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I just went through a breakup and I wanted to share a few things with you guys about how I currently feel. Here it goes - Breakups hurt, Breakups hurt a lot. You stay in a state of shock for days and weeks, still imagining ways to go back in time and remedy the situation or just avoid it from happening altogether. Well, you can't, no one can. In the end, it's important to come to terms with the fact that it's over. It's not going to be easy, it never is. All the memories, all the moments, all the smiles and all the tears just keep piling up. You'll feel distorted in between, you'll phase out a lot without even knowing why. But know this, coming from someone who's still feeling the pain, this too is a part of life. And like everything else, this too shall pass. Do NOT hate the other person, forgive them and try forgetting them, irrelevant of why you broke up, they were still a huge part of your life and they shared infinite memories with you, hating them will only hurt you, truly forgive them and ask for forgiveness. No one is perfect, we all have our flaws and our weaknesses, we all make mistakes. In the end, focus on your life, your friends, your family. If you think of them, don't focus on the bitter moments, focus on the positives because this much negativity will only make you feel darker. And before you know it, you'll be out of that dark phase of life where it seems like your entire life is over, it's not, you two will move on at your own pace and on your own time. This too shall pass. You've faced bigger problems before, you're stronger than this, both of you are. Life is beautiful, everything around us is beautiful, cherish the moments you have in your life, cherish the luxuries, cherish the small things, cherish the people who are still there with you. The world won't stop for you, no one will. You'll be back to normal in due time, because time heals all wounds. Stay strong, everyone.

Have you ever made a New Year’s resolution that didn’t make it past January? You’re not alone. Most of us fail to keep our resolutions because we try to maintain them based on our own willpower. If our resolve isn’t empowered by divine vision, our restraint fails when temptation taunts us…even more so in relationships. 

That’s why revelation is vital. When we rely on our own wisdom to make wise choices in love we set ourselves up for failure. Revelation is important because Satan knows our weaknesses better than we do. He delivers our greatest temptations when we are most vulnerable.

The devil waited for an opportune time to tempt Jesus when he was hungry, alone and tired in the desert, and he does the same with us. But Jesus had a revelation. He refused to make decisions with his natural mind. Instead, he made choices from a deeper place—a revelation anchored in His spirit.

You may have heard well-meaning friends and family advise, “Just follow your heart.” This common counsel, however, contradicts what the Bible says about our heart—no one can understand it. It’s deceitful and beyond cure. Things we only understand in our head are no match for temptation. Besides that, our own desires are often in direct conflict with God’s will. However, there are things we can do to bring increased revelation and prevent relationship mistakes.

Use the acronym HALT to remind yourself not to make decisions when you’re hungry, angry, lonely, or tired. Postpone decisions until you have a chance to get refreshed so you don’t give the devil a foothold.

You can also protect your vulnerabilities in other ways. Revelation comes with guarded focus so fill your schedule and remove unnecessary distractions. When we’re idle, we give the enemy a chance to strike, but purpose protects vulnerability. You might consider exercising, volunteering for a church or non-profit group, or taking a class to further your education. Satan waits for an opportune time to tempt you, but will leave you alone when you’re strong. 

It’s also helpful to find a focal point to fix your gaze. It might be a scripture, an encouraging thought, or a goal that you can concentrate on. A focal point in times of temptation draws your attention back to your resolve.

We all need divine direction to guide us. God’s revelation helps us triumph over areas where we’ve failed in the past. Our struggles make us stronger and we experience a powerful principle—when we refuse temptation, it loses its power over us. 

“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”

Dear Lord, I pray for my soon to be husband. As I am preparing myself to be Ms. Right, I know that Mr. Right is just near.

Lord, help me to be open-minded and help me look beyond the physical appearance of a man. Keep me away from “guys” who doesn’t share same beliefs, same values and principles that I have.

Lord, give me a husband who is first, God-fearing, who knows how to pray and how to be thankful everyday, who knows how to kneel when he makes a mistake. Who uses his head before letting his emotions consume him, who obeys You and respects his parents and sisters in Christ.

Lord, give me a loving husband who is very patient in understanding my shortcomings, who is very humble in saying sorry and admitting his mistakes when we argue.

Lord, give me a man who knows what he wants in his life and who plans for his future. A man who will give me security and who will be the head of the family.

Lord, direct me to the man who will be faithful and honest to me like how He is faithful with Your teachings.

Lord, give me a man who knows how to laugh at his mistakes and who knows how to take things lightly. A man who could crack a joke and put a smile in my face whenever I’m lonely.

Give me a husband who will play with my children, who will sing with them and who will tell them stories before they sleep. Someone who they can look up to as their role model.

And lastly Lord, give me a man who is like Jesus. A man who will love me unconditionally and who will never count nor be boastful of what he could give to my family.

A man whose love centers in generosity, in humility, in faithfulness and spirituality.

Give me this man who will be a great example to all other man out there.

Lord, give me this man who will embrace my imperfections.

As I pray this Lord, teach me also to be the RIGHT woman.

To project beauty that makes other people happy and inspired. Make me a beautiful woman that exudes confidence and integrity in my actions. A beautiful woman who respects herself and who know what she’s worth.

A woman who values herself and looks at beauty as something invisible. That when others see me, they see a woman with modesty, a woman of value and principle.

Make me a woman, who is patient in nurturing other people as this will help me nurture my future kids. Give me infinite patience in handling arguments and in dealing with my husband.

Harness my skills in cooking and household so that whenever my husband is home, he’ll realize how good it is to finally be home and to rest in a beautiful house.

Give me also a sense of appreciation that I may always compliment my husband for his work.

Let jealousy and envy leave our house as it does not have any place between us.

I know my role as a woman and we have different strengths and weaknesses that makes us perfect.

As a woman, let me direct my family to always go to Church and hear the mass.

Lord, these are my wishes. And I hope that soon enough this will all come true.