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Children do pick up on their parents’ behavior. If the parents smoke, it is more likely the children will smoke when they grow up. If they see their parents arguing and fighting, it is more likely that they will do the same and not become valuable members of society.

2. For years, I've had this self-judgement that I'm "just not submissive enough" for my female partners. But, I've come to feel recently that there may be some truth to those dom/sub percentage sliders (e.g. 80/20 Sub/Dom); and that regardless of a couple's respective positions on those scales, sexy feels must travel in both directions for the sexual connection to continue to flourish. I think most of us subs need at least some pleasure/stimulation coming back our way from these types of relationships. Do you have any tips for how to accomplish that when you're with a Domme who may not flow back to you all that you crave or hope for?

This is a pretty involved question, and one that could be discussed at length. For us, as I would imagine with a lot of couples, I probably have more of an appetite for kinky play than does Mrs Edge. This did cause some friction back when we were first married; ironically, it was chastity & denial play that helped to even things out for us.

I have come to regard this kind of imbalance as similar to those couples who have mis-matched libidos. When one's partner is not giving what you want, it's easy to see that as a rejection on one's self. That leads to depression and resentment. This is why that it's so important to keep up communicating without nagging; sometimes just talking about the issue helps to maintain the intimacy in the relationship, even if you aren't compromising on how to meet both of your needs.

For me, I "bridge the gap" by taking cold showers, thinking about sports, and eating graham crackers. Then I party like it's 1899. 😅

Seriously, at some point I decided that if locking and denying me was the only kink that my wife really enjoyed, then I would lean into it and make it as enjoyable as possible for the both of us.

What to do when your domme isn't flowing back the kind of energy you'd like? Try to keep in mind that there isn't a school that churns out dommes; instead, remember that they are women who happen to be sexually dominant. That means that what you have is a relationship problem; again, talking with your partner will at least surface the issues - but the both of you need to commit enough to the relationship in order to find some agreement, if not compromise.

If you feel like you aren't getting the kind of sexy feels flowing back to you that you would like, you may both not be communicating what you each are hoping to get from the relationship. Are you interested in service, or are you after sexual fetishes? Is she a soft, mommy domme, or is she into emotional or physical sadism?

Do you see what I'm getting at? You will get far better results communicating with your partner about your needs, and learning to compromise.

We’re making a big change to how account deletion works on Tumblr, and we’re really excited about it, because this is something that some of you have been requesting for… well… a literal decade.

Before today, when you deleted your Tumblr account, it was immediate and permanent. Occasionally, this resulted in Very Sad Times. Even though we’ve tried to make it super difficult to accidentally delete your account, this is something that still happens a lot. Like, a lot. There’s also plenty of folks who delete their account on purpose, but then regret it shortly afterward. Worst of all, if your account was hacked, and then deleted by the hacker, there was no way to get it back. 

All of these problems are *poof* no more. As of today, when you delete your account, we will keep your data for 30 days. Your account will remain recoverable during that time, and you can contact us within that 30 day window if you’d like us to restore your account.

Eventually, we hope to make this process a bit easier, and allow you to restore your account with a single click of a button. For right now, though, you’ll need to contact us via tumblr.com/support and choose the category “Account Access” > “I have deleted my account or blog by accident”. 

FAQs

How do I delete my account? Does that process look different now?

You can follow the steps here to delete your account on the web or through the mobile app, which works pretty much the same way as before. You’ll notice we’ve updated the confirmation screen to reflect the new process, though.

Does a deleted account still appear on Tumblr during this 30 day window?

Nope. As soon as you submit the request to delete your account, all of your blogs will no longer be accessible (they’ll 404), no one will be able to message you, your posts will no longer appear in search results, and you won’t be able to log in anymore. This happens right away, not 30 days later. Deleted accounts still behave exactly as they always have.

What about my email address and username? Will those become available again immediately after account deletion, like they did before?

Notably, no, they will not. In order to make it possible for the account to be restored during the 30 day window, the username and email address must remain associated with the account during that time. So they won’t be available to register again until 30 days after you’ve deleted your account.

If you’re deleting your account, and you already know that you’d like to use the same username or email address on a new account immediately afterward, we recommend that you change your username and email address before deleting the account. That way, they will become available right away, instead of being on hold for 30 days. 

What if I’ve accidentally deleted one of my sideblogs, but not my entire account?

If you delete a sideblog, it will be deleted right away, and cannot be restored. We can only restore an entire account (which will restore all of its blogs along with it). 

Is this feature retroactive? Can you restore the account I deleted two years ago?

As much as we would like this to be possible, the answer is no. We still haven’t perfected the art of time travel, so all accounts deleted before today are still deleted for good. This new change will only apply to accounts which are deleted after this announcement is posted.

Where can I learn more about the account deletion process?

Now, while the yoga is very impressive, it is not why I am posting this.

I think all of you know why.

I want to fuck this woman!!!! Good god, look at her body!!!

I read some of the cuckold websites sometimes. Like I’ve said before, most of them have been hijacked by the Fem Domme extremists. There’s too much bi-male stuff and chastity and interracial emphasis to suit us.

But there’s one theme that persists through most of the sites I still read – oral sex. To be exact, oral sex on the wife, after she comes home from having sex on a date. The husband goes down on her after she’s been out fucking.

AKA “Clean up guy”

Women who know what they’re doing know how to suck a cock, and we know what sperm tastes like. I’m a woman who enjoys sucking cock. I’ve sucked dozens of them and tasted my share of loads. That’s part of being sexually active.

I also love it when a man goes down on me. I don’t know any woman who doesn’t. Oral sex is the bomb. I can’t get enough. Guys who know how to please women know how to go down on us. The ones who don’t aren’t even in the game.

But it must be different for a man to go down on a woman who’s been with a man recently. Most men don’t have any interest in doing that. Cuckold husbands can be an exception. The idea of doing that turns many of them on, if the woman is their wife. Most seem eager to go down on their wife after a ‘date’ and perform ‘clean up’ duties.

My husband gets into this sometimes (but not always). The more aroused he is the more he is likely to go down on me after I come home from being with someone. It also depends on whether or not I used a condom during sex. If I didn’t, then my husband needs to be extremely turned on in order to go down on me willingly. If he’s not that turned on, then I’ll usually need to encourage him if I want oral sex from him after a date.

The longer it’s been since he’s had an orgasm, the easier it is to get him to go down on me, no matter what. If he’s had an orgasm recently, and I had sex with someone without a condom, it can take some persuading to get him to do it.

The funny thing is that when we (mostly he) fantasize about it he always goes crazy at the idea of going down on me right after a fuck, and licking the cum out of my pussy. So this seems to be one of those situations where reality can be more than he can handle.

I’ve enjoyed getting him to do more than he wanted to on a few occasions (it’s a control thing for me). On several of my dates I’ve come home and persuaded him to pleasure me with his tongue, even though he was reluctant. This has become easier since that first time I got him to go down on me right after someone fucked me in front of him (see my other post “Does it taste like chicken”).

I’ve asked him what it’s like to do that, and he said that it’s a little overwhelming. Being excited is important he said, and unless he’s really turned on it doesn’t appeal to him. But if he’s turned on enough he said that he’s almost drawn in, and needs very little convincing to go down on me. He said that the first thing he notices is the strong smell of sex, a pungent combination of my scent mixed with the semen of another man. If I “look fucked” down there, it can excite him further.

Finally there is the taste. He says that if I’ve been fucked within the last few hours that his tongue tingles when he first goes down on me. He thinks it’s something about the mans cum that causes his taste buds to tingle, even though he said I don’t really taste that much different, only stronger.

The few times that he went down on me immediately after I fucked someone, he said he could definitely taste a difference and could even taste the semen inside me. I don’t know why, but that excited me. There’s something taboo about having my husband tasting another mans semen right out of my pussy, and the thought of him licking it out of me makes me quiver.

Maybe it’s the fact that I like to 'make’ him do that, by persuading him to go down on me. Or maybe I like rubbing his face in the fact that I just fucked someone else, since there is no way to deny it if he has someone else’s semen on his lips. I’m not sure why, but it does thrill me.

I plan to do this more. I think he will do it more if I keep working on him. Maybe one day he will push his way between my legs after every date, or every fuck, and lick me clean while I cum over and over.