Itâs like. When I was told to âjust be yourselfâ as a kid I thought it was a passive thing. Like oh easy I just have to sit here and be myself. but the reason so many people think that âbeing yourselfâ is bullshit advice is because you actually have to make active choices to do this and it WILL make your life way more fun. You have to wear t-shirts of bands that were popular ten years ago because you like them. You have to do your hair in a way that you find cute or comfortable even if itâs âso ninetiesâ. If your friend says a food you enjoy is gross to them, you canât be afraid to admit you casually disagree. You have to do hobbies that youâre interested in even if youâre bad at them and you cant feel like you have to get good at something before you tell people itâs an activity you do. You have to read manga and comic books in public and get piercings your relatives think are unattractive. You donât have to tell people you dislike that you dislike them, but you donât have to give them your time and attention either. You have to rewatch that kids show youâre nostalgic for even if youâre in your 30s. You have to change your name if you hate it, even if only a few close friends can know. You have to get fun girly drinks at the bar. You have to order hot chocolate when you donât like coffee and black coffee when you donât like sweet things. I am still bad at practicing this but it is the only way to make it all tolerable.