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im sorry im being a bully to: the man who abused and sexually harassed me when he should have been raising me, the male teacher who tried to touch me inappropriately when i was in middle school, the man who called me slurs when i rejected him, the man who shot up my school because he felt entitled to another woman's body, the trans ex boyfriend who hated women so much that he threatened to beat me the moment i expressed any gender questioning for fears of "turning him straight", the male teacher who told me to shut up for answering his questions and said i was a bitch for complaining about him to my counselor, the male classmates who physically and sexually abused me when i was forcibly outed to the entire school, the male professor who tried to mansplain feminism to me saying "true feminism benefits men too" while also calling me a 'transsexual' and thinking it was progressive, the man who stole my nudes and posted them online for three years straight before getting bored, the man who threatened to kill me at work, the other man who threatened to kill me at work, the man who told me to kill myself after he started flirting with me without my consent, the man who tried to spike my drink, the man who tried to steal my cane, the man who stalked me for three weeks in an attempt to get me alone so he could rape me, the men who have been sending me constant death and rape threats online for years because i said i was a lesbian and i do not want to date them.

and those are just the ones i can remember.

important distinction, i do not hate these people because they are men. i hate them because they're misogynists, because their hatred of women and their actions have hurt, abuse, and even killed women.

i hate the systemic patriarchy that allows men do continue to do this shit almost entirely unresisted. "misandry" is not real, because their is no systemic "matriarchy" that exists as a societal force to oppress men.

I'm glad the tone i struck was accessible to you. I'm going to continue to be very generous right now: this response is transmisogyny. one of the kinds of privilege that TME people experience is getting to be judged as individuals whereas TMA people are always judged collectively. TMA people should not have to be as precise, nonjudgmental, and even in tone as i was in this thread. i chose to put in the effort to explain things in these terms, but i did so because when TMA people like me aren't, we get taken with the worst possible faith.

if a cis woman wrote a post like mine about the ways in which men leverage misogyny against her, it would be obviously misogynistic for someone to reply "oh thank goodness. i never really got feminism because they're always just so bitchy about men". this would be the case regardless of who said it or what their proximity to misogyny is. the same is true here: i made a long post with very precisely chosen language, and this reply contrasts me against all those other, apparently uncouth trans women who don't haven't decency to be nice about our oppression. (if you know trans women like that, please send them my way. they sound based.).

TMA people do not owe any deference to TME people's feelings when talking about our oppression. y'all can get away with shit on the regular, usually against us, that is far crueler than incivility. TMA people shouldn't have to make posts that are hundreds of carefully chosen words long with step-by-step logical constructions from first principles and real-world illustrations whose relevance is spelled out on exacting detail. this was a high effort post and WE DON'T OWE THAT TO ANYONE. we shouldn't have to do that every time we want to talk about the fucked up things that happen to and around us, especially not to TME people who benefit from doing those fucked up things to us.

a common (and exhausting) misconception seems to happen around the word "exempt". let's be clear: transmisogyny isn't just "misogyny that happens to trans women". transmisogyny is a social force which influences *all* people which posits that differently gendered people are intrinsically different in some meaningful way and that one gender is in some way socially superior to another. the ways that we construct, define, inscribe, navigate, and relate to gender are all influenced by transmisogyny. if getting to wield misogyny without consequence is the carrot of patriarchy, then the threat of faggotization for being too great a failure to one's assigned boyhood is the stick. I've seen transmisogyny described as the psychological lynchpin that holds patriarchy together. some people can leverage their gender in some way to mitigate the impact of this force, but it is a fundamental part very sea that we all must swim in.

the same can be said for other marginalizing forces. temporarily nondisabled people can experience negative consequences of ableism, but feeling burnt out from an excessive workload is a fundamentally different experience when not fully exposed to ableism. for instance, you might have your exhaustion taken more seriously by your doctor if you are not yet disabled and consequently receive better medical care. a straight man might be mistreated if others believe him to be gay, but he's dealing with one moment of interpersonal bigotry rather than an entire lifetime of being under threat (for example, his right to the social and financial benefits of marriage are far more guaranteed than they might be if he was gay). and so on.

TME people experience transmisogyny but they are not its primary targets and can exempt themselves from scrutiny and mistreatment by leveraging their gender in some way that TMA people cannot. one pernicious way that this happens is through a kind of affected incompetence, positioning themselves to always be seeking education from TMA people about transmisogyny and offering shallow rebuttals and critiques such as the images attached (which they may not even consciously recognize as such). this positions TMA people as bearing the expectation of answering and clarifying on demand and being held to account for all the other TMA people who have come before her.

DO NOT HATE POST. MEANT TO CELEBRATE THE CHARACTERS WE LOVE, NOT SHAME THE ONES WE HATE.

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@delphi-star You do recall correctly!! She does not give a shit about that man! She's happily married! She tipped him for being a witness at her wedding!

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