Stuff and Things

this too shall pass but the fuck was that for

to be seen without performing. to be heard without screaming. to be missed without disappearing. to be enough without proving it. to be held without falling apart. to be understood without explaining. to be wanted without conditions. to be. to be.

please don’t spend your life convincing yourself that love or joy is reserved for the idealized version of you that only exists in the future

I want romance. I want laughter. I want the 3am love making. I want consistency. I want loyalty. I want the random looks of admiration. I want to know you're just for me. I want date nights and flowers. I want truth. I want priority. I want love that's pure and calming.

this

you guys dont understand how much bad reviews by sabrina carpenter is a kantbison song. like it’s stick actually

I feel like this is the kind of thing you only reblog if you have an aesthetic blog, which I do not, but goddammit I just love it when the moon lines up with stuff

the secret to life is always having something to look forward to

to anyone saying there's nothing to look forward to, I'm not saying it has to be anything spectacular or huge. it could just be a song or a book that will release in a few days, a tv show, anything!! no matter how small it seems it can keep us going

i’ve started replacing “i want to die” with “i feel overwhelmed” in my internal monologue, which is usually more accurate and more productive

ive been working on replacing ‘im so stupid’ with ‘im so silly’ and it has the same effect!

My revolutionary phrase has been “I am not having fun right now.” Because instead of exaggerating/catastrophizing, I usually go in the opposite direction: every time I think “I can’t take this,” the logician in my brain reminds me that *technically* I can, and so it’s not a problem. I’m capable of withstanding a hell of a lot, so waiting until I hit “I actually literally cannot take this for one more single second” is generally not the best idea. But reframing to “I am not having fun with this” has let me modify or straight up quit uncomfortable things much sooner, because it doesn’t have to be that bad for me to acknowledge that I’m not having fun anymore, and once I acknowledge that it’s easier to give myself permission to make a change!