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What measures are taken to secure the building ?

Are the walls thin? Brief info of who lives in the building. Are they college kids? People that work through the day? Elderly? Is it a mix? Where does the garbage go?

when and for what reasons are your landlords allowed to enter your home? how much of a notice should they give you before entering?

can the landlord make modifications to your home or apartment without your approval? to what extent?

what are the options and conditions for breaking your lease early if there’s an emergency? (this is ESPECIALLY important for anyone moving to a new state/considerable distance where you are not able to visit the apartment/home before you rent – students get taken advantage of ALL THE TIME with this shit)

if your first or last month at the property is a partial stay (i.e. you move in on july 15th, and rent is typically due on the first) make sure you don’t pay the full first month’s rent before you know the area laws! in many states, you are only legally required to pay for the time you are occupying the property

is renter’s insurance necessary? many apartments want at least 30k coverage, which can run a couple hundred dollars extra per year

-ask if there’s been any consistent/frequent trouble with electricity/internet connectivity/cable if you have it

-what KIND of electricity? 

-what kind of heating (hot water/electric)

-how secure is the neighborhood (if you don’t know) 

- Do they have a policy on rent increases? (Also check if there’s a legal limit to rent increases in the area).

- Are utilities paid in a separate check or with the rent?

- Are utilities metered or pro-rated (in older buildings it’s common to be charged by square footage and/or number of occupants, which can leave you subsidizing the people who turn the a/c down to 60 in the summer or the heat up to 80 in the winter - you may not be able to avoid this but it’s worth trying).

- Are there any switched circuits in the apartment. Buildings built in the late sixties through the early eighties often have switched circuits. If they do, then with the number of devices used these days you will probably have to have something important on the switched circuit - tape the switch in the on position! (Trust me).

- What are the rules on hanging pictures?

- Who is responsible for paying for and replacing bulbs in permanent fixtures? If it’s you and there’s a fixture with weird/unusual bulbs (globe style, chandelier style, etc) ask where you can buy the bulbs.

- Take pictures/make detailed notes about damages already present on move-in. Add additional sheets to what they give you if needed because chances are they’re going to be just as nitpicky when you move out to try and keep part of your security deposit.

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1.prepare your space: make sure your room and bathroom are clean and smell nice and change your bedsheets. light some candles. if you have a diffuser put in fennel oil or lavender oil. super calming.

2.boil some water in a pot to use as a steam mask.

3.fill the tub with water, add a handfull of epsom salt, a few drops of your prefered essential oil, a bath bomb/bubbles if you like. if you wanna go the extra mile…add some rose petals. you can get some cheap bouquets at supermarkets.

4.put on a hair mask and wrap your hair in a bun. If you don’t have one you can use conditioner instead or any oil…I have tried them all and my favourite is apricot oil.

5.remove any nail polish you have on.

6.cleanse your face with your cleanser, then exfoliate, put your face above the water pot for about ten mins and put on a clay mask or any other purifying mask of your liking.

7.if you have hydrogel eye masks put them on, if not you can use thin potato slices..they work wonders.

8.prepare a relaxing beverage…herbal tea…wine…whiskey..whatever you like.

9..soak in the bath for as long as you like.

10. exfoliate using your own diy scrub - sugar and oil. 

11.lounge for hours in your towel and beverege while listening to music.

12.rub lotion or oil all over yourself and wear comfortable clothes or be comfortabelly completly naked. whatever you prefer.

13.after washing off the purifying mask i really recommend hydrating the skin with a hysrating sheet mask or raw honey.

14. DIY Mani-Pedi : soak your feet in water and a cup of vinegar for 30 minutes. while you do that file your nails and cut your cuticles then apply olive oil to them and massage them. wash your feet and file them with a pumice stone. file your toenails and apply foot cream. and paint your nails if you want. if your toenails are dry apply some olive oil and shea butter to the heels, wrap them in seran wrap and wear 2 pairs of socks and you will wake up with baby soft feet.

*i also did the korean baby foot peel mask and if you guys want ill make a post about my suprising experience.

15.apply toner to your face and follow with rosehip oil. massage your skin starting from the forhead to the neck. there are so many videos abot face massage on youtube. it’s so amazing, you’ll feel great and your ski will glow.

16.apply ½ castor oil ½ olive oil to your eyelashes and lips.

17.apply lotion to your hands.

18.just lounge and do whatever relaxes you and makes youhappy. I personally like to drink sparkling wine and reading vogue or watching an old film.

19. make sure you are hydrated and drink lots of H2O and well nourished and  eating well and getting all your vitamins and minerals. 

20.try to relax while listening to white noise or your favourite sound, like rain, eind, fireplace crackle, ticking clock…or any ASMR. hair brushing ASMR is my guity pleasure.

1. Take yourself out to the museum, movies, dinner, whatever you want.

2. Spend time learning about yourself. What your interests are, what you want for the future, what your strengths and weaknesses are personality wise. List these things out and keep them in a notebook or somewhere you can keep them safe.

3. Spend time improving yourself. It can be a mental, physical, spiritual, or financial improvement.

If you’re going for a mental improvement, learn what makes you happy, sad, excited, angry. If you find that people are bringing you down, cut them from your life. If you find that an activity or person is making you happy, spend more time with that person or doing that activity. Assess your level on self love and self confidence and work to improve it.

If you’re going for a physical improvement, assess your health. I’m not saying stand in a mirror and pick out all of your flaws. That’s counterintuitive. I’m talking about trying to eat healthier, limited junk foods, eating more proteins, working out if you want, build muscles and flexibility.

If you want a spiritual improvement, assess your relationship with your faith. Are you following the core principles of your faith, attending religious services, reading your religious texts?

If you want financial improvement, track your expenses for a month or two and see where you’re overspending. Where you find overspending, cut those things out or limit them. That extra money can be put into a savings account for travelling, spoils for yourself, or an emergency fund. Whatever you want. You could also look for a job to work if you would like, or work more hours to get that $$$ if you want and have the time.

Work on your speech and vocabulary. Practice speaking properly with a clear voice and enunciation. Learn new words to improve your vocabulary by making Quizlet flashcards of words you’ve heard/read and don’t know the meaning of.

If you don’t like the way you dress, experiment with different fashions or articles of clothing. Pinterest has some great ideas for outfits. When you find something you like, pin it to a Pinterest board. Then when an item similar to it goes on sale at a store, purchase it and try it out in your outfits. If you love it, great! If you don’t, sell or donate it.

4. Do things you enjoy doing. Devote time to your hobbies like you would to a friend or s/o. Your hobbies are also your loves.

Summer is time to relax but we should take the time to think. Here are my favorites ted talk videos that I think everyone should watch:

The virginity fraud - Nina Dølvik Brochmann and Ellen Støkken Dahl

This is what it’s like to go undercover in North Korea - Suki Kim

My escape from North Korea -  Hyeonseo Lee

The Muslim on the airplane - Amal Kassir

The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong - Amy Morin

The skill of self confidence - Dr. Ivan Joseph

How to stop screwing yourself over - Mel Robbins

The Magic of Not Giving a F*** - Sarah Knight

Why the universe seems so strange - Richard Dawkins

The pattern behind self-deception - Michael Shermer

Militant atheism - Richard Dawkins

Why domestic violence victims don’t leave - Leslie Morgan Steiner

Lessons from death row inmates - David R. Dow

Lessons from the Mental Hospital - Glennon Doyle Melton

Why we choose suicide - Mark Henick

What’s Wrong with Dying? - Lesley Hazleton

I’m Taking My Body Back - Rupi Kaur

My philosophy for a happy life - Sam Berns

The surprising habits of original thinkers - Adam Grant

The surprising secret to speaking with confidence - Caroline Goyder

Want to sound like a leader? Start by saying your name right - Laura Sicola

Programming your mind for success - Carrie Green

Wear jeans/pants that “breathe” and bring a sweater, even if it’s scorching hot out, until you know which building blasts the AC to 60 degrees F and which feels like a sauna

Backpacks with thick straps are your friend!  Messenger bags are cool and all but if you’re commuting with a lot of stuff, symmetrically styled backpacks are better for your back

You are your own person and you can walk out whenever you need to or want to, so long as you’re not disrupting the class.  Meaning you can go to the bathroom without permission, take a breather if you’re anxious, answer an important phone call, etc.

If you don’t like the class on the first day, if you can- DROP THAT CLASS AND TAKE ANOTHER ONE!  It’ll only get worse from there!

If you can, take a class outside your major; it’s a good break from your expected studies.

You are in charge of your schedule.  Your adviser and guidance counselor is there to ‘advise and guide’ but if you don’t like certain classes and you can substitute for others, that’s your choice.

Consequently, if you are changing anything drastic in your plan, talk with your adviser and instructors.

Pay attention to your credit hours and grades.  Never leave this to the last week of school, you will be sorry and stressed beyond belief!

Unless it’s a lab book or otherwise specified, go to the class for a week or so before buying an expensive textbook.  Some classes, while having it on their required list, do not actually use the textbook a whole lot and you might find some of it scanned online.  Rent if you can or buy used online (schools actually don’t give discounts).  Use your best judgement on what you think you need.

Tell the people who go up to you selling or advertising things you are not interested in that you are in a rush to class and don’t have time to listen to them.  It’s less rude and they’ll leave you alone.

The smaller the class, the better it is to have some sort of acquaintanceship with a couple classmates.  They might save your ass if you are absent one day or need to study.  And talking with them makes the time go by faster without it being so insufferable.

You don’t need to join a club or sport, but internships are cool and useful!

If you can afford it, take a day off once or twice each semester if you’re too exhausted.  Just be aware of what you missed and if it was worth missing!

Your health is the most important, this goes for mental health too!!  Note: College-age/upper teens is when mental disorders like depression and anxiety are most commonly diagnosed.  Most schools have therapy services, especially during exam time.  Look into it if you need to!

Communicate with your professor if you are having trouble with something.  Anything.

Eat and stay hydrated.  Bring a water bottle and snack to class.

All-nighters will happen but never go over 36 hours without sleep.

ADDITIONAL ADVICE

Don’t let a mental health day turn into a mental health week because you will be so screwed.

Pay attention to the syllabus and do not lose it. A lot of professors put all of the assignment due dates in there and ONLY in there.

If your school has blackboard or moodle etc. CHECK IT. a lot of professors will only post certain info there and not talk about it in class

READINGS ARE NOT OPTIONAL.

I REPEAT. READINGS. ARE. NOT. OPTIONAL.

Put them in your schedule, read BEFORE class. And summarise it. For bonus points, come up with some questions about the text and go introduce yourself to your professor either after class or during office hours, and ask them about it. This will make them much more likely to remember you in a positive light (and possibly bump your grade up if you hit a hard patch.)

Your library will have a copy of your textbook. If you cannot afford to rent it, you can go to the library and borrow it from the front desk for a few hours whenever you need it. It is there for you, okay?