ok hereās something that really bothers me:
iām researching autism bc itās been suggested that i may be autistic. at first, i didnāt think i struggled with social cues. i THINK i generally understand when people are upset, but i need hyper specific and complex examples to know for sure. but iām finding one of two things out:
1. there are no examples. none. everyone says āi miss social cuesā and thatās it. nothing else. how do i know what i miss if i donāt know what i might be missing??
2. the examples are extraordinary basic and exaggerated. like someone making a cartoonishly angry face and being like āwhats this emotion??ā itās fucking anger.
or the mysterious number 3! (specifically regarding the emotion in the eyes test) giving a vague expression and then four possible answers. well if you GIVE me the answer, i can probably figure it out based on process of elimination at the very least.
that being said, i understand others may struggle to recognize what #2 and #3 talks about, and thatās valid! iām speaking in regards to my personal understanding and frustrations.
anyway tldr: i need hyper specific and real life examples of missing social cues but the ones i find are cartoonishly exaggerated and idk if i actually struggle with them or not