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A month of learning spirit-work and ancestor veneration.

Let’s go through my order history!

These are my favorite shorts that I own. I typically wear a size 2-4 in US women’s sizes but I’ve talked about Korea’s beauty standards before. These come in one size and they do fit almost too perfectly. I would have liked if they were a little looser but I’m also not super flat back there so keep that in mind.

This skirt is very cute. However, I ordered it in a M and I wish that I had gone a size up. I know it’s a mini skirt so maybe I’m just not used to mini skirts but it is a little shorter and tighter than I’m usually comfortable with.

I saw a lot of women in kdramas wearing earrings like this so I bought some and I love them. They’re very pretty and dainty and add something extra to an otherwise plain outfit. I also got these and these.

Ok so this dress is my favorite dress I’ve gotten from YesStyle. I got it in the tan/brown version (the short one) and it’s so pretty. It’s a nice every day dress that looks good with converse, sandals, and boots. I took a chance and ordered it in my actual size (S) and it fits perfectly so this dress does seem to have accurate American sizing.

I love this jacket. I was trying to step outside of my comfort zone and got it in the brick red. I lowkey wish I got the tan instead because I actually thought the brick red was brown and it’s not as brown as I imagined but it has grown on me.

This is a great dress that can be dressed up for work and worn for every day use. I got a lot of compliments on it whenever I wore it to work. I ordered it in the brown and I loved it, but my tastes changed since I bought it and I eventually donated it to goodwill but I 100% recommend it. As you can see, it can also be worn like a casual jacket.

This shirt is so pretty! I ordered it in black and I plan on getting the pink one too. I was worried about my boobs so I ordered a M but I think a small would’ve been just as fine. It’s completely sheer so a shirt will need to be worn underneath it. It’s great for being dressed up or down.

This is my favorite shirt that I’ve gotten from YesStyle. Once again, because of my boobs I ordered a M and it fits perfectly. I’ve gotten a lot of compliments on it and it gives off a vintage/romantic vibe.

Ok so I liked both of these pants, but they were a little too tight and a little too short for me. I’ve stated my size up above and I ordered both of these in a medium (because I’m aware of Korea’s beauty standards) and I wish that I had ordered them a size larger. Do with that information what you will, but outside of that they would’ve been great.

I just got this one in the mail and I love it. It’s one size and it is a little shorter than I wanted (I was hoping to wear it to work 😔) but it’s a perfect dress outside of that.

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Save 10% of each check and put it into your savings. Living paycheck to paycheck will never keep you ahead of the game.

If you’re undecided about a career, pickup a trade or work your way up the ladder at your job. Do not continue to work in the same position for more than 2-3 years.

Seek therapy for your issues instead of self medicating with casual sex or drugs, venting to your friends constantly, becoming antisocial or co-dependant on someone. It’s not healthy.

If you’re not receiving the same energy you put into a friendship or relationship, leave. You are not a doormat.

Books to Manifest Prosperity, Confidence, and Wealthy Men (Part Two)

Law of Attraction, Manifestation, Wealth, and General Self-Improvement

♥ Anatomy of the Spirit: The Seven Stages of Power and Healing

♥ As a Man Thinketh: 21st Century Edition (audio)

♥ Courage to Change: One Day at a Time

♥ Creative Visualization: Use the Power of Your Imagination to Create What You Want in Your Life

♥ Dave Ramsey’s Complete Guide to Money: The Handbook of Financial Peace University

♥ Dominating Money: Tapping into Gods Supernatural Economy

♥ Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff and It’s All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life (audio)

♥ Driven by Eternity: Make Your Life Count Today and Forever

♥ Ego and Self: The Old Testament Prophets from Isaiah to Malachi

♥ Emotional Intelligence 2.0

♥ Focus: A simplicity Manifesto in the Age of Distraction (pdf)

♥ Fun Is Good: How to Create Joy and Passion in your Workplace and Career

♥ God is My Source

♥ God Never Blinks: 50 Lessons for Life’s Little Detours

♥ Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance

♥ How Successful People Think: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life (audio)

♥ Man’s Search for Meaning (audio)

♥ MONEY Master the Game: 7 Simple Steps to Financial Freedom

♥ Positive Thinking Every Day: An Inspiration for Each Day of the Year

♥ Rich Woman: A Book on Investing for Women, Take Charge of Your Money, Take Charge of Your Life

♥ Start With Why (audio)

♥ Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient

♥ Super Rich: A Guide to Having It All

♥ Targets with Absolute Confidence and Certainty

♥ The 4-Hour Workweek (audio)

♥ The 80/20 Principle (Third Edition): The Secret to Achieving More with Less

♥  The Aladdin Factor (audio)

♥ The Alchemist (audio)

♥ The Art Of War (audio)

♥ The Compound Effect: Jumpstart Your Income, Your Life, Your Success (audio)

♥ The Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel Your Life, Work, and Team with Positive Energy

♥ The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

♥ The Fred Factor: How Passion in Your Work and Life Can Turn the Ordinary into the Extraordinary

♥ The Magic of Thinking Big (audio)

♥ The Millionaire Next Door

♥ The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results

♥ The Path to Success Is Paved with Positive Thinking

♥ The Power of Broke: How Empty Pockets, a Tight Budget, and a Hunger for Success Can Become Your Greatest Competitive Advantage

♥ The Power of Focus (Tenth Anniversary Edition)

♥ The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

♥ The Procrastination Equation: How to Stop Putting Things Off and Start Getting Stuff Done

♥ The Richest Man in Babylon

♥ The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams (audio)

♥ The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

♥ The Success Principles (10th Anniversary Edition): How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

♥ The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference

♥ The Ultimate Credit Repair Guide to Having Luxurious Credit

♥ The Wealth Choice: Success Secrets of Black Millionaires

♥ The Wealth of My Mother’s Wisdom: The Lessons That Made My Life Rich

♥ Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts – Becoming the Person You Want to Be

♥ Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma

♥ What Keeps Me Standing: Letters from Black Grandmothers on Peace, Hope and Inspiration

♥ Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength

♥ Write It Down Make It Happen: Knowing What You Want and Getting It

♥ Your Best Life Now: 7 Steps to Living at Your Full Potential

♥ Your Best Year Ever: A 5-Step Plan for Achieving Your Most Important Goals

♥ Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More

  Confidence, Seduction, Style, Etiquette, and Psychology of People

 ♥ 4,000 Questions for Getting to Know Anyone and Everyone

♥ A Guide to Elegance: For Every Woman Who Wants to Be Well and Properly Dressed on All Occasions

♥ Emily Post’s Etiquette (19th Edition): Manners for Today

♥ Finishing Touches: A Guide to Being Poised, Polished, and Beautifully Prepared for Life

♥ Goodbye to Shy: 85 Shybusters That Work!

♥ How the Mighty Fall: And Why Some Companies Never Give In

♥ How To Be Chic And Elegant: Tips From A French Woman

♥ How to Speak Like a Pro

♥ How To Win Friends and Influence People (audio)

♥ Lessons from Madame Chic: 20 Stylish Secrets I Learned While Living in Paris

♥ Mastery

♥ Men Are Like Waffles – Women Are Like Spaghetti Devotional Study Guide

♥ Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time

♥ Own the Room: Discover Your Signature Voice to Master Your Leadership Presence

♥ Pitch Perfect: How to Say It Right the First Time, Every Time

♥ The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You (audio)

♥ The 33 Strategies of War (audio)

♥ The Art of War for Women: Sun Tzu’s Ancient Strategies and Wisdom for Winning at Work

♥ The Bombshell Manual of Style

♥ The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism

♥ The Definitive Book of Body Language: The Hidden Meaning Behind People’s Gestures and Expressions

♥ The Gift of Fear

♥ The Greatest Salesman in the World (audio)

♥ The Little Dictionary of Fashion: A Guide to Dress Sense for Every Woman

♥ The Power of Who: You Already Know Everyone You Need to Know

♥ The Sensuous Woman

♥ The Wisdom of Psychopaths: What Saints, Spies, and Serial Killers Can Teach Us About Success

♥ Three Steps to Yes: The Gentle Art of Getting Your Way

♥ What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-Reading People

♥ Worldwide Gestures: A Traveller’s Introduction to Common International Gestures & Symbols

  Sugaring, Relationships, Love and Marrying Wealthy

 ♥ A GOAL Digger’s Guide: How to Get What You Want Without Giving It Up

♥ Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate

♥ Being a Woman: Fulfilling Your Femininity and Finding Love

♥ Getting to ‘I Do’: The Secret to Doing Relationships Right!

♥ Have Him at Hello: Confessions from 1,000 Guys About What Makes Them Fall in Love … Or Never Call Back

♥ How To Date Like a Courtesan: Attract, Seduce, and Manipulate Men for Love, Money, and Marriage

♥ How to Marry the Man of Your Choice

♥ How to Meet the Rich: For Business, Friendship, or Romance

♥ Lucrative Love: An Insider’s Secrets to Marrying Millions!

♥ Marry by Choice, Not by Chance: Advice for Finding the Right One at the Right Time

♥ Mars and Venus in Love: Inspiring and Heartfelt Stories of Relationships

♥ Mars and Venus in the Bedroom: Guide to Lasting Romance and Passion

♥ Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship

♥ Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: Practical Guide for Improving Communication

♥ Pussy Power: How to Keep Him and YOU Happy

♥ Sex and the Single Girl

♥ Shanghai Girls: Uncensored & Unsentimental

♥ Simply Irresistible: Unleash Your Inner Siren and Mesmerize Any Man, with Help from the Most Famous – and Infamous – Women

♥ The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

♥ The Power of a Praying Wife

♥ The Seduction Mystique

♥ The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce & Keep the Man You Want

♥ Trophy Man: The Surprising Secrets of Black Women Who Marry Well

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Summary: 

A high-value woman knows her way around men, regardless of whether or not she’s good looking. 

High-value women repel bad men, or men who won’t bring anything to the table in a relationship.

Men are repelled by the ‘nice girl’ or ‘good girl’ because:

She’s looking for the one, and she thinks she’s found him in her new partner.

She’s led by the belief to accept less than exemplary behavior in hopes that he will one day change (not happening).

She tries to impress him, often overcompensating by being overly nice and appeasing, driven by the belief that she’s not worth enough. It should be the other way around.

Your actions define how valuable you are.

Never seek a man’s approval.

Never let a man call all the shots.

The high-value woman doesn’t play games. She considers herself to be a prize, one he needs to chase after.

High value women have more important things to do than to chase after a man, regardless of whether it’s mundane or not.

Mental fucking:

Two important rules to remember: 

Never share your body with him too soon. You will fall in love too hard, and way too soon.

Mentally fuck him as soon as you can: creating a challenge will force him to look past your looks.

First impressions are critical towards cultivating the impression of high value.

If you want him to treat you like a queen, act like a queen right out of the gate.

How to mentally fuck a guy:

Decide what you feel are just feelings, which come and go, rather than falling head over heels for him.

Want a relationship, but not just any relationship. Be happy to stay single for as long as necessary.

Neediness comes from natural instincts.

You never need a man or a relationship.

She consciously wonders, “Is this the best guy to give my time to?”

“If this guy never changed, would I really want to be with him ten or twenty years from now?”

She knows she doesn’t need her looks to get a great guy.

Setting the rules:

After the first date, she doesn’t reach out. She’s busy with her life.

She’ll see when and if she contacts her again. She isn’t willing to spend time on a guy who isn’t putting in the work she deserves.

She never behaves like a bitch. Instead, she has a take it or leave it mentality.

The first couple weeks of interaction set the stage.

Whatever is set is difficult to change later. Create the right habits as soon as you can.

For ambitious men who want success, they work for what they want:

That’s why high-value women are so attractive. Her standards are not an act. It is the only acceptable way.

Three most important traits:

She’s a queen, and she has a lot of self-respect, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

He is not the center of her life.

She never, ever pursues him. If he seems to lose interest, she withdraws. She has better things to do. 

Managing men:

Is he playing games?

When he says he’ll call and doesn’t - this places the ball in his court.

Right way to respond: don’t care. Don’t even become fazed when he steps back. 

You can find a guy who cares and does better.

Creating distance by disappearing.

Right way to respond: Put energy into your passions, interests, and other men you start dating.

Men who are not sufficiently interested will disappear.

Claiming he’s not ready for a relationship: a phrase used to create space and lead women on.

Right way to respond: Say, “Take all the time you need. I’m not sure about you either.” 

Respond with low investment by even lower investment. 

Never consider him nor the relationship as important as he does. 

Counter-intuitive way of getting him to do what you want: 

Give him the feeling it was his own decision. If he comes to the conclusion, he will stand by it.

Reinforce good behavior. Ignore him when he shows bad behavior. Consider him less important.

Ignore him when he doesn’t add value to your life to train him. 

If you want a man to do something, ask another man to help you, or tell him you’ll take care of it.

Men are governed by their own egos.

The more you need him, the less he will want you. The more you want him, the more he will need you.

Don’t show him you need him. Have extra activities, so he won’t become the center of your life.

Work on your mental strength. The more you try not to lose him because you need him, the higher the probability he will eventually leave.

Ideal praise to criticism ratio in relationships is 5 to 1.

Avoid getting played:

High-value women are in short supply. Make men earn your attention.

Your emotions are never to be trusted.

Establish a strong set of boundaries. 

Self-respect is #1. 

Men always treat you the way you allow to. They cannot respect a woman more than she respects herself. 

When his attention declines: do the same and withdraw.

Online Dating:

Do you get many views, messages etc but not real dates? Ask yourself:

When was the last time you actually offered to move it to a phone conversation?

When did you last tell him what you were looking to have happen? 

When you talk to your prospective SD’s: are you actually leading them in a direction?

Sugar Dating requires more effort on the female side, because of higher competition!

1. POT-Date: How to start out:

As a man with money, it might be more natural for him to mistrust others. That’s why it’s not always the wisest decision to bring up financials right away.

Instead, let him get comfortable with who you are. Show him that you’re listening to his needs, and be attentive to his conversations.

Let him build up a desire and passion to be with you and know more before he finds out the price of bliss.

Express an interest in what he finds interesting, and you’ll soon start to see a more trusting POT.

Only once you’ve reached this stage should you begin to talk about financials

Even if he brings it up you may want to ask him to hold off on that for a bit as you are mostly interested in learning more about him and are you two compatible.

Then before this date or conversation is over go back to the topic of finance and you find your sugar daddy eating out of your hand.

Say to him that you like how much of a Gentleman he is. By putting him in the Gentleman category right away he can’t rush into having sex with you or being pushy for it because he hast to live up to your ideal of him!

Use the most powerful weapon you own: Your smile!

Sugar daddies love being around happy and positive women – so smile and show your appreciation for life! 

Ever noticed that people tend to gravitate around those who are happy and positive? The same works with sugar babies and sugar daddies. 

The most successful sugar babies are those who always have a smile on their face and are ready to laugh.

A smile can make you seem like the coolest and most confident woman in the room, no matter what situation you find yourself in. 

From scary job interviews to first dates, a smile can turn any potentially awkward or nerve-wracking scenario into a fun and friendly affair. 

It’s easy to forget that behind every powerful and wealthy sugar daddy is a regular man who’s nervous about making a good first impression on you. After all, you’re a gorgeous, smart and funny woman – and that combination can reduce any man into a bundle of nerves. 

Studies have shown that when we don’t smile, our peers assume that we’re unfriendly or uncomfortable with our surroundings. 

In the sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship, having a constant frown on your face can make your sugar daddy feel as though you’d rather be anywhere but there. 

Just the simple act of smiling can make all of the difference in making your sugar daddy feel warm, comfortable and accepted. 

Also add some warm occasional eye contact as you are flashing that million dollar smile. 

Seduction Techniques to get him hooked:

It’s not the Sugar Daddy that determines what you will get, but the things you do to maintain his interest 

Seduction isn’t making someone do something they don’t want to do. Seduction is enticing someone into doing something they secretly want to do already

We all want to be seduced. We all yearn for someone who will draw our secret desires and passions out of ourselves 

Here’s a killer tip that should only be used on occasion: don’t be shy about getting noticed by other men. Once you’ve got the attention of a couple of men, make it extremely evident that you’re with your sugar daddy. He’ll love feeling like you’re a wanted woman that is only there for him!

Next time you’re out on a date with him, go up to the bar and mildly flirt with the bartender while you order drinks. Then come back to your sugar daddy. He’ll be so proud that such a gorgeous and intelligent woman only has eyes for him! 

When it comes to attracting and keeping top-quality sugar daddies, never underestimate the power of your words! 

Men love sugar babies with a zest for life – and if you mention that you find things in your life “exciting”, “amazing” and “fantastic”, he’ll be instantly drawn to your positivity and enthusiasm for living. 

On the other hand, it doesn’t hurt to reveal your sensual side to your sugar daddy. Turn on the flirt and use power keywords like “tempting”, “sensuous” and “revealing” to make his mind wander. 

Wealthy and powerful men are extremely attracted to women who have their own thing going on, so if you’re an ambitious lady, flaunt it! 

Talk about what you want from your future, and we guarantee he won’t get enough of you! 

Get your hands involved in your conversation! By continually touching his arm and placing your hand on his, you’re essentially saying that you find him incredibly irresistible 

And whatever you do, carry yourself with a grace and elegance that he’ll be craving long after your date is over. 

Find the void in his life

The fact that he’s seeking out a sugar baby means that he’s lacking something crucial in his personal life: an emotional connection with an intelligent, personable and beautiful woman. 

The ultimate way to seduce him is to fill a void in his life. 

find a void that’s missing in his life, and determine how you can fulfill that void.

For example, if he often complains that he can’t find anyone who shares his passion of history, this is a clue that he’s revealing more information about his emotional and mental voids

Your entire success depends on understanding what he’s missing. Study your Sugar Daddy thoroughly. By filling a Void in your Sugar Daddy’s life, your maneuvers will seem more natural. 

As soon as you understand what your sugar daddy is looking for from the relationship, you can parlay that information into a mutually beneficial sugar daddy/sugar baby connection. So don’t rely on your wardrobe and make-up tricks to make your sugar daddy feel like he’s the king of your world… 

If you have an absolute workaholic, who loves working late, and weekends are just extra days that could be spent on take-home work, what is missing in his life is a companion who’s understanding of his lifestyle, and who’s be ready and waiting when he wants to have some fun.

The New Money sugar daddy is likely looking for a flashy sugar baby who’s good in bed.

If he’s a retired businessman, most of the people in his peer group are only thinking about what their health condition is, what medication they are on and their golf swing. 

They passed the point of creativity, ambition and wanting to accomplish things in life, and are only seeking a comfort zone.

One of the things he gets from you is the ability for him to think and feel young.

He gets pleasure out of you being creative about your business endeavors

The Relationship with your SD - What is it about?

Believe me, it has very little to do with sex. After all, if your sugar daddy was just after sex, wouldn’t it have made more sense to hire an escort than pursue a sugar baby? 

In fact, when sugar daddies are asked what their prime motives are for pursuing relationships with sugar babies, they all say the same thing: It’s about the emotional connection.

And that’s what makes you so important to your sugar Daddy. He values an emotional connection over sex. He can hire an escort for sex – but he can’t pay for the chemistry, conversation and connection that only happens with his sugar baby. 

Your sugar daddy may be an important man, but this doesn’t mean that he’s not lonely. Perhaps the spark has fizzled out of his marriage, or he doesn’t have enough time to develop a meaningful social life. 

You are his emotional connection in a world of business contacts and old lovers.

How to spot a Fake SD

If a “sugar daddy” is eager to be intimate right away, chances are that he’s looking for an escort, not a sugar baby. Sugar daddies value the emotional connection to their sugar babies over sex, so don’t let a man pressure you to jump into bed.

You know how important it is to talk to any sugar daddy about your financial expectations – so if you suspect that a potential daddy is bluffing, ask him how much he expects to spend on you.

If he stammers or tries to avoid the conversation, call his bluff. Real sugar daddies won’t be afraid to talk money with you – but fake sugar daddies sure will be!

Don’t give in to his sexual demands too quickly. Yes, sex is a part of the sugar daddy relationship – but that doesn’t mean that you need to give into his physical urges right away.