Khonarh

I understand that women were opressed and still are but most men are alright.

Okay now that I'm thinking about it, only my current boyfriend and a few friends are good men lol.

They don't deserve the hate though. I don't wanna put them under the same umbrella.

I have been sexually assaulted 5 times, used and statutorily assaulted by a pedophile, narrowly got away from another attempted assault, and I’ve been emotionally abused. I was 14 the first time it happened. All of them were males.

I’ve been on almost every dating app and social media site since I was 15. (Yes, I know I was too young and I sincerely apologize for past me. It was a trauma response.) In the past 10 years, 1,000’s upon 1000’s of men have sent me creepy, inappropriate, disrespectful, disgusting messages and 100’s, if not 1000’s, of dick pics. Too many of them came from this very site.

This site is filled with gross, disrespectful, creepy, abusive, toxic, predatory and/or dangerous men. That’s just a fact.

Statistically speaking, men are more likely to assault and abuse women and women have every reason to hate on and be afraid of men. Almost every woman I know has been in some way assaulted or abused by a man, and every woman I’ve ever met has been harassed or creeped on by men.

I don’t hate all men and I adore many of them on here. However, the men I respect understand that when people say “I hate men” we’re not talking about the good guys AND they agree with us.

It’s not my job to explain to you why “Not All Men” is a toxic and damaging argument for women, but I strongly encourage you to do some research of your own.

When someone posts about hating men, they’re not talking about your boyfriend and your good friends. I’m glad you’ve seemingly had relatively good experiences with men overall, or at least not overwhelmingly negative ones, so you can’t understand the “man hating.”

I’m cis because I’m afab and still identify as a woman. If I was afab and identified any other way, I’d be trans. I’m intersex because my body itself has a mixed bag of secondary sex characteristics and hormones.

The label “intersex” itself isn’t a gender identity as much as it’s a way for people with mixed or ambiguous sex characteristics to define that experience. There are cis men and women who are intersex, trans people of every kind as well. I’m sure there are intersex people who just identify as intersex entirely but most intersex people I’ve met still identify as male, female, or nonbinary. Because your body doesn’t determine your gender identity.

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