future trophy wife🏆

Okay so I’ve been a bit drunk since my date, but I have to tell you about it, I have to tell you about TINDER, and why the hell its an actual gold mine. Tinder is only for the patient woman, the manipulative & stylish woman. If you’re eager to make money I suggest you don’t even try Tinder, try whatsyourprice & favourite everyone, or get a job until a man pays these bills. Tinder is for the heaux’s trying to sell their virginity, or those looking to get a car and an Appartment in the next 3-5 months. I tried tinder as a desperate sugar baby, a mysterious life connoisseur and a super positive & open book. All of them failed. But as soon as I decided to be a little bit of everything but also “me” that’s how it started working for me, because it created an authentic version of all of these persona’s, and men started to accept it as me. And they loved it. Here are steps, Spoiled GF Route:

1) Dress well obviously, don’t need much brand names but since you’re already seeing this you probably already dress well. SW Tumblr is a hidden gem and usually people know the 1st rule is to be attractive. Which means you’ll attract men of means with your femininity. Your hair, your shape, your etiquette & your figure. Sharp that weapon pointy enough to use it.

2) Find your culprit. Match with men that make a minimum of 6 figures. Bonus if he super star’d you. Anything like “executive, Vice- President” Sales director “attorney (precaution) , CEO 😍 Real- Estate yadayada; Less chances of pigs too than SA! Your bio shouldn’t be too much, many girls say “I want the finer things in life” which honey update just like SA, doesn’t work anymore. You’re talking about men of means, you’re talking about business they will see right through you. I’d say something like “great minds think alike & I wonder what you’re thinking” “you didn’t lower the age range for nothing did you?” Something short and cunning leaves mystery, hence them wanting to get to know you. Men are predators, make them believe you’re the prey. Make them believe women could never be more predatory than men. Idiots.

3) He messages you first. You have a decent conversation, keep it flirty, witty, smart and just sell whichever fantasy they seem to want. If you can’t read a man’s fantasy, spoiled gf route shouldn’t be your focus yet, read ho tactics & rummage through research! If you need a place to start, they either want a super sweet down to earth (works more for me) & young beauty queen or a mysterious, possibly dominant or exotic seductress. Yes, men watch too much porn. But, use it to your own advantage, read their stupid minds!

4) When he asks you out on a date, you need to choose the place. You need to choose a place with taste, nothing under $$$$, If its $$$ make sure it looks classy/ritzy/swanky. Say you like coming to this place, “the aesthetic is inviting ”. This will induce some chemical in his brain that’ll automatically give him the heads up that you’re expensive. And you didn’t even need to say it. If he suggests an impressive restaurant, act happy but like you’re used to it. If he suggests a drink date, say you’ll only do drinks if theirs delicious x ex:sushi involved & if he’s cheap unmatch. You have options. He doesn’t. You’re going to sell an image. NOTE: Always do generosity tests, he NEEDS to uber you (address close to yours be safe), hell if he’s obsessed tell him you think flowers on the 1st date are sooo romantic 😍 (Bonus for emojis if you’re playing sweet) You’ll arrive 5 minutes after he’s seated like its slow motion, heels on & everything. If you see flowers, he’s probably generous than not. A mistake we SB/SWrs make on Tinder is assuming men want to buy us things just because we’re pretty. A man will and can buy you things, but most likely when you touch him on his thigh/arm when you laugh, and after a date. Or 2nd 🤷‍♀️ But there are ways on making them spend before you even meet, I could tell if asked.

5) Chances are you’ll find one that arrived with flowers, uber’d you & is tolerable. And that will be the one. Or the ones* (never see just one). And you can create small emergencies like breaking your nail, feeling better with your maintenance on check (eyelashes, outfits), needing a hair shine treatment or a jacket for warm days. It starts small, yes, but it will be big in a short while. FLIRT before asking, if its over text? Send a pic of you looking sexy, and then ask 2 minutes later. It’s all about flirting, making them think if they get you x item, the sex part will come soon. Ask for things when the moment is right, when you’ve talked to him on the phone, laughed at his joke, etc. Little things like these, he accomplishes them until he falls in love.

6) Allowance: After 3 weeks of flirting and receiving small items like heels, a jacket, nails done or lashes, that’s when you know who’s who. If he says you ask for too much, VICTIMIZE YOURSELF. Say you never met a man good enough to take care of you :( Until you met him.. :( 😂 & he makes you feel safe & he’s the older man you needed without knowing it. LOL. When he says hes falling for you, say you are too but you wanna feel secure. And you know he’s a busy man (lol) so you don’t always want to ask for stuff. Talk about an allowance without the word allowance. And if he agrees, you got yourself a sugar daddy. If not, which would be surprising, cry on demand. Make yourself look like the victim. He’ll come around. Cry in Spanish lol. And soon enough you’ll get him spending to make you feel better.

7) Virgins: DO THIS STEP BEFORE STEP 6.

After a couple of weeks, months if you’re lucky, he’ll ask for sugar. You can choose to dip (& say you’re scared & he’s pressuring you 😂 he’ll buy you stuff to apologize (like designer ladies). You can dip again, maybe for good or after awhile hitting him up “I miss you” so he can spend again 😂

If you don’t dip, and want to lose it to secure a bag and secure bigger SW bags, you flirt, make/suggest him to buy you a couple items (like said before), drivers permit, “brazilian wax {always works}, etc; Until you analyze him falling for you & talking about sugar (sex). Tell him you feel like hes the one, that can make your body happy/ feel good (ew) but want to be cared for & your virginity is so important to you & can “only lose it with one man, because that’s a thing no other man in the world can have”… see what I did there? Men of means love rare things, untouchable things that they can “own”, he played himself there. Then list stuff like college tuition, your “life of debt”, your “sisters surgery” 😂 and then say for all of these problems to go away you’ll need : 5-9k (Choose a realistic thousand, you have more chances around these stacks, but if you’re in LA or NYC or another rich city you can easily go up. If you live in Kansas City or Saskatchewan lol, I’d say MINIMIUM 2k. THEN, if he doesn’t dip, you can try step 6. Virginities don’t sell for 100k. Cinderella escorts is a scam. Unless you’re a famous published model that pays city wide advertisement advertising her virginity , even that lol, you have more chances in this range. And honestly, thousands of dollars is a GREAT accomplishment than losing it with some drunk college fuckboy or a bored bartender.

in relationships, every woman should know how to negotiate; and the very best way for a woman to successfully negotiate with a man is through her actions, not her words.

she should ask herself, "what do men want?" and then, "how can i exploit this so that i get what i want?"

I’ve been reading like crazy lately, and these are things I think are highly beneficial for the future in these topics. There are PDFs for a lot of the books! I’ve also linked Youtube channels, products to buy if need be, blogs, websites, etc. There are far more resources I have but I don’t wanna share my good secrets lol. This is also enough in one post. I wanna put y’all on. 💞

Manifesting/Goddess Energy:

Jambalaya: The Natural Woman’s Book of Personal Charms and Practical Rituals

Powerful and Feminine: How to Increase Your Magnetic Presence and Attract the Attention You Want

Miss Pravala

Luck Manifestation Video

How to Change Your Frequency to Change Your Reality

Nine Steps to Mastermind Your Life

Road Opener

Five Laws of Feminine Power

Evoke Your Power Course

Dating/Marrying Rich:

The Manhattan Madam’s Secrets to Great Sex

Uncensored Sales Strategies: A Radical New Approach to Selling Your Customers What They Really Want - No Matter What Business You’re In

Lucrative Love: The Insider’s Secrets to Marrying Millions!

The Seduction Mystique

Trophy Man: The Surprising Secrets of Black Women Who Marry Well

Being a Woman: Fulfilling Your Femininity and Finding Love

Simply Irresistible: Unleash Your Inner Siren and Mesmerize Any Man, with Help from the Most Famous-and Infamous-Women in History

The Social Tigress: Dating Advice for Women to Attract Men and Get a Boyfriend!

Shanghai Girls: Uncensored & Unsentimental

Etiquette & Upgrading Yourself:

Finishing Touches: A Guide to Being Poised, Polished, and Beautifully Prepared for Life

Emily Post’s Etiquette, 18th Edition

Debrett’s A-Z of Modern Manners

Debrett’s Guide to Entertaining Etiquette

Bellemocha

Art History Classes 

The New Elegant Black Woman

Tonya Leigh

Toastmasters

How to Get the Raise You Deserve

The Happiness Planner

Finances & Business: 

Margin of Safety: Risk-Averse Value Investing Strategies for the Thoughtful Investor (don’t sweat about the price, it’s $13 for the Kindle version)

Never Eat Alone, Expanded and Updated: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time

Learn Foreign Exchange

Fundrise

Five Year Plan to Upgrade Your Life

Love your account btw!!💕

thank you babie!!

i honestly recommend just asking and being straightforward about what you want. i think a lot of people don't fully understand just how many women do exactly that, and how many men respond to it. when i first started dating my boyfriend i asked him to buy me a pair of chunky filas and i was very candid about it, i wanted to gauge what his reaction would be to an ask like that, and then it more or less set the expectation/tone early on that i was a girlfriend who expects being taken care of from someone i was in a relationship with, that it was normal for whoever i was seeing to buy me shoes and clothes. make the guy in question that you're talking to assume the other men before him have done exactly what you're currently asking for lol. i think one of the most important things i have learned about relationships is the significance of communicating your needs and desires very early on. you're literally ten times more likely to actually receive what you want when you're being blunt and upfront instead of trying to play certain mind games or master the art of subtlety. also men can be lowkey naive and don't really understand wtf is going on in life unless you really break it down like what you expect from them

the trick is to ask in a way that feels natural, feminine, and matter-of-fact, not needy or embarrassed or apologetic. like, “Hey, I’ve been wanting X, can you get it for me?” and then any man who is actually a provider (and trust me you WILL meet men who are not) will strive to do it to make your life better/more comfortable. it makes them feel powerful and needed. and if he doesn’t have the ability or the genuine drive to provide for you, you’ll at least get a very clear answer from how he reacts.

I took inspiration from obscure resources.

I genuinely take inspiration from everything. Women from the posh part of town, fantasy novels with vivid descriptions, gut-wrenching poetry, old paintings, bimbo and MTF guides, military memoirs, mythological creatures, historical figures, self-autobiographies (Zsa Zsa Gabor, the zenith of self-mythologizing). Most online articles, guides and blogs are honestly useless because they're too generic or not tailored, usually just the same idea recycled so they won't be of much use to you. I do have some amazing blogs and I have hundred of pages of now-deactivated or privated blog posts saved on my Google drive and I still reference them but those are rare. I had to write up my own guides with my own systems, and I have hundreds of notes in my Notes app.

I skipped rest days entirely.

Unless my body very clearly tells me otherwise, I don't really take rest days. I'm not punishing myself or anything like that, I genuinely don't need them to feel good and motivated. I feel my best when I am always on the go, chasing the next big thing, working my way through my to-do list that are aligned with my goals because I love being active and engaged. I don't personally resonate with the idea of going easy on myself because that won't help me get what I want. I do take regular, intentional breaks, I listen to my body and make sure I am well-rested and hydrated, I take my electrolytes and supplements, and my health is in tip-top condition. But I don't become lax, I don't allow myself to lose momentum, and I don't make up excuses. If I am headed towards exhaustion which is rare because I manage things carefully, I'll take a short rest, grab a caffeinated drink I know works well and ease myself back into momentum.

I built femininity from scratch.

This has an almost immediate effect on people. Doors open literally and socially, favors are offered before I ever had to ask. I don't raise my voice because I don't have to, and I like being treated like a delicate flower. I absolutely love being a woman and I'm not shy to express that I deeply cherish my femininity. I'm always refining things because it genuinely brings me joy and I truly enjoy the process but I wasn't simply born this way, it took years of patient work and self-observation before I felt I have become her. My body and body language, my smile, my comportment and mannerisms, the way I move and dress and express myself. These are things that I had to work on for years and I also relied on vintage model and etiquette workbooks as well as hours of analyzing interviews and movies frame by frame, and practicing until it came very naturally. Learning when to play things up or tone them down has worked beautifully for me too, it makes life flow much more smoothly.

I didn't curate my network.

You can build healthy, nourishing relationships with people from all different walks of life and still benefit in a real, tangible way. Your network does not need to be made up of ultra-wealthy billionaires who own two hundred private islands to be valuable. Everyone has their own unique skills, talents, insights and knowing a wide variety of people will always serve you well over time, having a well-maintained and wide social circle means there's always someone. I completely understand the appeal of wanting a better life and putting yourself in proximity of privilege but I do feel a little cautious when I see posts on tumblr encouraging girls to network only within a certain social stratum.

I refined my voice and accent.

I get complimented on my voice and accent very often, which naturally encouraged me to keep it and enhance it to the best of my ability. I've been told by both men and women that I have a very attractive voice and that they could listen to me speak for hours so it made sense for me to work on it to enhance it further. You have to figure out if the minor 'quirks' you have make others soften or sharpen for you because people can be surprisingly sensitive to those things and can carry preconceived notions about certain cultures. In my case, I lived in all the right places and people tend to romanticize my background and project their own fantasies and since it's so positively received, I have chosen to keep it as part of my cultural identity.

I didn't aim to be realistic.

I remember being a teen, and reading the quote 'Aim for the moon, if you miss you may hit a star' and I immediately put it up on my wall just so I could have a daily reminder. Looking back, a lot of the good things that happened in my life did so because I was willing to take risks, work through my fear of failing, and because I believed in my own vision. I know some people who started at absolute rock bottom and now lead lives that once felt completely felt out of reach, and if they had focused on what is realistic they would still be where they started. I don't think that any people who have made it far in life did so because they were realistic, I think the common denominator is quite the contrary, they were pretty unrealistic and expected more from life.

I convert problems into actions.

I don't believe in complaining, and I am mindful of where I put my energy. Complaints don't usually produce solutions, and I feel much better when I am taking action than lingering in frustration. Everyone has rough days and it's okay to vent, but I am talking about constant, habitual complaining about every minor inconvenience. I'm intentional with my words because I believe they shape how I experience life so I speak kindly and positively. If I'm faced with a problem, I instinctively start looking for solutions rather than repeating what's wrong. I'm naturally very solution-oriented and I remember when I was learning a new language I avoided negative and complaint-based words entirely because I won't be using them.

I reject laziness in all forms.

One thing I've always been careful about is avoiding laziness because it doesn't serve me or others. I was quite young when I realized that if I allowed myself to drift or put things off, I would stay exactly where I was. I didn't really have the privilege of going with the flow but it took me years of intense work to unlearn habits that held me back and to create a system that supported me. Modern life has made it very easy for people to get too comfortable which is why I've taught myself to always follow through and not telling myself later. I don't think it's ever okay to be lazy, there's a difference between laziness and mindful rest, my time off is planned and restorative, and I don't allow space for inertia.

I put in extraordinary work for extraordinary results.

I've said this before but meaningful change from your life requires conscious, thoughtful and careful action taken over time. I don't say this to discourage anyone but things like manifestation, subliminals, spiritual practices do not replace follow-through and real effort. People who are good at what they do didn't arrive there by accident, they practiced for years, worked hard and played even harder, and often put in far more effort than they let on. I'm still in my twenties and I believe that things will only get better as I grow older, but I'm also aware that being young and healthy is a gift. This is the time where my energy compounds the most so I choose to use it intentionally.

I learned how to orchestrate agreement.

Hear me out for a moment: One of the most valuable skills you can develop is learning how to make things work in your favor and that naturally includes thinking on your feet and communicating persuasively. There are lots of ways to practice this, you can join debating societies, your local Toastmasters, observe how negotiators speak and guide conversations. Still I don't believe in spending too much time getting stuck in theories and hypothetical scenarios, it's best to start practicing until it feels like second nature. Being flexible with language, framing ideas a certain way, and presenting things in the most favorable light is often part of that. You have to be able to come up with a myriad of arguments and strategies to convince people, the most effective way of convincing others is by making it seem like they came to their own conclusions. Good people skills and context framing will make things easier.

Male hierarchy is by achievement

A receptionist could have more social capital than a ceo of the same age..

For men it’s different ..

Hierarchy thing is masculine

The feminine is communal ie collaborative

Everyone has a role and all roles are important

This is why submission is not natural to women

They need to be taught, forced, punished etc

But it is natural to men so men do better in the military or command roles

Women do better in nurturing roles even if it’s not motherhood or care giving

Eg, I am very nurturing but sometimes people even forget I’m a mom and I ain’t ever caring for anyone

Especially not for free, i get paid to care

I’m very selfish.

So ladies stop comparing yourself to societal standards of achievements

That you don’t have a car or house of your own or a million bucks in your accounts doesn’t make you a failure

You are judging yourself through patriarchal lenses

As Long as you have enough to not be a burden to others and take care of yourself and afford the things you need , you are good

Do you know that a teenage feminine smart beautiful girl has the same or even more footing with a billionaire?

I mean Ned married Regina… that’s his level

Why didn’t he marry a fellow billionaire?

How many billionaire women marry men of such caliber

Men with money usually go for women with lesser money than them becuase it is there level

So judging a woman based on her age or financial status as high value is an error

That’s what we do to men

This means the reason you should

Make money is not because you want to be high value or marry well

No, you are always high value , you were born with the value , you are the value and we don’t bring money or babies to the table but feminine gifts

Make money because you want to enter spaces to be able to level up, afford expensive therapy, clothings, security, health and just the comforts of life etc.

So no one tries to control or manipulate because you don’t have your own money , no

Make money for yourself not to be on par with men or marry or date rich men because you are already the superior gender by birth!

Just believe it ..

Men and even women instinctively do not quantify a woman’s worth by how much money she makes or how educated she is but how the QUALITY of her life is and her desirability

Hustle and burnt out culture is for men, not women

Ps: read this thoroughly, I am not encouraging laziness or joblessness or waiting for a man to give you money etc

read well to understand…

Credit Pearl Notes

On Tumblr sugar community I see a lot of posts about how you have to look a certain way to attract rich men and how to achieve that look. Being smart comes up here and there but I’ve never seen a detailed how-to post about it like the ones about appearance.

Honestly? I am quite lazy about my appearance upkeep (and I’m the first one to admit this is something I need to improve) and never had any problems getting successful men to fall for me. And they all say how charmed they are by my intelligence, and how fascinating it is to talk to me.

In my opinion, if you’re young and cute and have proper hygiene you’re most likely attractive enough for them to be attracted to you. Of course, the look is important, but here’s the thing; it isn’t a dealbreaker for men with money because a lot of it can be fixed by throwing money at it.

I’ve had a man who gave me 10k to be his date for a charity dinner. He spent another 10k on my look for the day. He had his assistant arrange everything: hair to pedicure, gown, shoes, jewelry, what have you. At that event, there was a girl who was a date to another man at the dinner. She was gorgeous. Possibly the most gorgeous at the table, but she didn’t know what NATO was. Everyone else at the table was engaging in conversations about international affairs and the girl just sat there, embarassed and visibly bored.

To spend money on you he needs to enjoy spending time with you and in order to enjoy spending time with you, he needs to enjoy talking to you. This is especially true if you’re taking the SGF route that requires a more genuine connection.

Sorry for long preface here are the tips~

I skipped the generic tips like keep eye contact, really listen to him blah blah blah… y’all probably already know that.

1. Absorb information

Documentaries, podcasts, books, what have you. The kind middle aged men are interested in and also the kind they aren’t, so you can get both “Oh she likes this stuff, too. Awesome” and “Wow that’s something I didn’t know of. She has her own unique taste. Cool.”

I will do a “podcasts I listen to as an SB” post, so that might be helpful.

2. Make that information your own and form your own opinions

If you just keep bringing up facts after facts, you’ll just sound obnoxious and you don’t want that. The knowledge you absorbed should be a tool for conversation, not the conversation itself.

3. You can have “bad” taste, but you must have a taste.

You can like things that aren’t liked by others. You don’t have to like all the “right” things. But you have to know what you like or don’t like and why, and be able to elaborate on it. If you can do that, they will not look down on you for liking the “wrong” thing. They respect you for being opinionated, and being able to stand by an unpopular opinion. For example, certain movies that I love are considered trashy by cinephiles as well as the general population. But I can go on and on about why I enjoy them. This pot sat across from me with his eyes sparkling in interest, as I went on a tangent about why one of the worst movies in this country’s film history is actually a cinematic masterpiece. He thought it was ridiculous, in a good way.

You know how it’s so cute when someone talks excitedly about something they are passionate about? That’s how your SD will see you and that makes him fall for you.

4. Stay rooted to your culture and heritage. Constantly learn more about it.

This is particularly important to me as an Asian SB whose target demographic is foreign expats, but it applies to everybody. If you’re conversing with someone from the same culture, you can bond over it, and with someone from a different culture you can share and enlighten. SDs often ask me why people here do certain things certain way, and I would tell them the history behind it, and they will be surprised. They will say that the domestic officials they work with here had not been able to explain them and instead said “idk we just do it” and they are supposed to be experts that run this country. If you can fulfil their curiosity, you will be interesting.

5. Don’t be afraid to change topics and be random

A lot of the times the reason people get stuck is because they are trying to stay on topic when it’s okay to move on to another. If he’s clearly passionate about a topic, don’t force the change and instead just listen and respond to him, but if the conversation stagnates, he obviously does not feel the need to talk more about the topic, so jump to another one. It can be unrelated to the previous thing you were talking about. One time I didn’t know what to talk about and then I saw a recycling bin outside so I said, “I recently watched a documentary about plastic recycling facilities…” and the conversation went from there. This is where #1 comes in handy.

6. Share anecdotes, the defining moments of your life. They don’t have to be real.

This makes them feel like they’re really getting to know you and getting closer to you. If you don’t have anything interesting or you just don’t want to share personal stuff with him, make something up. Make something up beforehand and repeat it a few times in your head so you can tell them naturally as if it’s true. Have several stories made up for SDs and pots.

7. Share future plans and aspirations. Again, doesn’t need to be real.

Same reason as above apply, and also, if your life is going nowhere, that can make you boring. Successful men are driven and they usually like people who are equally as driven. Also, if they truly are generous they will want to help, and even if the goal is fake you most likely still can benefit from it. I told my SD why I want to buy a house as soon as I can and exactly how I plan to do that, he was extremely impressed that I had such a detailed plan that actually makes sense, and offered to give me some money so I can have my planned deposit right now instead of having to keep saving till the end of next year like I planned, as well as use his connections to help me get a good deal with mortgage. (Imma get the other daddy to pay that mortgage let me tell you)

8. Sense of humor can be cultivated.

I love stand-up comedy and sitcoms. They do help with sense of humor and the jokes themselves come in handy when a situation relevant to the joke comes up. If it’s a common joke just steal it, if it’s not, you can say, “Comedian (insert name) said, (joke)” and it’s still funny and that’s what’s important. Also, inside jokes will make him feel really connected to you. Stay away from self-deprecating humor, though. A little bit can be funny but when it comes to SDs you want to maximize your value so don’t diminish that, not even for humor.

I am also guilty of stealing a lot of jokes I saw on Tumblr… lmao

9. It’s less about the topic itself and more about what you do with it and how you do it.

Obviously to start out with you have coffee, drinks at a nice/fancy bar, lunch/dinner. Once you start to get closer and more intimate, dates I have had or am planning for the future are:

- wine tasting at a vineyard, or tasting scotch at a distillery, or beer in a brewery

- for bars, take him to a secret speakeasy he doesn’t know about, or suggest he gets a room at a luxury hotel with drinks in the bar beforehand 😉

- couple’s spa/ massages, champagne and plenty of private time

-if your SD likes clubbing, invite your hot girlfriends (make sure you can trust them not to steal him away) and have him get a table at an exclusive club.

-have him take you to Vegas to gamble! He should give you some money to play with, and maybe you can win some more to take home

- shopping at boutiques/department stores (pick things out for him too! Make sure it’s not just all about you. Choose things you think look good on him and tell him he looks sexy, that way he’s less likely to feel like you’re using him.. though of course you are) Also, you can ask him to pick out clothes that he thinks look good on you (or lingerie 😉) that way, you can play it off as him buying you new clothes for his own enjoyment! Tell him “I can’t wait to wear this for you..”

- if you’re not shy, take him to a sex toy shop.

- have him take you to a concert or play in the VIP section.. maybe you want to see Jay Z, Beyoncé or Kanye on tour? Or maybe he enjoys Broadway?

- for the more refined SD maybe ballet or the opera.. if anything it’s a nice excuse to get dressed up in black tie and look stunning. If you don’t know anything about it read up on whichever show you’re going to and the careers of the performers, and make it sound like you know what you’re talking about!

- for the sporty SB’s go skiing, play tennis or even better, golfing. If you know how to golf that is a huge plus in the SD world because it’s a sport that many businessmen enjoy and use to close deals! Use going golfing with him to close your deal 😉

- if you don’t want to play a sport then you can at least go to a game with him! What’s his favorite sport? Football, soccer, baseball, basketball? Maybe he can get court side seats! And again, read up on the sport so you’re not constantly asking him to explain what’s going on. Nothing is more annoying. You don’t have to go overboard and pretend you’re a huge fan, as that’s annoying too if you’re faking it, but at least have a general idea of how things work.

- upper class sporting events include polo (veuve clicquot polo classic for example), Wimbledon or the US Open, or the Masters golf tournament. These tickets are generally more expensive, and you should dress nicer.

- cooking classes! Learn how to cook each other’s favorite meals

- gallery openings and museum exhibitions, or charity galas. This depends on whether your SD wants to introduce you to his friends and society (assuming he is part of society). Even if he isn’t, you can buy tickets to major art events such as Art Basel in Miami. Or attend an art auction by major auctions houses such as Christie’s or Sotheby’s

- Getaway for the weekend to the beach! Remember, if he’s kind enough to book tickets and arrange everything, it’s your job to make the weekend as stress free and relaxing for him as possible. And long walks on the beach, while cliched, are still very romantic! And take care of him while you’re there - for example make sure his drink is always full (you order with the waiter so he doesn’t have to) and put sunscreen on him, throwing in a little massage.

- My SD took me in a helicopter to the Hamptons. Got to see this incredible view of New York as we were flying out (and on the way back as well)! Or for the more adventurous pairs.. sky diving?

- have him rent a yacht for just the two of you for the day/weekend (or if he owns a yacht, even better)!

- for the traveling SD, have him take you along on his business trips. London seems to be a common destination for these types, as does NYC, LA, and Hong Kong.

- take a short weekend road trip if you can’t travel for longer. For example, go to Nantucket from Boston for the weekend, or drive to Napa if you live in California

- stay up all night kissing and talking until the sunrise is a sure fire way to make him fall in love with you and have him wrapped around your little finger

- more couple vacation ideas include going glamping on safari in Africa (not like camping at all - it’s like a five star hotel with air conditioning etc that just happens to be in a tent rather than a building), going salsa dancing in South America, scuba diving in the Maldives or Fiji, or shopping in the souks in Marrakech!

- you can always surprise him by showing up at his door with movies, a bottle of wine, and wearing a coat with nothing underneath!

You can really make memories to last a lifetime with your SD footing the bill, and it’s a win win for all as he gets to go on dates/vacations with a pretty young thing and make memories as well!

And remember, it’s his experience as well, especially since he’s paying for it. You should be low maintenance and non fussy - to an extent. Obviously your plane tickets should be first or business class, but don’t kick up a fuss if he takes you to Italian instead of Sushi, for example. ALWAYS, ALWAYS BE GRACIOUS AND GRATEFUL!!! if he wanted someone nagging him and being bitter/bitchy/passive aggressive about stupid details, he’d get a girlfriend or a wife!

men spending large sums of money on you boils down to two factors:

1. he has the capital to do so

2. he likes you enough to do so

The spoiled gf route can get you a lot more over time. I think the most important thing is to remember that when it comes to dating, most older men that prefer a “spoiled gf” don’t want to be seen as a SD. They want the fantasy that you need to create for them. They don’t want the relationship to seem transactional but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ask for what you deserve.

Keep your femininity. If you’d like for him to pay for your upkeep, (and you should) pose yourself as a woman who likes to be kept. If he’s not into giving a formal monthly allowance, you can still pose it as such in a less harsh way. For example if he wants to take you out to dinner. You can tell him “I always love going out and being shown off on your arms. You know I like to keep myself looking my best. Can you send me $xxxx to prepare for our date? Lookin forward to it 😘” Try and make him excited about the date. Tease, talk about how you can’t wait to see him, etc.

It’s also important to “show don’t tell” when dealing with men that prefer a spoiled gf. You don’t need to state that you’re a kept woman. You need to hint at it in mysterious ways. “I love when a man makes things happen ☺️” something along those lines of stroking his ego when asking for something you want. He will see you’re a certain type of prized and high value woman by your actions. So look and dress the part when on dates. Keep the fantasy going and he will find you irresistible.

Since this isn’t an arrangement and there’s nothing agreed upon for what you will be receiving from him, you need to make sure that you are getting what you want once you have established a relationship with him. The key into the spoiled gf route is to make him think you’re very much interested and into him first and foremost and his money second.

During the first few dates, feel him out and take notice. Where did he suggest to take you? Order a bottle of wine. Did he cringe or suggest something cheaper? Did he complain about the bill after your date?

Do not have sex with him. You really want to hold off for as long as you can. You should definitely tease him with kisses, sexual talk, and even a little groping but only as a reward. After he’s spent some money on you, you need to acknowledge and reward him somehow so that he keeps doing it. In the beginning (3-4 dates) is when you vet and prime him. If he’s cheap move on to someone else.

Phone or video sex is a great way to ask and get what you want immediately. I would start off describing a dream I had about him. Then go into detail about what I was wearing. When you feel you’ve been seductive enough (just a few short minutes usually does the trick) to get him started, break the fantasy. Say that you can’t get into it right now because now you’re thinking about how you don’t own that dress. You’d really like to own it and you saw something like it online. If he doesn’t ask how much, just keep saying how it would hug your curves and you’d love something new to wear for him for the next date. When he asks how much, tell him with confidence. I usually don’t say an amount less than $1k but you can say whatever makes sense in your world. If he complains about the price or acts astonished, don’t be rattled. You need to keep confident. Play dumb and say “I don’t understand, is that a lot for you?” He won’t want to look cheap and will fix his tone immediately if he’s worth your time. If he doesn’t or keeps complaining, make an excuse to get off the phone and end the call. If he agrees to sending the money, then great. You can resume phone/video sex if you’d like. If you don’t want to then you can steer the convo in another direction but do make sure to stroke his ego a few times before getting off the phone. This has always always worked for me. It’s important to note not to try this until a relationship has been established already. At least after 2-3 dates. Don’t be afraid to ask. Closed mouths don’t get fed!

These are a few pointers I have found to be successful when going the spoiled gf route. If you’d like a more in depth and detailed step by step breakdown, subscribe to my website! 😉

Good luck, with love 💕

Here are some free ways to find wealthy people / potential providers online. This can work on Facebook, Reddit, forums or any app with active communities.

💎 Golfing groups

💎 Yatch groups. The groups for owners/buyers not the groups for crew members

💎 Private Jet sharing groups

How to: Please don't make a post on the group with your photos obviously looking for attention.

Choose one "niche", study the groups and see what kind of comments get the most engagement.

Study up and try to have some knowledge about your chosen subject (if all else fails, this part increases your value as a cultured woman and can help you in future)

Contribute to these communities helpfully and frequently enough but not in a spammy way. Do not (for the love of God) get into fights or attack people. When someone engages with your comment, engage in light banter and find a natural way to move to dms.

Your profile must:

- contain pictures of you looking your best

- have some relevant posts ( even shared posts are fine don't put too much effort into this part )

Final thoughts

💎 golf men are fanatic about the sport and would be easily impressed if you can hold a decent conversation about the topic

💎 choose what you enjoy and comes easily to you

💎 research the men and get a good idea of their pocket size before putting too much effort into them