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Oh Anon, I don't know which nerve I hit or on what very large sensitive toe I stepped....

No, I haven't dated Sam. I am a single woman, as I have written more often on this blog and I most certainly tend to keep it that way.

I'm also not born yesterday nor 100 years ago, when sexual preference towards people other than the opposite sex was a crime or at the very least a huge taboo.

I'm a musician and have worked, partied, traveled, shared vacations and even hotel rooms and lots of good times with many friends, gay, fluid, hetero, whatever label you want to put on people. I don't put those labels on any of them, as it isn't of any importance to me nor my business unless they make it my business. For me they are friends, regardless of their sexual preference. I take them as they are. Their character and authenticity is more important to me than their sexual life, I don't care what they do in bed or with who.

I've been at a wedding of my best friend, who has a son from his prior relationship. His husband has a daughter together with his ex-wife. They all are fine with things as they are. So am I. Most important thing they are happy, and people that can not respect that, are not worth to spend time or thoughts on.

Anyway, enough about me, and on to what you write about Sam. I've been here now 5+ years, observing, reading, listening, talking to people here and researching things and do not ignore any information. Much has been posted and written before I even became interested in this fandom or tv show and the actors and their work and lives.

You might know, already at the very beginning, when filming hadn't even started yet but when it was announced that Sam would play Jamie, a number of book readers expressed their concerns to DG about his orientation. Now you may or may not like the woman, but one thing has to be said about her, and that is the woman doesn't lie or let her self be part of some kind of conspiracy.

Or f.i in this article on celebitchy.com based on an often quoted interview with Sam around the time TSWDM was released.

Sam Heughan is not my fave. But I realize he has a fanbase, so here you go. I tend to think he looks like a pretty version of Frankenstein’s Monster… with a bangin’ body. I also tend to think that his employers and his publicist want him to stay very, very deep in the closet. But in this day and age, we can and should take his word for it that he’s straight. Which brings me to this interview he did with a LGBTQ+ blog, all to promote his role in The Spy Who Dumped Me (he plays “the gay friend” I think?). Some highlights:

If he’s a straight guy, then his answers are pretty cool – “I mean, it’s not true, but I don’t really care.” It’s 2018 and actors don’t give a damn if you think they’re gay and they’re not going to protest it loudly if you say they are. Of course, there’s always the possibility that he’s a straight guy who has spent his whole career queerbaiting the gay audience too, which is something a lot of the younger entertainers are doing these days. I have no idea – I don’t know the man and I’ll take him at his word.

Now see, that's what I call an unbiased opinion and I very much share the conclusion "I'll take him at his word".

That article originates from an interview on newnownext, which doesn't exist anymore, though screenshots of it still float around. Like this one from a post written in 2015 by @contemplatingoutlander

On another post from 2019 she wrote (and I take the freedom to quote from her post but do recommend to read the whole post):

I’ve said before that no one really knows anyone else’s sexual orientation, but after Sam told Logo he wasn’t gay, I believe he isn’t. Like many actors, Sam is sensitive to the concerns of the LGBTQIA community and he would know that it would be incredibly disrespectful to that community to directly lie to them. If Sam were closeted, I believe that in the interview he would have said something ambiguous about his sexuality or avoided the topic all together. He wouldn’t have outright denied being gay.

I also suggest to dig through her very large archive where you might find a shitload of evidence more credible than all the fabricated lies all together that float around.

She has also written a good number of posts about the relationships he had, all with women over the years, even before OL started. I'm not gonna rehash them all and don't see any merit in naming these women as they all have their own lives and moved on long ago. But if you're curious, dig around in her archive.

Talking about proof from before his OL time! A German article long before OL came around, posted January 2012 from the time he was touring with Batman, also mentions his girlfriend:

Silvester feierte Sam Heughan (31) mit seiner Freundin in Berlin. „Bei der großen Party am Brandenburger Tor, es gab auch einige Biere, Berlin ist ja so unfassbar billig“, schwärmt Heughan, der derzeit in London lebt und die dortigen Preise gewohnt ist.

For the ones that are not able to read or understand German or know how to use Google translate for that matter:

Sam Heughan (31) celebrated New Year's Eve with his girlfriend in Berlin . "At the big party at the Brandenburg Gate, there were quite a few beers, Berlin is so incredibly cheap," enthuses Heughan, who currently lives in London and is used to the prices there.

That's right, "seiner Freundin" - his girlfriend. Not a friend, as that would be "einer Freundin" and in German 'Freundin' is the female version of 'friend'. (so there is no confusion about the nature of their friendship imo)

And let's just mention as well how he tells about his girlfriend during his Theater days in his book Waypoints.

Now I don't know if you want to ignore all of the above, but to come here as an Anon, mentioning a video, you do not even link to and then tel me I'm ignoring 'evidence'? Makes me kinda feel a bit sorry for you.

Oh and before you claim otherwise, as all above indicates only one thing - he had girlfriends and the very things he said himself about not being gay - I have read countless threads on DL. Up to where it became very boring, as they only rehash the same old same old, and yes I researched it all with an open mind looking for merit in what was written there just to find out there isn't any, not a single assertion based on facts, only assumptions, lame gossip talk with even more lame gifs or dirty pics that hadn't got anything to do with Sam.

More so with the constant narrative about his friend he took to the premiere of OL and to Japan. A narrative repeated at nausea with no factual 'evidence'. And when this friend did a podcast years later on, which I (re)posted not a word from any of these people that constantly dragged the friends name in something he clearly doesn't want to be part of. No, instead now the word is his business partner is more than a friend and business partner, which sounds pretty desperate to say the least.

So perhaps it's you that should be a bit more cautious with the word 'evidence' about a video (? link? ) 'indicating he may be fluid' and consequently spewing accusations an assumptions about me. How open minded are you?

Do you really want me to post, yes I've seen him over the past 5 years with YAYG* but hey maybe after 40 years he might come to the conclusion he is fluid, or maybe after 50, 60? I've heard even people in their 70s did so....? Is that what you want? What reality is that? Maybe he's dating women but maybe he's fluid and maybe it will show or maybe he should write another memoir on it.... or wait, maybe he will marry his co-star and she will get a divorce. Oh wait... yeah that's a shipper narrative already... right?

Yeah sorry Anon if i get a bit sarcastic here. I post reality, pictures, videos that show simply what happens. And of course a picture, a video leaves a certain room for interpretation, which is often debated in the comments on my post. But to explain away simply because you so much need keep a narrative alive is from a whole other level.

I keep timelines since people in this fandom are very good to twist facts, times and places. And that's exactly the nerve I seem to hit, each time when a video or interview shows something that doesn't fit their (or your) narrative.

Again I like to quote from a post written by CO (as she wrote it better than I can ever do):

Extreme super-shippers (xs-shippers or “tinhatters“) are super-shippers who have experienced a major setback in terms of their OTP (e.g., one of the two marries someone else, or the two do an unprecedented denial video, etc.).Unfortunately, these fans don’t want to accept the fact that the OTP isn’t a couple and they don’t want to return to just “regular shipping” (i.e., hoping that somehow the two find each other). To keep the ship afloat they need to come up with conspiracy theories as to why the obstacle to the OTP isn’t “real” (e.g., the SO is a “beard” or they can’t come out because “the powers that be” TPTB won’t allow it, or they can’t come out until the awards season is over, etc.).Therefore, everyone close to the OTP (including the OTP) are assumed to be “lying” when they claim they aren’t a couple.

Please read the entire article on this link

Even if this is about shippers, the same goes for people who claim all kind of 'evidence' or 'proof' of him not being straight. There's actually not much difference.

It even gets worse when you go to these extremes that you feel the need to create more than 400 AI images. I mean how many gifs and pics are there to be found from the show or even from interviews to show them together. Is it not enough and you have to create some unrealistic fantasy using AI? it simply crosses a line legally and ethically. And that is what I posted about. Am I surprised? No! We've seen so many things they've done, that is unethical and very disrespectful.

Note: Many thanks to @contemplatingoutlander for all the things I found in her archive and the many links to articles and other relevant information.

Oh Anon, I don't know which nerve I hit or on what very large sensitive toe I stepped....

No, I haven't dated Sam. I am a single woman, as I have written more often on this blog and I most certainly tend to keep it that way.

I'm also not born yesterday nor 100 years ago, when sexual preference towards people other than the opposite sex was a crime or at the very least a huge taboo.

I'm a musician and have worked, partied, traveled, shared vacations and even hotel rooms and lots of good times with many friends, gay, fluid, hetero, whatever label you want to put on people. I don't put those labels on any of them, as it isn't of any importance to me nor my business unless they make it my business. For me they are friends, regardless of their sexual preference. I take them as they are. Their character and authenticity is more important to me than their sexual life, I don't care what they do in bed or with who.

I've been at a wedding of my best friend, who has a son from his prior relationship. His husband has a daughter together with his ex-wife. They all are fine with things as they are. So am I. Most important thing they are happy, and people that can not respect that, are not worth to spend time or thoughts on.

Anyway, enough about me, and on to what you write about Sam. I've been here now 5+ years, observing, reading, listening, talking to people here and researching things and do not ignore any information. Much has been posted and written before I even became interested in this fandom or tv show and the actors and their work and lives.

You might know, already at the very beginning, when filming hadn't even started yet but when it was announced that Sam would play Jamie, a number of book readers expressed their concerns to DG about his orientation. Now you may or may not like the woman, but one thing has to be said about her, and that is the woman doesn't lie or let her self be part of some kind of conspiracy.

Or f.i in this article on celebitchy.com based on an often quoted interview with Sam around the time TSWDM was released.

Sam Heughan is not my fave. But I realize he has a fanbase, so here you go. I tend to think he looks like a pretty version of Frankenstein’s Monster… with a bangin’ body. I also tend to think that his employers and his publicist want him to stay very, very deep in the closet. But in this day and age, we can and should take his word for it that he’s straight. Which brings me to this interview he did with a LGBTQ+ blog, all to promote his role in The Spy Who Dumped Me (he plays “the gay friend” I think?). Some highlights:

If he’s a straight guy, then his answers are pretty cool – “I mean, it’s not true, but I don’t really care.” It’s 2018 and actors don’t give a damn if you think they’re gay and they’re not going to protest it loudly if you say they are. Of course, there’s always the possibility that he’s a straight guy who has spent his whole career queerbaiting the gay audience too, which is something a lot of the younger entertainers are doing these days. I have no idea – I don’t know the man and I’ll take him at his word.

Now see, that's what I call an unbiased opinion and I very much share the conclusion "I'll take him at his word".

That article originates from an interview on newnownext, which doesn't exist anymore, though screenshots of it still float around. Like this one from a post written in 2015 by @contemplatingoutlander

On another post from 2019 she wrote (and I take the freedom to quote from her post but do recommend to read the whole post):

I’ve said before that no one really knows anyone else’s sexual orientation, but after Sam told Logo he wasn’t gay, I believe he isn’t. Like many actors, Sam is sensitive to the concerns of the LGBTQIA community and he would know that it would be incredibly disrespectful to that community to directly lie to them. If Sam were closeted, I believe that in the interview he would have said something ambiguous about his sexuality or avoided the topic all together. He wouldn’t have outright denied being gay.

I also suggest to dig through her very large archive where you might find a shitload of evidence more credible than all the fabricated lies all together that float around.

She has also written a good number of posts about the relationships he had, all with women over the years, even before OL started. I'm not gonna rehash them all and don't see any merit in naming these women as they all have their own lives and moved on long ago. But if you're curious, dig around in her archive.

Talking about proof from before his OL time! A German article long before OL came around, posted January 2012 from the time he was touring with Batman, also mentions his girlfriend:

Silvester feierte Sam Heughan (31) mit seiner Freundin in Berlin. „Bei der großen Party am Brandenburger Tor, es gab auch einige Biere, Berlin ist ja so unfassbar billig“, schwärmt Heughan, der derzeit in London lebt und die dortigen Preise gewohnt ist.

For the ones that are not able to read or understand German or know how to use Google translate for that matter:

Sam Heughan (31) celebrated New Year's Eve with his girlfriend in Berlin . "At the big party at the Brandenburg Gate, there were quite a few beers, Berlin is so incredibly cheap," enthuses Heughan, who currently lives in London and is used to the prices there.

That's right, "seiner Freundin" - his girlfriend. Not a friend, as that would be "einer Freundin" and in German 'Freundin' is the female version of 'friend'. (so there is no confusion about the nature of their friendship imo)

And let's just mention as well how he tells about his girlfriend during his Theater days in his book Waypoints.

Now I don't know if you want to ignore all of the above, but to come here as an Anon, mentioning a video, you do not even link to and then tel me I'm ignoring 'evidence'? Makes me kinda feel a bit sorry for you.

Oh and before you claim otherwise, as all above indicates only one thing - he had girlfriends and the very things he said himself about not being gay - I have read countless threads on DL. Up to where it became very boring, as they only rehash the same old same old, and yes I researched it all with an open mind looking for merit in what was written there just to find out there isn't any, not a single assertion based on facts, only assumptions, lame gossip talk with even more lame gifs or dirty pics that hadn't got anything to do with Sam.

More so with the constant narrative about his friend he took to the premiere of OL and to Japan. A narrative repeated at nausea with no factual 'evidence'. And when this friend did a podcast years later on, which I (re)posted not a word from any of these people that constantly dragged the friends name in something he clearly doesn't want to be part of. No, instead now the word is his business partner is more than a friend and business partner, which sounds pretty desperate to say the least.

So perhaps it's you that should be a bit more cautious with the word 'evidence' about a video (? link? ) 'indicating he may be fluid' and consequently spewing accusations an assumptions about me. How open minded are you?

Do you really want me to post, yes I've seen him over the past 5 years with YAYG* but hey maybe after 40 years he might come to the conclusion he is fluid, or maybe after 50, 60? I've heard even people in their 70s did so....? Is that what you want? What reality is that? Maybe he's dating women but maybe he's fluid and maybe it will show or maybe he should write another memoir on it.... or wait, maybe he will marry his co-star and she will get a divorce. Oh wait... yeah that's a shipper narrative already... right?

Yeah sorry Anon if i get a bit sarcastic here. I post reality, pictures, videos that show simply what happens. And of course a picture, a video leaves a certain room for interpretation, which is often debated in the comments on my post. But to explain away simply because you so much need keep a narrative alive is from a whole other level.

I keep timelines since people in this fandom are very good to twist facts, times and places. And that's exactly the nerve I seem to hit, each time when a video or interview shows something that doesn't fit their (or your) narrative.

Again I like to quote from a post written by CO (as she wrote it better than I can ever do):

Extreme super-shippers (xs-shippers or “tinhatters“) are super-shippers who have experienced a major setback in terms of their OTP (e.g., one of the two marries someone else, or the two do an unprecedented denial video, etc.).Unfortunately, these fans don’t want to accept the fact that the OTP isn’t a couple and they don’t want to return to just “regular shipping” (i.e., hoping that somehow the two find each other). To keep the ship afloat they need to come up with conspiracy theories as to why the obstacle to the OTP isn’t “real” (e.g., the SO is a “beard” or they can’t come out because “the powers that be” TPTB won’t allow it, or they can’t come out until the awards season is over, etc.).Therefore, everyone close to the OTP (including the OTP) are assumed to be “lying” when they claim they aren’t a couple.

Please read the entire article on this link

Even if this is about shippers, the same goes for people who claim all kind of 'evidence' or 'proof' of him not being straight. There's actually not much difference.

It even gets worse when you go to these extremes that you feel the need to create more than 400 AI images. I mean how many gifs and pics are there to be found from the show or even from interviews to show them together. Is it not enough and you have to create some unrealistic fantasy using AI? it simply crosses a line legally and ethically. And that is what I posted about. Am I surprised? No! We've seen so many things they've done, that is unethical and very disrespectful.

Note: Many thanks to @contemplatingoutlander for all the things I found in her archive and the many links to articles and other relevant information.

As I've said before, I'm bisexual, so I don't care what S's sexual orientation is. But honestly, it's no one's business but S's. And he's said he's not gay. He has the right to define his own sexuality--fans do not have the right to define it for him.

And I honestly do not understand the obsession of certain heterosexual women in this fandom who try to "out" S as a form of entertainment, or as some warped idea of being in solidarity with the LGBTQ+ community. 🙄

But don't take my word that it isn't cool to try to out someone, including a celebrity.

In an article about Harry Styles, The Danger With Speculating Someone’s Sexual Identity, Sarah Sahim writes:

The context in which Harry’s sexuality is being discussed is unlike millions of LGBTQ people’s everyday lives. His innermost thoughts and feelings are being put up for debate in a public forum that has likely never met him, and most certainly doesn’t know exactly what he’s thinking. That projection can be and is dangerous. Rory Gory, Safe Messaging Expert at The Trevor Project* advises that “it's never OK to tell a person what their gender identity or sexuality are before they've defined themselves or chosen to disclose, even if you're trying to demonstrate your support for LGBTQ people.” Whether you’ve personally known someone your entire life or followed their career with conviction, you have no right to deduce someone’s sexuality based on arbitrary information. Famous or not, no one owes you an explanation or justification of their feelings. [color/emphasis added]

CONGRATULATIONS!!

RIP Ozzy!

Gold and violet variations:

(Sorry, I couldn't resist. Thanks 🙏🏻for your patience with my playing with this concept by using a part of your inspired work @necessary-disorder. )

The Metropolitan Museum of Art’s Michael C. Rockefeller collection from Africa, the Ancient Americas and Oceania reopens with a pantheon of historic art stars.

In the Michael C. Rockefeller Wing, a carved figure from Mali is the welcoming host.

This is a gift 🎁 link so there is no paywall. Below are some excerpts.

If you want to feel the charge of excitement that great art — no imaginative limits — and new thinking about it can bring, head to the Metropolitan Museum of Art’s redesigned and reconceived Michael C. Rockefeller wing, and its collection of work from Africa, the Americas and Oceania that opens on Saturday. Go for the pure visual pleasure of the work there — believe me, it’ll have your eyes spinning — and go for the still unfolding histories it tells. [...] These 1,726 objects — majestic carved wood figures from Africa; pocket-size mythical beings, cast in gold, from Mexico; a communally painted, Sistine-worthy ceiling of the South Seas from New Guinea — are as beautiful as any art anywhere on this earth, and represent the spiritual, political and emotional lives of people spread over five continents and eight millenniums.

Surrounded and embraced by the creative power of Africa in the entry to the Michael C. Rockefeller Wing, with clusters of work from many cultures.

The Arts of Africa

The main point of entry to the African collection is still from the Greek and Roman galleries, but now when we enter, under a high white ribbed-arch ceiling, we are in Africa, surrounded and embraced by it. In the center is a savanna of wood-carved sculptures, with enfilades of intimate exhibition spaces on either side and, leading off to the left, deep into the wing.

Vista of the Arts of the Ancient Americas, where venerable objects made of stone, metal and ceramic have been brought out into the light from Central Park.

The Arts of the Ancient Americas

The Art of the Americas display, with its primary entrance across from the museum’s Modern and Contemporary galleries, begins with some of the oldest objects in the collection. One is a near life-size Olmec head from Mexico cut from sea-green jade and dated from 900-400 B.C. Its features look human but also, with catlike eyes, not. Another is an extraordinary, fragmented ceramic figure made sometime between 200 B.C. and 400 A.D. in Colombia or Ecuador. It depicts an avidly energetic-looking super-ager — a shaman? — who seems to occupy nonbinary terrain between genders and species. (The figure’s spine resembles an iguana’s tail.)

The redesigned wing, by Kulapat Yantrasast of WHY Architecture with Beyer, Blinder, Belle, features a Ceremonial House Ceiling by Kwoma artists, Papua New Guinea.

The Arts of Oceana

Meanwhile, the bulk of the museum’s Oceanic material has now been repositioned within the Rockefeller wing. Much can be found in a string of galleries that cuts diagonally across the wing, forming a kind of tidal stream linking the south-facing space to a brand-new gallery of similarly monumental scale.

South Seas Ceremonial House Ceiling from pieces of painted sago palm leaf stems. The panels, through their designs, are a map of the cosmos, mythical knowledge and clan histories.

You were a sorely needed light of compassion in a darkening world.

You will be greatly missed.

This is a gift 🎁 link, so there is no paywall to read the article. Below are some excerpts.

By Esther Zuckerman | April 18, 2025

Say “hand flex” to a fan of the 2005 adaptation of Jane Austen’s “Pride & Prejudice” and they will know exactly what you mean. The gesture comes early in the director Joe Wright’s sumptuous version of the story. Keira Knightley’s bold Elizabeth Bennet is leaving Netherfield Park after picking up her ill sister Jane (Rosamund Pike). The reserved Mr. Darcy, played by Matthew Macfadyen, helps Elizabeth into a carriage. She had previously overheard Darcy insult her, calling her “tolerable,” and the tension between them is palpable. But when he touches her, something happens. She looks down, her gaze lingering on his gesture. As he walks away, the camera captures Darcy’s hand. His fingers stretch outward like an impulsive, unconscious tic. Her touch is almost too intense for him to handle. In the nearly 20 years since the film came out, the hand flex has become perhaps the defining beat from Wright’s take on the novel. It’s the subject of countless social-media posts, critical essays and TikTok dissertations. Search “hand flex” on TikTok or X and you’ll find the term even being applied to scenes from other films and TV shows. “This is my equivalent of the hand flex” is shorthand for “this tiny gesture gives me butterflies.” The word I kept encountering when talking to people and reading about the hand flex is “yearning.” Darcy, in the early phases of the story, keeps up a mask around Elizabeth, but his subconscious actions reveal just how much he desires her. To many, it’s devastatingly hot. And now, for the anniversary rerelease of “Pride & Prejudice” on April 20, the hand flex is commemorated with official merchandise.

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