Brielle Writes

September will be filled with blessings.

September will be filled with positivity.

September will be filled with progress.

September will be filled with kindness.

September will be filled with love.

hey it’s ya girl a plus sized poc dark academic 🕊✨

i hate how white and skinny most representations of the dark academia aesthetic are.

so i wanna say you don’t need to be white to embody the dark academia aesthetic or any aesthetic for that matter.

and you certainly don’t need to be skinny we need more diversity in this community not everything is european/ american based when it comes to dark academia never forget that✨

motivation to read

tea!! coffee!!

pretentiousness

good, pleasing aesthetic

motivation to do classwork

renewed my love for choral music and classical music

a love for classic literature

style I feel comfortable in

motivation to clean

Your sexuality doesn’t take away from you being a boy, it doesn’t make you anything at all except pan. Your sexuality doesn’t determine your worth. You aren’t predatory against anyone just for experiencing attraction to them, or for flirting with people, or for dating people, or for having sexual experiences with people. As long as everything is safe and consensual you are not doing anything wrong. It is time to let go of the internalized belief that your attraction is in anyway dangerous or bad or dirty.

Omnisexual people existing is not an attack on bisexuality

Polysexual people existing is not an attack on bisexuality

Mspec people who aren't bi existing is not an invitation to critique or discourse about their identities

Let mspec people identify however they want, if you're not them it's absolutely none of your business

@writersbytheocean

please note: this is my post!! i would love it if you shared it to educate others about unlabeled people, but if you do, please ask for permission and give me credits. anyways i hope you enjoy this <3

What does it mean to be unlabeled?

Being unlabeled simply means you don’t choose to have a label that is in the LGBTQ+ community. Not having a label does not mean that they are cis-straight. From wikipedia, “A lot of unlabeled people tend to focus on the person, not the gender,” which I would agree with.

So…why would someone choose to be unlabeled?

There are a ton of different reasons. Some people are not comfortable with labels, they don’t know which label fits them best, they just don’t want to identify with the labels given, and/or they might not feel the need to put a label to how they feel. Some people may also identify as unlabeled because they are scared to accept who they actually are, they might have some internalized homophobia.

Common Misconceptions and Struggles

1. Coming out as unlabeled is just the first part in figuring out their sexuality

This is not correct. Yes, in some cases an unlabeled person will first come out as unlabeled and later continue to realize they are LGB+. The other people who use this term might use it because they feel no term fits them best/they don’t want a term. By saying or asking if they will come out later is invalidating. This would probably happen to unlabeled characters by their LGBTQ+ friends or even their parents perhaps.

2. People assume who you like

If you’re writing an unlabeled character, there will be times that they are assumed to be lesbian, bi, gay, or put under a term they are not. A scenario: If your character is dating a girl, and they are also a girl, then people might assume they are lesbian or bi. If your character is a girl and dating a man, then people will assume you’re straight. This is one thing that can really hurt an unlabeled person, it’s forcing a label on someone who doesn’t want one. For example, when I came out as unlabeled, someone had asked if I was pansexual. Unlabeled means no label, no asking someone if their pan isn’t an amazing thing to do if they had just come out as not using a label.

3. Unlabeled people are not apart of the LGBTQ+ community

The idea is that “no label means no community” which is not the thing at all. Unlabeled people are not straight and/or cis. This puts them to be a part of the LGBTQ+ community. I cannot stress it enough how invalidating this is. You are telling us that we aren’t a part of a community that is supposed to accept everyone. Unfortunately, this is something that happens a lot, so if you’re going to write an unlabeled character then this is something that might happen to them.

4. Unlabeled people are queer-baiting

OkAy so this is the easiest way to invalidate someone. You are telling them that they are straight/cis. If someone says they are unlabeled, believe them. A decent person wouldn’t do it to someone who is gay or bi, would they? So don’t do it to unlabeled people.

While I do say this, unfortunately this is something that happens a lot to unlabeled people because they choose not to fit under a term deemed acceptable. A lot of LGBTQ+ people tend to gate keep people who use the term unlabeled, so it’s something anyone can do.  

Relating, unlabeled does NOT mean queer and these two terms are not interchangeable. Queer is an umbrella term for anyone who isn’t cishet. Queer used to be used as an insult to people, so someone might feel uncomfy with the term, it’s also a label and it can make unlabeled people upset and uncomfortable.

5. Focusing on the gender aspect of unlabeled

For this I talked to one of my friends since I don’t have first hand experience on this topic.

The hardest thing about this is that people divide things so much, for example going into clothing stores and seeing mens and women’s sections can be very disheartening.

There is a big fear of going into places when you don’t exactly look a certain way, they said “The joy I felt when I went going into a gender neutral bathroom for the first time was so great, even though it was a small thing…It’s very easy to not put a label on things, but people never seem to do it.” The fear is something they wish would be represented more. People judge others based on looks so when you go out it’s a constant worry of how others are going to perceive you.

On a different note, they want to see more of the questioning phase and especially that part when they realize that they aren’t exactly who society thought they should be.

What I would like to see more of

I encourage you to try and put an unlabeled character in your story. Give them a personality, show the reader the struggles that they go through. Explain in your story how unlabeled characters work and that they are valid. I’ve never read a book with someone identifying as unlabeled and I would love to see it. Expanding, it would be really nice to see characters who are actually unlabeled and not just confused about their sexuality. It’s perfectly acceptable to be questioning, but a character who doesn’t want labels would be like a fresh sip of water.

We want to see unlabeled characters who aren’t just there to tick a box. They have an actual plot line and personality and being unlabeled isn’t just the only thing they have (this also applies to a lot of people in the LGBTQ+ community.

Too long didn’t read?

Love is love and that applies x10 to unlabeled individuals. The main thing people have against unlabeled individuals is that they aren’t a part of the LGBTQ+ community which absolutely is not true.

I sincerely hope you read through this and educated yourself. If you did you have my utmost respect.