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personally, i think something the femininity discourse is missing is that some things considered feminine aren't inherently oppressive, they're only sneered at because women do them. for example, teaching and nursing are incredibly important professions crucial to society's basic functioning but because they're associated with women (feminine) people don't respect them. in the early days of computing, many programmers were women (including the very first computer programmer Ada Lovelace and the female programmers who worked on the calculations for the first moon landing).

Remembering that time I started screaming in the car bc I was reading an article about an interview with Paris Paloma about her song, Labour

reblogging this again to say that this literally happened to dworkin herself. her deadbeat useless Nigel let her books go out of print the second she died because he’s a faithless piece of shit. I’ve said this in other posts of mine before, but every het-partnered woman before you who was abused/assaulted/bred to death/murdered by her parasitic excuse for a spouse thought she was picking a good/safe/nice one, too. Every. Single. One. what makes you different from her? Do you think you’re smarter than she was? Do you think you’re better than she was? Do you think she was stupid or that she didn’t love him enough? Is your reasoning #NotAllMen? Women do not need scrotes for any reason and it is misogyny to insist that any woman needs a moid. men have proven over and over again that they do not see us as people. They see us as automatons at best, live-in NPCs whose entire lives center around them and their whims. We know that they are willing to lie, cheat, trick, steal, and pull every stunt in the book to entrap women in their lives, whether financially or through reproduction or socially or mentally/emotionally or some combination of all of the above. They’ve told us themselves on every internet forum where they can hide behind a screen. The saying, “Give a man a mask and he will show you who he truly is,” comes to mind. He will tell you whatever you want to hear to get what he wants. They intentionally entrap women with them before they show their true colors. So, let me ask you again:

Resources on the Affects of Porn

Intimacy and love are basic human desires…that men have been pretty happy to mainly go without for millenia. You can’t love someone you oppress or are scared of/intimidate or disgusted by. Men have been content with infatuation, domination and servitude in the place of meaningful love and respect. Even when men want to love women they are almost invariably confronted by their patriarchal disgust and fear of them, especially if they become/are mothers. Many men have realised this but ultimately prefer having control.

I don’t take the men in my life seriously at all anymore. I have learned not to even engage with them about any serious topic. If they bring up something, I brush it off asap.

When I was in domestic abuse support groups over on Facebook I quickly noticed that there were a lot of abusive men in it. They claimed to be victims of course. In fact they were convinced to be. They had read up on "narcissistic abuse" and truly believed that their partner or ex was one. In the group I'd see a daily flood of women describing the most horrid shit and the trauma inflicted on them. But men's most common complaint was that their wives had been "withholding sex" which really is a form of abuse they said. Another way these men suffered from domestic abuse was through being dumped. They described a woman leaving them as a form of abuse. So two of the most common ways men are abused are... by women exercising their own free will. Obviously when men describe abuse in such a way you know they are abusive. For example, the complaints about "withholding sex" as abusive are admissions of attempted rapes through coercion and guilt tripping.

“. . . [W]hatever sartorial devices men have put on to bolster their body image—codpieces, elevated shoes, padded shoulders, a boxy jacket—these did not constrict or cause pain. The truth is, men have barely tampered with their bodies at all, historically, to make themselves more appealing to women. The development of biceps and pectorals is an honorable byproduct of hard physical labor and an aid to competitive feats of sport and strength. Musclebound body builders, the man in the elevated shoe or the baldy who wears a toupee have been grist for the jokester's mill, under the masculine theory that real men do not trick themselves out to be pleasing. (They have better ways to prove their worth.) A woman, on the other hand, is expected to depend on tricks and suffering to prove her feminine nature, for beauty, as men have defined it for women, is an end in itself.”