Topic- monogamy is overrated, authenticity is better.
Happy New Year. I brought the new year in with my family. I booked a Vegas trip and communicated with my boo he wasn’t invited and to enjoy his New Year how he wanted (which would be with his family or a lady of his choice it really didn’t matter to me). I Got back to my nigga so we could enjoy OUR new year celebration and let me tell you, It was nothing short of incredible. But Before we could indulge, appreciate, and connect with one another we had to address how a lame ass bitch (my words not his) attempted to ruin our night and exactly how it was done.
There were a plethora of clues left for me to find so I would know that a bitch or two (shit maybe even three) had been there and possibly fucking. This nigga is a smooth nigga so the clues weren’t, nor would they ever be left just sitting for me to find them. He always cleans up thoroughly after one woman leaves his place or before the next one pulls up (unless he wants you to see that someone was there and he’ll leave all the evidence and just wait for you to ask). Instead of throwing it all away per usual he put all the articles that were left behind in a bag, showed them to me, told me where they were perfectly placed in order for me to stumble across them… I wasn’t mad, and we laughed.
An underwire ( one that clearly didn’t just come out on its own. It was pulled out and placed by the microwave)
A tag from a bra and panty set ( not the price tag
but the label tag, he bought this for her, he likes to see women looking sexy at ALL times, instead of appreciating the gift she ripped off the tag that specifically said underwear and left it to blend in with the covers)
Two corners of ripped price tags
( no big deal but he didn't have any new clothes so I would know the tags weren't his)
There was more but who cares
We LAUGHED, We rolled up some good ass weed, poured up some drinks, and then we fucked multiple times until I passed out.
See the SIDE BITCH mindset is dead over here. ( before you continue on,
DISCLAIMER- please understand that I AM FULLY AWARE this is an unfair, possibly tainted, completely based off of my own life experiences, personal opinion, and borderline biased blanket coat statement of the entire male population. Oh well! I’ve had the pleasure of dealing with more unfaithful men than I have had with men who are faithful. I mean truly faithful, they know how to have fun, communicate with other women while still respecting their partner, and even in the face of temptation be able to keep their dick in their pants, better yet they don't even allow flirty conversation. But those men have been far and few between. Now here is why I am no longer on a hunt for my “prince charming.”
Men cheat! Men have sex with other women. Men ENJOY the game of getting to know new women. Men enjoy feeling like a new bitch is interested in what they got going on. Men enjoy the game of flirting, meeting a bitch at the bar, store, or gym and working her out of her panties with the least amount of effort required. I mean I feel like most women get this part, but most women don't know how to play their part in this game. AKA they don’t know how to stay unfucked. So the nigga hits on the first night, 5th night, or even after he takes her out for a few drinks two weeks after meeting her, then he goes back to his main bitch and hopes that she remains unaware of his rendezvous.
I realize this, I am aware of this, and I have adjusted to this, (mainly because I'm almost 26 and I refuse to get played AGAIN) and I am over being lied to about what the man I have chosen to fuck with is doing. I have decided to reject the “dream” of marriage and monogamy, (don't get me wrong, not all men are dogs. Some men find a woman and they are happy with just her forever other men stop chasing woman when they lose energy. aka as they get older ) instead I want a life partner who wants to win together and achieve individual success as well as being a successful team.
So instead of insisting on monogamy. I insist on respect, open levels of communication, honesty, making sure, mutual agreements of what our relationship will be, and keeping one another happy.
Call me stupid, claim that I'm lowering my standards, shit you can even say that I don't know my worth. But instead of pretending my nigga is Prince Charming I keep it real with myself and I understand that he’s a good man who simply loves bitches and I’m a woman who simply is happy with him REGARDLESS of who he might use for a quick nut from time to time. One thing is for sure, I’d rather have an authentic relationship that may seem off the wall and unacceptable to others vs. pretending I’ extremely happy with my partner but I know that he has 5 different women rotating in and out when I’m not around and he is lying to me about it.
Life is real, do you want to live in a fairy tale and be cheated on or would you rather have an authentic connection with 1, 2, maybe 3 different people who you can confide in, be 100% yourself, and be honest about your emotional, spiritual, and sexual needs.
Indulge in YOUR pleasures
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