Every once in a while I see "Do the Scions take the WoL for granted/ask too much of them/see them as a tool more than a person?" discussion floating around (sometimes on my own posts) and tbh I have pretty complex feelings about it and I don't think it's a cut-and-dry answer. I both sympathize and agree with readings that see tension between the Scions and the WoL especially early on, and also chafe at interpretations that vilify the Scions or seek to interpret their actions in the least charitable light. I think it's possible to see that tension as present in ARR (especially in the patches) while also seeing that Scions in ARR are well-intentioned people genuinely doing their best in very difficult circumstances. I also think it's possible to interpret your own WoL (a fictional character) as feeling taken for granted, isolated, etc, while also having a more nuanced reading of what the Scions' motives and intentions actually are.
I'm not going to get into all the specifics here because I've already written other posts about it from multiple angles. But in the broad strokes, one thing that makes the Scions so interesting is how much they do change, both as individuals and as a group, in a game that by nature of its format often struggles to show institutions changing over time. The Scions do, and it matters at what point in their journey we're talking about them and in what context the characters are taking the actions they're taking.
Go too far in either direction ("The Scions are a big happy family who have done nothing wrong ever" or "The Scions are a sinister cult full of callous people who just want to use you") and you just end up having to ignore large portions of canon to justify that reading, I think. And to be fair, ARR is so long and meandering that it's easy for a lot of details to slip from people's minds if you don't replay it, and leave people with only the moments that made the strongest impression on them, whether positive or negative. I know a lot of things have jumped out at me in my replay of ARR that I didn't remember strongly. But the story of the Scions in ARR is, all told, a nuanced one. And including the patches, it's very much a road to hell paved with good intentions. ARR shows us the good intentions (and indeed a lot of good does come out of them) while already foreshadowing the road to hell pretty clearly, especially in the back half. The patches show us how it all falls apart, in spite of the best intentions. Heavensward then shows us how the survivors reckon with what went wrong, and how they're going to move forward from here.
