summer storms

What do you like better, my cutie? This outfit of mine, or my hairstyle?

They both look great, you say? Hehe... You're getting real good at sweet-talking, aren't you?

Hmm, let me see... So many flowers in matching shades. It must've taken you quite a bit of effort to collect them all, huh?

Since this is pretty much yet another flimsy, revisionist and self-centred defence from @nights-at-crystarium, I have to address it. You cannot slide around here being a misogynist and we should demand better from people who share this fandom space.

➡️ Read Fragments/Jay's post here.

➡️ Read my masterpost of Jay's horrible behaviour here, with added context from other community members.

CW: biphobia, misogyny, mention of racism

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Deflection

You did NOT say that Jay. You "signed under every word" that Emet-Selch could only be gay and agreeing that he can't possibly like women. This is patently false as Emet-Selch behaves the same way whether your WoL is using male or female model. Bisexual people won't have any issue if you'd just stop at "I HC Emet as gay", but when the wording bleeds into insulting players for shipping him with a femme wol, calling m/f Emet artists "hetslop" and wishing femme players a "happy transition" to male, then it does become biphobia AND transphobia as you're now referring to real actual players.

And suppose you're also glossing over the xenophobic/racist take that Japanese people don't understand queercoding? When Emet-Selch was specifically written by a Japanese woman to be sexually ambiguous for the players to decide on their own?

Hate speech, death threats and unwanted porn in your inbox is never okay and idk who sent them, but you're deflecting from the fact that this does not invalidate your initial behaviour. You cannot use this as a cudgel to run away.

And no, the amount of gay works have not gone down, you just refuse to see anything but your specific flavour of gay as valid and cutting yourself off from seeing the rest of it.

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Biphobia (again) & Deflection(again)

Excuse me? Are you serious? Bisexual people aren't here self-victimising because of... what? Because we wanna feel important? Because we hate gay people? No, we are here criticising you specifically, because you've expressed biphobic and misogynist comments. The majority of gay people are good people, you are not one of them. In fact you're making them look bad!!!

Gay people, and in fact anyone, shouldn't be scared of being silence by bisexuals if they hadn't expressed biphobic & misogynistic sentiment.

This is pride month and you're digging deeper into your misogyny and biphobia. Stop it.

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Deflection (again) & Misogyny (again)

We can in fact fight both at the same time. We can fight the bigots trying to take away our rights and we can also kick out bad actors in our own community. This isn't a zero sum game. In fact we should do both.

You don't have to explicitly mention the word bisexual to be biphobic. You made a public statement in your discord (this is important) with biphobia and trans-exclusionary languages then it's our right to bring that to attention. And your wording is not "Caring":

THIS ESPECIALLY is wishing people would change from femme to masc WoL. That is wishing for less women in the space. There is no other way this can be interpreted!!!

And newsflash, bisexual players have advocated for more queer rep for fucking ever, but you would not know that because your head is firmly stuck up your ass and you would not talk to anyone except people who stroke your ego!!! How could you say there aren't many active queer creators??? Even in your extremely narrow preference of gay cis male, there's tons and tons if you'd only look.

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When does it slide into ACTUAL harm?

Let me reiterate something again. We would not care if you had stopped at just stating your headcanon. By extending that headcanon and applying your visible disdain to the players and other artists, you have jumped into actually treating real people terribly. This isn't just about ships or fictional character anymore, this is you trying to push the misogynist narrative that women are stupid and cannot see someone is gay, that they should be transitioning to men in order to enjoy 'a gay dating sim', that there should be less of them around, that artists with m/f ships should not be supported because they make 'hetslop'.

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Did the scent of dessert catch your attention? I was just about to adorn this freshly baked cake with fruit and chocolate.

The art of pastry is far more exacting than it may appear. With chocolate ornamentation, the essentials are precise temperature control and a steady hand.

Would you care to try? Allow me to instruct you. Hold the piping bag like this, find the proper angle, and slowly drizzle the chocolate sauce along the edge of the cake.

Lohen takes every battle seriously and gives each one his all.

That might make him sound like a careful, responsible warrior with a solemn sense of duty.

But don't let his smile fool you.

It's the wikipedia image??? How big could it be

What

Trevor Noah has a great tip, that when he craves ice cream at night he breaks it down into parts: I want something cold, I want something sweet. He drinks a glass of cold water then waits to see if he still has the ice cream craving. Usually he doesn’t.

So listening to your body isn’t “follow every urge” but “decompose the urge to discover the underlying need.”

If you always feel like getting cozy in bed you may be: cold, dehydrated, and/or malnourished (maybe a need for high calories that are bioaccessible…not processed).

If you do not feel tired at bedtime you may: need to eat dinner earlier because your body is still digesting, need to exercise or go outside more during the day, get the fuck off your screen for an hour so your brain can enter sleep mode.

Hope this helps someone.