Mr.Mimikyu

This idea that a Mad Queen!Dany storyline would not be as offensive, if it were better written; this notion that a Mad Queen!Dany storyline makes sense for book!Dany; this insistence that Dany will 100% lose her sanity in the books, because D&D Did It…

Pisses me off. No, in 2k19, a trope as sexist as the “hysterical/mad woman who can’t handle power and can’t handle loss without becoming an psycho bitch” is not innovative, is not wanted, is not what we need right now. Even if Martin wins a goddamn Nobel Prize for writing Dany’s descent into madness, I won’t immediately like and accept such an ending for a character who’s been a source of comfort and strength for girls and women all around the world. I’m willing to give Martin the benefit of the doubt, since I don’t believe he’ll go there anyways, BUT I find it… Hurtful, annoying, and kind of shameful that such a large part of the fandom seems to be OK with Mad Queen!Dany, only if it were written better.

I’m not OK with that and I never will. A female character should be able to be ruthless without being perceived as mad. A female character should be allowed to make mistakes and overcome them without being condemned to die at her lover’s hands. The Mad Queen!Dany theory is a harmful interpretation of the source material that invalidates a female character’s arc, because it is eDgY.

Simply put, a better development of Dany’s madness doesn’t make it a good thing and I don’t know why people aren’t being more critical about the possible implications of a trope that has been used for ages to discredit and discriminate against women for being emotional and having flaws.

He really gets on with his own parents and his mother has publicly voiced her support for him.

i just discovered a youtube channel that does entirely live action remakes of spongebob episodes to get around the fact that you cant post the actual episodes

*this is especially important: these days on Tumblr there’s a wonderful atmosphere of being able to talk openly about your mental illness or your struggle. And that’s great! But there’s a difference between sharing in order to help yourself and other people and sharing just because you have no other coping mechanisms. As much as you’re able, try to work on developing a different outlet. People aren’t qualified to be your therapist because they’re nice to you a couple of times. Please remember that they have lives too, and their job is not to make you feel better or pity you, no matter how difficult your life is. 

And last but not least: 

But… 

I really don’t have a way to better this. 

Your interests are your own. I can’t advise anyone to change their interests to fit in with a certain group of people - that’s stupid, and actually quite damaging to your sense of self. 

Instead, I would recommend that, maybe if you feel like your topics of conversation are falling flat with this group of people, you move on to other, greener pastures. There are bound to be places where your ideas mesh better with an audience. 

And of course - try to be considerate about what you say and how you say it. 

Sometimes, what might seem like a harmless comment to you might be a very discomforting thought to another person. I recently had a conversation on a forum with a guy who was telling me that his headcanon was that Pearl (from SU) would soon get a male love interest who loved mechanics and weapons next, and that would be her best arc, because she would finally get a ‘healthy’ love interest. 

His intentions were good, but he was entirely unaware of how cringey this kind of thing was to a bunch of (probably queer) people, who have spent their entire lives being told that the only ‘good’ character development for them would be to get a ‘male love interest’. No one wanted to be the jerk to say “fuck off, we don’t want that to happen” but everyone was answering him in a flat way, trying to discourage the discussion further. Instead of picking up on the hint, he bulldozed on, thinking he was having a ‘lively conversation’ which was, in fact, in its late stages of death. 

I know I’ll probably get a few messages to this saying: What about people on the Autistic Spectrum? Sometimes, people can’t pick up social cues or ‘hints’. And if that’s the case, it’s incredibly difficult to understand why you’re not having any luck communicating despite your best efforts. 

Vague and always with the subtle implication that there has to be something wrong with the other party to not want to be your friend, which isn’t a healthy mindset

The word “man” was gender neutral and referred to both sexes until the 13th century

The female specific pronoun “she” was invented in the 12th century. 

The word “girl” was gender neutral and referred to children of both sexes until the 15th century

High heels were invented for men and were worn predominantly by men until the 16th century

From the mid 16th century to the 19th century boys would typically wear dresses until the age of 7

Until the early 1930s pink was considered the appropriate colour for baby boys and blue was the colour for baby girls