative. His sexual release being conditional upon her approval, keeps him in constant devotion to her.  This can really show the difference between the honor system, and using chastity.

The idea that chastity is unsafe and unhygienic is often a concern that puts many off. When done right, and when fitted properly, a male can pee, and keep clean, with minimal removals. This might take a bit of time to get used to, but the better the fit, or even a custom device, and hygiene is not a problem. Neither is safety, because once it fits right, it will not deter him from doing any activity, including swimming, going to the gym, or riding a bicycle. One major concern is that it shrinks the penis over time.  This is a myth that can never be proven because the penis cannot shrink, just like it cannot be enlarged. The reason for this is because the penis is not a muscle, it is a sponge that fills with blood. After a while in the cage, it gets used to only being able to fill with blood a small amount, and like a sponge, it conforms to the size it’s allowed. Many instances on the internet show a submissive’s penis getting progressively smaller using chastity. This is true only to the extent that he keeps wearing small devices and never allows for a full erection.  Once the cage is removed, after a few days or weeks, the penis will naturally begin to grow back to its usual size. So yes, it can shrink it, but only if it’s never allowed to grow to its normal size.

Chastity is meant to be fun. It’s really not meant to be a method of sexual denial. It’s meant to be a tool that helps a male deny himself for her. Most males lack the self control, and after a few days, the temptation gets too great and results in gratification. Chastity can really help with this, where the temptation is removed simply because the device reminds him that he’s not allowed to give in to temptation. It becomes a great tool for helping a male conquer lust and develop self control over his own sexual urges. This helps him become a better man, and have more respect for women in general, especially his partner.

Male chastity actually has a long history, and if you look back in time, men have used chastity for hundreds of years. They understood the power of sexual energy, and how it can be used for spiritual exploration, and enhancing and nourishing the physical body for endurance in all things. Many athletes to this day practice abstinence and use their sexual energy to help them win over the competition. Men have also used chastity to bring sexual energy upwards through their body, to cleanse their body of negative energy and old habits, as well as to give themselves multiple, non-ejaculatory orgasms extending throughout their whole body. There is a whole lot men can learn from their sexual energy when it’s directed in ways beyond ejaculation. Chastity teaches submissive males this, and it brings them much more in touch with their body, and as a result more in touch with their partners.

When a couple within a female led relationship can see beyond the taboos of male chastity and try it for themselves, then tend to never go back. There is a huge following now, a new trend that is rising, because of male chastity. The benefits speak for themselves, and the more males come in touch with their bodies, the more they understand about their partner creating harmony. It’s worth trying, even for fun as an experiment, just to attempt to understand it.

Many males fear that going into chastity, and giving up that much control, means that sex will occur less often, but that’s not true at all. Chastity actually sexually charges the relationship, and helps her to develop her own desire, which is something few women ever do. To really explore her desire, and know it’s okay, guilt free, and encouraged by her partner to do so. This sexual charge, combined with her desire, means there will likely be a lot more sex. It’ll just be a different kind of sex, which a submissive male will come to love. He may not get let out of his cage each time, but he’s going to discover the true value of giving pleasure. It will cater directly to his submissive desire, which will bring him deeper into subspace, that alone will automatically be more powerful than a sexual release for him. He will come to love that depth of subspace, through giving pleasure, far more than being released from it. It will make him crave to give pleasure even more.

This Agreement between husband and Wife covers the terms of the training of husband by his Wife to the optimal level of utilitarian and intimate service, as judged by the Wife.  The Wife may use any and all means of enforcement as described herein necessary to achieve the results she desires. It is the intention of both parties that the husband shall become the sex slave of Wife for the term of this Agreement, to be formally trained to serve her, and that the Wife commits to firmly and consistently using whatever force may be necessary to accomplish this goal.

This article has been written for women who’ve just become aware of their husband’s or boyfriend’s interest in male chastity. You’ve probably lots of questions running around in your mind, and although we may not have all the answers we’ll try to give you some tips. The main thing to remember (assuming you want to join his fantasy) is that male chastity can be whatever suits you both as a couple. You don’t have to experience it in the same way as others, you can adapt and use what best suits your love and life styles…

So he’s explained his chastity desires and wants you to join him by becoming his keyholder. What do you do now…

Remind him often of how he has become yours, how you have changed him, how you have made him dependent on you for your love, pleasure, affection, control, and appreciation. Make sure to TELL him how happy you are!

My Secret Photo Folder, Playful Blackmail, and the Friend Who Now Knows

One of my favorite little power moves is my private collection of photos and videos of him. I keep a locked folder on my phone and another on my computer full of pictures of my husband in all sorts of compromising, humiliating situations: dressed up in pretty (and sometimes ridiculous) outfits, posed in embarrassing positions, doing silly or degrading little tasks, even holding up signs or saying humiliating things on camera.

I don’t need them for anything serious — it’s all playful. But every now and then I’ll pull one up on my phone, show it to him with a little smirk, and say something like, “Be a good boy today and do what I asked… or this might find its way into a group chat with all my girlfriends.” He knows it’s just teasing… but the flush on his face tells me it works. It’s our little consensual blackmail game. Harmless, fun, and it keeps him deliciously on edge.

Recently I decided to take things a step further. I had been testing the waters by casually talking about what it would be like to share the idea of his chastity cage with one of my friends, just to see how he would react. He admitted it would be embarrassing, but he never actually said no. So one day I simply told him that I had gone ahead and told one of my friends.

Of course he immediately started asking which friend and why. I just smiled and said, “I can’t tell you which one. That would ruin the fun.”

i had to tell him the reason I ended up telling her is because she was complaining about her own husband’s behavior. She had noticed how much better behaved and more attentive you are, and she asked me what my secret was. So I told her the truth; that I keep you locked in a chastity cage. At first she laughed and didn’t believe me. She kept saying, “Come on, really? What’s the actual secret?”

I told her I was serious. When she still didn’t believe me, I had to show her a couple of the photos I had on my phone to prove it. She finally believed me after i showed her.

When I showed her the picture, her eyes went wide for a second and then she just burst out laughing. She said she was expecting to see some kind of serious-looking cock cage, but when she saw it was a cute little pink one she completely lost it. “Oh my god, it’s pink?” she kept repeating while laughing. She thought it was absolutely perfect for him and so fitting. “That is honestly the cutest thing I’ve ever seen. It suits him so well — I love that you put him in pink!”

We were both giggling about it as she kept staring at the photo. i showed her a few more just for fun. She told me it made the whole thing even better, and that she couldn’t stop imagining him locked up in something so pretty. The way she reacted made it clear just how ridiculous and adorable she found the whole situation.

We ended up talking about it in depth, and now she thinks it’s actually awesome for me. She says she probably won’t do it with her own husband because “he’s too much of a man” to ever go allow himself to be locked like that, but she’s genuinely happy that it works so well for me. She even asked me to keep her updated and tell her everything.

Now, because he doesn’t know which of my friends I told, he’s always on his absolute best behavior whenever any of them come over. He has no idea who knows and who doesn’t, and he clearly doesn’t want to risk pissing off the wrong one. It’s adorable how careful and polite he gets.

I’ve also started using “my friend” as leverage in the most creative ways. I’ll tell him things like, “I was thinking about unlocking you today… but I asked my girlfriend and she said you don’t deserve it. She told me I shouldn’t.” Or, “Sorry babe, but you know how important her opinion is to me. Maybe if you were a little nicer to her when she’s around, she would have said yes.”

Sometimes I take it even further and say, “I even gave her the key to hold onto the last time I saw her. She thought it would be a good idea to keep me from getting tempted. So I don’t even have it right now — I can’t unlock you until she gives it back.”

And whenever I take a new picture of him doing something embarrassing or wearing something humiliating, I’ll casually add, “Now you better do what I asked… or maybe my friend will be getting this picture too. You know how much she loves seeing how I treat you.”

Having a real person who actually knows makes the playful blackmail hit so much harder. It’s no longer just a vague threat — there’s now someone specific who could actually receive it.

On top of all that, I love wearing little visible signals that only people involved in this lifestyle would really understand — a dainty key on a necklace, sometimes a key on my anklet or bracelet. He notices every single time. I’ve even started teasing him that one day I’m going to get a visible key tattoo… and that he’ll need a matching lock tattoo somewhere only I (and the right people) will ever see. It might even become one of those matching couples tattoos I’ve always wanted.

While your chaste pet may grow used to his (yours) blue balls, he will never be comfortable. The pressure, congestion, and tightness are a constant companion; a never ending ache signifying your presence and control.

Please don't let his suffering go to waste. Savor his frustration, his desire, and his need for YOU! Wrap yourself in the power, comfort, and fulfillment his submission and surrender offers.

YOU are the boss - the owner, the tamer., and the trainer. YOU have him by the balls (literally), under your thumb, and on a leash as tight as YOU choose!

Your majesty, your wisdom, and your magical qualities are the foundation of your control, your happiness, his happiness, and the incredibly loving, passionate, and intimate lives you share.

Those long, brutal, lovingly cruel tease and denial sessions are an ideal time to plant your triggers.

As you drive him deeply into subspace, as you become his only focus in the world, as you disarm his rational thoughts, and after digging to unearth his primal being is an optimal time to implant your wants, needs, and expectations.

His inhibitions, protective barriers, and ego will have been rendered useless - lost in his fog of passion, desire, and submission. It is the opportune time to lovingly, calmly, and repetitively explain to your pet your expectations for his behavior and how he can please you.

You are conditioning his mind, and thus, isn't a one and done type of activity. Choose a behavior, or two, and repeatedly return to those wants and needs every T&D session. Drive him deeply under your spell and drill home those behaviors that please you.

With love, righteousness, repetition, and patience you will see a modification in his behavior. An acknowledged and accepted inherent tendency to align his responses and behaviors to YOUR wants and needs.

"My, my, my...," she'd thought to herself when she saw the recently placed order on his laptop he'd carelessly left open. He'd stammered and blushed adorably when she'd mentioned that she saw the order, trying to make an excuse. It wasn't for him. It was a joke, a gag gift for a buddy.

Uh huh. Right. She knew better.

So, when she heard Alexa announce he would be receiving a shipment that afternoon she made her preparations. Well aware of his tendency to take an afternoon nap if he'd worked late the night before... she was ready.

By the time he woke up he was shocked when he realized not only were his arms bound to his bed, but his roommate was straddling him, gazing down at him... grinning mischievously.

Before he could speak she touched her fingertip to his lips. "Shhhh, hush....don't talk. Everything's fine."

Then, she picked up a box that was sitting next to her. "Look what arrived while you were sleeping," she said with a smile. "Want me to open it for you since you're.... well, you're tied to your bed, aren't you sweetie?"

She chuckled at his groan and proceeded to open the package. A moment later she was tauntingly dangling a chastity cage before his eyes.

"Ooooh, look at this," she purred in a seductive voice. "What do we have here? A cock cage? Mmm, now this is hot."

Slowly, sensually, her hips began to roll, forward and back. Grinding gently. Rocking along the length of his cock now trapped beneath her. Giving it no choice but to begin stiffening in response.

As he began to breathe heavily, with her fingers teasingly stroking the chastity device, she gazed down at him. "Is this what you fantasize of?," she asked, her voice soft and sultry. "Having your cock locked up? Unable to touch it?..."

She smirked as it looked as if he could barely breathe. Leaning down, she continued, but now whispering in his ear.

"Straining against your cage anytime you're turned on?... unable to do anything about it?... "

Gently, she turned his head and breathed into his other ear. "Unable to cum... no matter how badly you want it..."

"Oh god...," he moaned softly.

"Mmm, you're getting so hard just thinking about it, aren't you?," she purred. "But, you don't want just the fantasy, do you? No, you want more... you want it to be real. You want to surrender the keys, don't you? Both of them. What you want more than anything is that feeling of knowing that a woman is now completely in control of your cock... and that there's absolutely nothing you can do about it."

"Oh... my... god....."

"Well guess what, baby?," she teased with a chuckle. "Today is your lucky day. Because I'm about to lock up your cock and take both of the keys. Don't worry though, I'm going to work slowly. I'll give you all the time in the world that you need to stop me. If you don't want this, all you have to do is say, "Stop"... and I promise that I will. It's that simple."

She paused briefly then continued, "But, if you don't? And the lock clicks shut? Mmm, well then sweetie... it'll be too late for you then. Your cock will be mine. Understand?"

When he nodded his head she couldn't but chuckle when the sound of her voice cooing, "Good boy," had him whimpering in response.

True to her word, her fingers worked slowly. Deftly. Gently. Taking her time, carefully manipulating his balls and his cock into the device.

Although he trembled as she worked, his body gradually beginning to glisten with perspiration, he remained silent, not uttering a word. His eyes watched her every move as if he were ensnared in a trance.

When only one step remained she paused and said, "Sweetie?," then proceeded to dangle the lock before his eyes. She smiled as he swallowed hard, but still remained silent. She remained motionless for a moment, making sure he had every opportunity to stop him.

He didn't. And a moment later, the lock clicked shut. The moment that it did he gasped, and said, "Wait!..."

"I'm sorry sweetie, it's too late. I gave you plenty of chances," she said with a smile. Rising from the bed she dangled the keys tauntingly, adding, "I'm just going to put these away for safe keeping. I'll be right back though... and when I am, we're going to give your cage a thorough test drive. I'll see how hot and bothered I can make you... and you can find out what it feels like when your cock is trying so hard to get stiff but all it can do is strain against its cage. Sound fun?"

"Oh my god, I can't believe this...," he said softly.

"Oh sweetie," she smiled. "We've not even started yet. Just wait until a month has passed... you can't begin to imagine how you'll be feeling by then, it's going be crazy for you."

Goal:

Schedule and do a one week FLR relationship trial. Make it deliberately tough and see how reality of situation feels. Focus will be almost entirely non sexual and on serving & supporting her as head of the household. She is completely in charge & He does all household chores etc while she supervises and gets a chance to relax.

Contract:

-Agree to rules up front then husband has to follow until agreed upon time period expires. -Wife retains sole authority to add & edit the rules throughout the trial at her discretion.

Duration:

-One week starting from 12am Saturday and running until 11:59pm Friday.

-Wife has right to renew/extend at her discretion for an additional week if notifies husband before 10pm on Friday.

Expectations:

-Husband is to focus on making wife’s week as easy, comfortable and relaxing as possible by taking on essentially all chores during the trial, proactively looking for additional ways to please her and focusing on her.

-Wife is to set high expectations and hold husband to them for the duration of the trial. Focus is to be on making her week relaxing and she should hold husband to doing everything possible for her and only retain what she wants to. I know is hard and feels weird but please be selfish all week and expect a lot. Your relaxation, pleasure, wants and needs are to be husbands primary focus for the week. Tell don’t ask. Your every wish and whim should be a command. No mercy once trial starts. 😀

Three key topics for the week: (1) Chores (2) Personal Service (3) Exercise (4) Restrictions

(1) Chores

-Husband is to provide a starting point list of chores for him to complete during the week.

-Wife will add to the list as she sees fit and assign a minimum daily list that he must complete on each day.

-All chores completed by husband must meet wife’s high standards. Have him redo them again and again until meets her expectations if needed. She decides what success is and her word is final.

(2) Personal Service

-Husband commits to providing wife a minimum 15 minute foot rub every night before bed.

-Other than that while personal service is highly encouraged (massages, hot bath, go down on etc) as the focus is on her these only happen if & when she decides.

-Husband is not permitted to initiate touch above her ankles for the duration of the trial without her overt permission.

-Wife is highly encouraged to have husband wait on her hand and foot, bring anything she needs to her etc.

(3) Exercise

-As the husband belongs to his wife he needs to take good care of her property.

-Similar to the chores husband will provide an initial starting point list of exercise ideas that wife can add/edit as she sees fit.

-Exercise goals can be assigned daily or added at her whim (ex: He might finish her nightly foot massage and she tells him to go back down stairs and do two miles on the bike before he goes to bed)

(4) Restrictions

-To help keep the husband’s focus on her for the duration of the trial he is not allowed to read the news online, go on Facebook or other social media nor use computers, phone & IPads at all except for work specific reasons.

-As the focus is on serving & pleasing her the husband will wear a male chastity device for the duration of the trial and is not allowed to mention it or bring up.

-If the wife is up the husband is expected to be awake too and being productive. (For example if she gets up early to go to the gym he should be up and cleaning or exercising too while she is gone)

Chores List starting point:

-Husband to plan, prepare or provide family dinner every night during the trial

-Husband to do all laundry

-Husband to do all dishes

-Every night before husband goes to bed the kitchen must be immaculate with zero clutter and all counters wiped down.

-Husband to complete all tasks that a professional cleaning service would be expected to do using a “deep cleaning” checklist. (Example below)

Kitchen

* Clean appliance surfaces

* Clean microwave interior and exterior

* Wipe cabinet fronts and handles

* Wipe tables and chair seats

* Wipe countertops

* Wipe backsplash

* Clean sinks and faucets

* Vacuum and/or mop floors

* Wipe window sills and blinds

* Wipe baseboards

* Dust wall art and knicknacks

* Dust lights and/or ceiling fans

* Empty trash

Bathrooms

* Wipe and clean tub, shower and shower walls

* Clean and sanitize toilets, interior and exterior

* Clean glass surfaces and mirrors

* Wipe countertops

* Wipe cabinets

* Clean sinks and faucets

* Vacuum and/or mop floors

* Wipe window sills and blinds

* Wipe baseboards

* Dust vanity lights

* Clean switch plates

* Empty trash

Bedrooms, living areas and other rooms

* Dust furniture tops, sides and fronts

* Vacuum and/or mop floors

* Clean glass surfaces and mirrors

* Wipe window sills and blinds

* Wipe baseboards

* Dust wall art and knicknacks

* Dust lamps, lights and/or ceiling fans

* Clean switch plates

FemLit 0236 - The Chastity Contract - Version 2

On Saturday evening, after a good deal of discussion, my wife and I signed a chastity contract.  I found the template on the internet (I can’t remember where, sorry) and then tweaked it to make it more applicable and realistic for our life together.  She had it in her possession for about a week before we finally took the plunge.

What follows is the text of the contract in full:

Chastity Contract

Definitions

CHASTITY DEVICE—Any lockable wearable device designed for continuous wear to prevent masturbation, infidelity, control sexual urges or aggression, or sexual intercourse, hereafter referred to as the CAGE.

USER—The individual who will wear the cage, hereafter referred to as the HUSBAND. By definition the HUSBAND has surrendered the control of his sexual organs and services to the KEYHOLDER.

KEYHOLDER—The individual who will hold the key and the control for the cage, hereafter referred to as the WIFE. By definition, the WIFE is the individual entrusted to have absolute say in the use of the user’s sexual organs and services.

Term of Confinement (caging)

Husband will wear the cage for as long and for as often as determined by Wife.

Hygiene

Husband is responsible for daily cleaning of cage.

Husband will notify Wife immediately of any concerns regarding function or cleanliness of cage.

Wife will permit at least one removal of cage in a 24-hour period for cleaning and shaving.

Husband agrees that such release may be supervised and agrees to all terms of release as set forth by Wife, including restraints if deemed necessary.

Husband agrees that during release for cleaning he will shave accordingly to keep genital area free from hair.

Husband agrees that he will immediately re-secure cage after all cleanings unless otherwise instructed by Wife.

Both parties acknowledge that a release from cage may be permitted for medical or extreme discomfort issues. However during such release no sexual releases are permitted and, once medical condition is rectified, immediate return of the cage will commence without delay.

Keys

Wife will have total rights to determine location and possession of all keys to said cage.

Wife will carry one key on her person at all times that husband is locked.

Wife will wear one key as an adornment whenever husband is locked and such an adornment is appropriate attire.

Husband will not attempt to defeat or escape the cage in any way.

Husband agrees that when unlocked for hygiene or other approved reasons, no sexual release (orgasm) is permitted. If masturbation is attempted and/or carried out, punishment as outlined in the contract will be applied.

Husband agrees that he will re-secure cage immediately and notify Wife of said action.

Sexual Release (orgasm)

Husband forfeits all right to have an orgasm to the will of his Wife and will receive orgasm only by her unsolicited approval.

Wife is given sole discretion of how Husband’s orgasms will be achieved.

Husband acknowledges and agrees that Wife has certain sexual needs that may need fulfilled and that orgasms for Wife do not necessitate orgasms for Husband.

Husband agrees to satisfy Wife by whatever means Wife deems necessary for sexual gratification.

Husband agrees to allow Wife to seek and engage with third parties (male or female) for sexual gratification.

Husband agrees that orgasms may be accompanied by being restrained as determined by Wife.

Husband agrees that Wife may uncage husband for the means of sexual play but that no orgasm is permitted until Wife permits one.

Husband agrees to use any sexual aids such as (but not limited to) strap-ons, vibrators, dildos, and other artificial aids to satisfy Wife.

Husband agrees that Wife may use cages mentioned above in addition to other restraints on Husband and Husband will have no say in objecting to such cages

Non-Sexual Releases (uncaging)

Husband agrees that Wife may uncage Husband out of good nature and that such a release from cage is not grounds for orgasm.

Wife understands and Husband agrees that release from caging may be required for extenuating circumstance such as medical appointments.

Husband agrees to abide by all directions from Wife during such releases.

Husband agrees to re-secure cage upon command from Wife and to inform her of this action.

General Understandings

Both parties agree that every day life decisions such as child development, household finances, and other marital decisions outside the bedroom will have no effect on terms of this agreement, and that such decisions made can have no impact on the terms of this agreement.

Husband agrees and understands that Wife may use various methods to tease and torment Husband at any time. Furthermore, Husband understands that he has no say in such teasing and that Wife may continue at will.

Wife understands that she is free to receive any form of sexual gratification needed from Husband during periods of Husband’s confinement.

Wife understands, and Husband agrees, that Wife is free to receive any sort of sexual gratification needed from any third parties of her choosing (male or female) during periods of Husband’s confinement.

Husband understands and agrees that he is one hundred percent sexually and romantically loyal and devoted to Wife except as she may direct otherwise.

Husband is aware that rewards—up to and including orgasm—may be given for good behavior, including but not limited to pampering, chores accomplished, dinner dates, gifts, massages, and other ideas Husband comes up with.

Husband agrees to accomplish chores and tasks as directed by Wife.

Both parties agree that modifications to this agreement may be needed during the period of this agreement and that such modifications can be made as long as both parties are in agreement. 

 Penalties and Punishments

Both parties agree that deviation from contract will result in either cancellation of contract or punishments to correct errant behavior.

Breach of contract by Wife will constitute a cancellation of contract.

Cancellation of contract will result in immediate release of Husband from cage.

Breach of contract by Husband will be handled at the discretion of the Wife as outlined below.

Unauthorized removal of cage will result in a seven-day period of lock up and denial for Husband. Absolutely no sexual releases will be allowed for Husband during this penalty period.

Unauthorized removal of cage that includes a sexual release will result in a fourteen-day period of lock up and denial for Husband. Again, absolutely no sexual releases will be allowed for Husband during this penalty period. Additional punishment may be added as determined by Wife.

Husband agrees that additional restraining, flogging, private or public humiliation, servitude, and any other means of punishment may be administered by Wife to correct or punish infractions from contract.

 Husband agrees that failure to accept terms of punishment for infractions is means for immediate termination of this agreement.

Wife Signature____________________________________

Date________________ Husband Signature_________________________________

This article has been written for women who’ve just become aware of their husband’s or boyfriend’s interest in male chastity. You’ve probably lots of questions running around in your mind, and although we may not have all the answers we’ll try to give you some tips. The main thing to remember (assuming you want to join his fantasy) is that male chastity can be whatever suits you both as a couple. You don’t have to experience it in the same way as others, you can adapt and use what best suits your love and life styles…

So he’s explained his chastity desires and wants you to join him by becoming his keyholder. What do you do now…