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Tiny bit of personal context, I'm transfemme (early transition) and have a.. surprising number of girls wanting me to domme them.

(oh also, if I have any follow-up questions, do you mind my DMing you?)

DMs are fine!!!

my advice is to practice making decisions without agonizing over them. 90% of the decisions you make while domming (what do we do next, should it wear a collar or a harness, can it cum now or should it beg more etc) are arbitrary. Learn to just decide. The more you think about every choice you’re making the faster youll burn out and get decision fatigue. If you realize you made the wrong choice, you can change it as soon as you realize. The most tiring part of domming is the overthinking. The second guessing. The “was that hot or embarrassing”. I can maintain my domme persona the longest when I can just say “whatever. I already made my decision. Time to move on”.

also, develop a list with your partner of things you want to do. “Fuck, what do I do now” was the main thing on my mind when I started domming. If you have your own list of options for stuff thats on the table you can go down the list in your head and select from it instead of coming up with things to do on the spot. Also, don’t be scared to just grab your sub and stare at them while you think of what to do. There’s no time crunch and the pause will make them anticipate something. Especially if you’re not talking, just looking at them and sizing them up.

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Source : gayguy.xxx

It has some genuinely fascinating stuff to say about gender, and I feel like it's worth looking at/thinking about in the context of Historical Gender Stuff. This 100 year old book has the following to say:

"The truth is that some young gentlemen would rather they had been born young ladies: they cannot admit this openly, because in the male world to confess as much would lead to instant ostracism if not worse; but they cannot conceal it either, and by preferring the company of girls, and soft, feminine clothing, and by flinching during the rough pursuits to which all boys, willing or no, are occasionally heirs, they attract opprobrium."

"Such boys weep too readily for their fellows' tastes - weeping is a great crime among boys unless it is generally admitted that circumstances left little choice - and are hounded for that reason."

"Just as there are girls who had rather been boys - we all know examples of the type - there are boys who, in a kinder world, would have been born into the gender more suited to their dispositions."

"Many young people of this sort are riven with a guilt they do not deserve but have been forced, by the conventions of society, to adopt; they are confused, ashamed and thoroughly unhappy."

"The ideal thing to do would be to treat these cases on their merits, send them to girls' schools, and so on. (The same thing should happen with those girls who would rather be young gentlemen.) Boys of this sort are girls in any case-in all respects save one."