the confused asexual before realizing they were asexual:
âşÂ âIâm not dating anyone because I want to focus on school and Iâm too busy.â -said all through high school and college.
âşÂ âI donât care how someone looks, I care about their personality.â - A common response to: âwhatâs your type??â
âşÂ Yeah, literally not having a âtypeâ. Never understanding how people have âtypesâ.
âşÂ âIâll never have kids I am going to have dogs.â
âşÂ Never understanding fuck, marry, kill. Especially other peoples choices in the game.
âşÂ Getting really good at saying âThank you for asking, but Iâm just not interested in dating anyone right now.â
âşÂ Avoiding sexual conversations at all costs because they are uncomfortable, confusing or truly boring.
âşÂ Being a total hopeless romantic and wondering why people are more interested in how hot someone is versus them being kind?? or smart?? or funny?? what their hobbies are?? how they treat their mom??
âşÂ Being confused when people will go out of their way, even dangerously so, to please/impress someone they think is hot. Like why? You can see the heartbreak coming a million miles away because what even is sexual attraction.
âşÂ The explanation at all family dinners for not having a significant other is that you have more important things to be worrying about right now, LIKE SCHOOL.
âşÂ Being completely oblivious to others flirting at you and also not realizing when you might be coming off as flirty because youâre just a nice person and like to hold doors open for people.
âşÂ Anytime you find a good new song and then actually listen to the lyrics and sit there like??? What does this mean?
âşÂ Wondering why thinking about holding someones hand gives you butterflies in your stomach but if you even try to imagine having sex with them your mind goes blank.
Hey, if youâre ace, thatâs chill. It doesnât mean anything is wrong with you or that you need to change. Some people just arenât into people sexually and thatâs fine. Be confident in yourself.
Update: have now come to realize I'm 99% sure I'm aro as well so uh this probably applies to a lot of aro people lol (or moreso aroaces than just aces)